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I'm single and not ready for a full time relationship. Why do people feel the need to judge me on here? I don't want to ruin anyone's marriage

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Radang - 16 May, 2020 - 07:06AM

There's lots on here that's aren't married, I'm in the same place as yourself, I'm not wanting to be in a full on relationship again, I'm happy as I am, but missing sex

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1117169 - 16 May, 2020 - 06:56AM

Because there are endless dating sites for single people and you don't have to be on this site, which is clearly specifically intended for attached people, to achieve what you want.

As long as you make your status clear that's fine in my opinion. Actually it can be a big advantage for a married man to date a single woman ( I assume you are a woman) as you have far more freedom to meet your man and obviously there is no husband or partner to complicate matters and cause trouble.

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1366769 - 16 May, 2020 - 06:34AM

Hi, I don’t know who is judging you. I can only give my opinion, and it’s not a judgment btw.
Perhaps people are feeling that because you are not in the same home situation that you will not understand fully what attached person need to do to be able to meet for example. Also you have only you to deal with so to speak, and going out of any time of the day or night is no biggie and you can arrange and rearrange anything at a short notice. Attached person can’t, no matter if he/she would want to maybe. And that put single vs married at a totally different starting point.
Imagine you chatted with someone and want to meet. It’s a lots of planning from attached side, and forward planning too, so you might feel like OMG this is becoming a relationship and you’ll run away.
My advice is just be straightforward at the start, what you want and once you click with someone, you have to plan in advance. Communication is something that you need to master, well both sides need to really . Xx

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Rupe1969 - 16 May, 2020 - 06:27AM

I don’t think it’s right for anyone to judge anyone else for being single and looking for something apart from a full time relationship, especially on this site , I think the name of the site might give it away.

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Yorkshirerugby - 16 May, 2020 - 04:47AM

I don't think people judge others becuse they are single on here do they?

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1262378 - 16 May, 2020 - 04:32AM

Easy, don't let them. How can someone judge you when they are also open to judgement.

We're here to make friends, not pull each other down. Some take the high stand, thinking they're better than some. Don't let someone else's inadequacies pull you down.

You know your worth, they don't

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MatureWorcsBBW - 16 May, 2020 - 03:40AM

We all judge although we're all very reluctant to admit it.
And if people on here don't understand what your motivation is for using this website, it's their problem, not yours. Honestly it is.
But their caution is understandable maybe.
We're all looking for someone who ticks our boxes. You'll find someone who feels that you tick theirs eventually.

There's no rush is there.
Good luck with your search.



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TotallyTalkingtome - 16 May, 2020 - 01:55AM

There is nothing wrong with being single and using IE.

However, the general understanding is that two people will be in similar domestic positions and therefore a single, separated or widowed IE might be viewed as wanting more from the relationship over time.

That said, there are plenty of people for whom a single IE does not present any problems and anyone who judge's you for being single should be an immediate red flag - there are plenty of people who won't.

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The13thdukeofwybourne - 16 May, 2020 - 12:07AM

Who do you think is judging you? None of us is innocent, it's a level playing field.

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