Comments (107)

Robert24 - 18 Apr, 2024 - 11:19PM

I am just waiting to find out, being straight with each other must be a good start.

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marklondonengland - 17 Apr, 2024 - 06:33PM

Tell him to think of England as you get started...

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Prof Sarah Beauchamp - 17 Apr, 2024 - 09:25AM

My long term affair finished due to something out of both our hands, very sad, but we finished on a nice note. We had fun, we laughed, we had lots in common and we made time for each other. We had ups and downs but talked through them. I never let him be more important than my real life. We had contact between meets, we had non sexual meets we even had nights away. We both loved our secret bubble. It would be nice to find that again but right now I am just ready for some fun and escapism and see what the future holds.

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Pink Eiga - 16 Apr, 2024 - 05:25PM

Friends first. Both parties actually liking each other as people.
Having each other’s back re. Discretion. Accepting your IE’s boundaries.
Giving each other space.
And personally for me, a creative and varied sexual repertoire so things don’t get boring.

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Amandi1712 - 16 Apr, 2024 - 03:56PM

Honesty, trust and discretion.
Sexual escapism and adventure.
Connection built on friendship and humour
Being and maintaining being fanciable, do not get in a rut.

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Somniata - 14 Apr, 2024 - 04:40PM

Compatibility obviously. If you are compatible, you will go a long way. And you have to want a long term affair from the get go. Some people here are quite honest about the fact that they are looking for a short term arrangement, so they will not put in any effort to sustain the relationship.
Trust and honesty, as ironic as it seems in the circumstances, are very important. You need to be honest with each other in order to ensure your relationship is safe for both parties.

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Paula99 - 14 Apr, 2024 - 03:56PM

Continued…

…instead of constantly looking for ‘something better’ to come along …😊

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Paula99 - 14 Apr, 2024 - 03:27PM

For the ‘ old hands’ as recently described unfortunately those that have enjoyed a LT affair will indeed notice the difference….the people have changed and circumstances are changing faster than before…people tend to want more for their money and they behave like they are entitled ..this means you are fishing in a small pool and are unlikely to find the person of your dreams and expectations are way too high..
10 years ago it was just as hard to find someone to have an affair but more were willing to put real effort into this…you entered into a relationship and you appreciated the other person family… you were careful to not get caught and you worked your affair around both families..you became friends and you honoured each other( strange statement…I know )… whatever baggage that came with the affair was accepted for what it was as we were emotionally balanced..we were also willing to go into an affair for the LT and cherished what we had found … instead of constantly looking for ‘someth

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Red Succubus - 14 Apr, 2024 - 01:12PM

Sallybay had it spot on, but times have changed and there really isn’t a lot of people on here that can honestly offer those things, also add into the mix decency. It’s not a hard ask but very difficult it seems!

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Sallybay - 17 Jun, 2020 - 12:21PM

I had a fabulous 10 year IE. Only ended due to personal circumstances.
Honesty
Trust
Having each other’s back and being very careful
Fun
Passion

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