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FlirtFinder - 20 Jan, 2025 - 09:47PM

I think it's down to the connection between the two people involved. If you're going to have a nice time on the first date and it ends with a kiss or two, it might be good for both to consider something more intimate on the second date. I agree with what other people say: it's about both being comfortable with each other. So the simple answer is: it could be fast or slow.

MoralCompass101 - 20 Jan, 2025 - 09:12PM

I think about 15 to 20 minutes is reasonable……🤔

1742822 - 20 Jan, 2025 - 07:55PM

If you have spent a good amount time chatting on here and when you the chemistry is there, then why not! However, it is important to ensure that it is “there” for both parties!

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MadameDeMaintenon - 20 Jan, 2025 - 07:42PM

I never get into bed with someone on a first meeting. I think I’m a little hesitant with my old fashioned mistress glasses on, but also because I’m aware that seeking an affair leaves me much more vulnerable in regards to my own safety…

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1730254 - 20 Jan, 2025 - 02:22PM

About 45 seconds. Longer if the Travelodge receptionist can’t find the key…

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marklondonengland - 20 Jan, 2025 - 11:17AM

@Paula99 It's like Rocky Horror is moderating!

Tykeman1961 - 25 May, 2024 - 10:18AM

I’d just like to have a meet. Been chatting to some lovely ladies but that’s as far as I get….need some advice

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Paula99 - 04 May, 2024 - 12:26PM

The use of the 70.s expression ‘heavy petting ‘ reminds me of a sign I used to see in the swimming pools when I was younger
A complete list of ‘ dont dos’ …complete with drawings to indicate the above …( gives me the the ick) …but people respected the rules….I E should come with guidelines…might be better all round …😂

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Amandi1712 - 16 Apr, 2024 - 09:16PM

It depends in why you are together is for pure sex, is it for connection, is it to build a longer term thing.

The key is to not presume anything and go with the flow, communicate and build up trust. Just enjoy their company and if you connect then things will happen at their own pace. Key is not to push it, and take your time.

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midlife-pleasures - 14 Apr, 2024 - 12:35PM

Is there one fixed answer to this? I doubt it. One of the joys of meeting someone new can be the unpredictability, the anticipation of what may or may not happen.

Sometimes you may have been chatting for ages, building up the tension and you both know things will happen within minutes of meeting. Other times you may spend a few dates getting to know that person.

It’s all valid, and all fun…

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