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Paula99 - 21 Jan, 2024 - 01:37PM

giggly hamster…

I agree with your post in parts …but you can’t be friends with everyone and some don’t want to be friends..

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giggly hamster - 21 Jan, 2024 - 01:14PM

As for the original question, we can assume that you’ve spent a couple of nights together, you like each other enough to know that you could make this work and the question has been asked. You’ve formed two friendships and now you’re asking whether to just cut one off.

For me, if I’ve got that far, why would I not want to keep in touch with that person Friendship is friendship, transcendent far beyond any lust or passion - should they wish it of course.

There will be a disappointment involved, and we all know the hard way that if you said yes, then you cannot say it hurts.

Pink Eiga - 21 Jan, 2024 - 12:11PM

Agree with Paula99.

Moral of the story is that if you think you might like someone, and the feeling is mutual, focus on them to see where it can lead, not hedge your bets elsewhere so early in the game. It is really obvious when someone is distracted 😊

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Paula99 - 21 Jan, 2024 - 10:55AM

HS…

Women don’t like being the ‘second choice ‘ either …for those guys that have ‘too many options’ and decide that they prefer another woman over yourself and it doesn’t work out for them( which is 90 percent true) and strangely enough most women can see it happening before the guys 😂..this is where you get your undead 🧟‍♂️ returning with their tail between their legs….SLOPPY SECONDS 😖

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1586130 - 21 Jan, 2024 - 10:09AM

@giggly hamster.

One of the ways I have changed my attitude to IE is not to come running when it's obvious that a woman's first choice didn't pan out. If you start off as a second choice then it's only a matter of time before you get relegated.

Life is a beach - 20 Jan, 2024 - 11:35PM

Have you met these two? Or, are you speaking to them?
I do respond to people who write to me. I was seeing someone and made it clear to people who wrote to me.
Funnily enough that is how I met my now IE, nice conversation with him, told him I was with someone, he respected that. Things changed and then we met! I am so glad I did reply to him in the first place.
Yes, now, I am exclusive to him

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giggly hamster - 19 Jan, 2024 - 05:43PM

Well said Matt.

I'm going to go out on a limb and say on any site women will have the luxury of picking one card at a time and seeing if it comes good - that bloke that was hanging three weeks or a month ago will always come running if you whistle for him.

As a man on here very few have that luxury due to weight of numbers and law of averages. As you say Matt, you message a coupe of dozen women, half a dozen might reply, and maybe a few more might "view your profile" . of that half dozen maybe two wiill speak the rest will be "sorry, seeing someone"

Of those two you might get a bone thrown your way but it;s still 5050 as to whether they want to take it further.

Not a problem at all on the face of it, but unlike the ladies the subscription renewal meter is always running for the boys.

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1553313 - 19 Jan, 2024 - 02:22PM

Once you meet and have decided to take things further that’s the time to go exclusive

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FluffyClouds - 19 Jan, 2024 - 01:53PM

If you're only speaking to them and have not met them, then where's the issue? They're just conversations until that point.

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M1ssblond1e - 19 Jan, 2024 - 01:51PM

Well it depends whether you can juggle 3 women. Seeing as Ithis type of sight is what It is I assume you have a women at home. So it's really down to "I'f you can manage"