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Paula99 - 28 Feb, 2024 - 01:36PM

You can create a lifestyle where you lead separate lives and have separate hobbies then you don’t need to have a ‘go to’ friend for this …If your partner is used to you coming and going …knitting/bookclub or whatever 😁then there are no ‘excuses ‘ to be made..

It’s when you have a friend that you have just met and you start going out with her/him that gives the game away 😔

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Trustygent - 28 Feb, 2024 - 01:14PM

We have too many mutual friends, to easy to get caught out. And I work for my self. So no work colleagues to utilise.
It’s the reason I only meet daytime mon- Fri. I can pretend to be working
Downside it doesn’t suit a lot of people. But does take away some of the risk of name dropping someone

Paula99 - 27 Feb, 2024 - 05:09PM

Hope Springs 24..

I wrote a post about this a while ago and the only person you trust is the one in your head ..
Being friends is ok but your relationship needs to be like Fort Knox and sadly not many are ..
She shouldn’t have used you as an excuse as that puts you under pressure and in your case it was ‘shoot the messenger’ ..Your friend was in the wrong but remember never get involved and if anyone asks you to be their excuse say sorry but I would rather not …RESPECT TO YOU 😁

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Hope Springs 24 - 27 Feb, 2024 - 04:12PM

I had a very close friend who was using me as the excuse for when she was seing her real life affair. When her husband found out recently she chose "total transparency" and confessed all including using me as an excuse. Suddenly her husband wanted to "talk" while we waited to pick up our kids from school. I had to strongly express that I didn't want dragging into their marital drama.

Now of course I don't get to see my friend, her husband doesn't want her being friends with me and she feels too guilty about what she's done to object. She basically threw our friendship under the bus. Her guilt has made her accept that part of her punishment is loosing me. I guess my punishment from her surly husband is that I loose her...

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catnip86 - 26 Feb, 2024 - 09:23PM

I don't lie to my partner, does that count?

ClassyLady77 - 26 Feb, 2024 - 09:10PM

This is why I don’t do evening meets.. 😉

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WineAndOlives - 26 Feb, 2024 - 08:38PM

I chose " going to the gym " ruse.. although I have had to work hard when I do go to the gym, so they see the change 😅

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Thinkingwomanshunk - 26 Feb, 2024 - 04:41PM

Best thing is to start a new hobby your partner is not into.
E.g. Astrophotography, requires you to be out all night in a cold field in the middle of nowhere.
When you don't have any photos, you can blame cloud cover.

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1644733 - 26 Feb, 2024 - 04:27PM

Get real, any partner will be suspicious if you are suddenly disappearing to meet a new bestie regularly! 🤷‍♂️

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Purple dreamer - 26 Feb, 2024 - 02:31PM

🤣 Think we all have that friend

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