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Babs willow - 06 Apr, 2024 - 09:53PM

Tell them what you want to do and ask them if they fancy it x

Pink Eiga - 06 Apr, 2024 - 02:07PM

You can meet anywhere you want to make things happen, depending on what you fancy happening! Common sense should prevail, but noone should dictate what should/shouldn’t happen between consenting adults.

Just choose well. Hopefully you both have 😊

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Delicious Chaos - 06 Apr, 2024 - 01:42PM

Nothing wrong going to a hotel for a first meet as they do have cafes and bars!

We’re all adults here if you both want to meet at a hotel for sex on a first date, why not if that’s what you are both wanting. Not my style tbh but each to their own, whatever works for you is fine, just don’t be pressurised into meeting somewhere you don’t feel comfy in

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EmnEm123 - 05 Apr, 2024 - 03:28PM

All judgemental cheats!

Hotels have bars and restaurants, so no need to go straight to a room.

Bit bored of the 'old hands' dishing out advice.

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Funtongue - 05 Apr, 2024 - 01:42PM

Really depends on where the conversation and connection have gone up to, in my opinion..

If you're both local to each other it makes sense to be cautious like Nina and other people suggested... bid your time, you even get to role play "secret agents" with a wing-woman 😆

But if you're past the point of getting to know each other... if it has gone to the stage where you both already shared a lot of intimacy (even at distance), reckon a nice rendezvous at a public place, like a cafe or even hotel bar, before hand would suffice if you feel like it...
have a nuce f2f chat, set some boundaries (if appropriate) and if both parties are still up to it then have a go at each other... you're both consenting adults...
This would make even more sense if you're not able to meet that often or if you're not local to each other...

But this is just an opinion.

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NinaOakley - 05 Apr, 2024 - 12:14PM

It’s possible to have absolutely fabulous sexual experiences by text/phone/video. That does not mean you know that person is safe or even attractive because it only engages at most two of your five senses.
First meeting is for making an assessment of how they smell, feel and probably taste. If you want to book a hotel room from the coffee shop go right ahead. I would also recommend having a fabulous wing-woman watching your location. When you get to the point where you are quite sure you are not going to end up chopped up into tiny pieces and scattered from Lands End to John O’ Groats, or are possibly in such a blissful daze you no longer care, you can always tell them to stand down!!

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YourRealAffair - 05 Apr, 2024 - 12:10PM

I would always say, have the first meet somewhere you feel safe. Just in case.
Men and women can misrepresent themselves on here ( to a greater or lesser degree). And even if they are nice and courteous, they may not be what you were hoping for.
If sparks fly there is always the next time!
When you are ready, search day use hotels, there are several booking sites available.

Friendlyshe - 05 Apr, 2024 - 11:04AM

Definitely a public place for your first meeting,, just for safety I would say . If there’s still that spark, then the hotel room will be worth waiting for 😊

MagicMouse321 - 05 Apr, 2024 - 10:37AM

Just go somewhere where you can cuddle up and snog a bit. Intimate comfy cafe's, pub garden or even a park bench. Just go somewhere a bit public, but not under a spot light!

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Enigma.. - 05 Apr, 2024 - 08:43AM

Ps…

I’d also be very aware (think alarm bells and red flags flying) of anyone on the threads giving you advice about hotel rooms.
I would so like to post what I think but admin probably wouldn’t allow the post to get onto the threads lol.
When needed, about hotel rooms… good advice.
But as a first date choice!?!🙄😱.