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Scott of the Antartic - 02 Apr, 2024 - 12:07AM

If you really like him and know him you might know his history. I had prostate cancer and was operated on. My surgeon gave me cialis and `I never looked back. Hard as a stone. It depends on how much you like this guy and how much you want to be his friend.

Northernguy84 - 31 Mar, 2024 - 09:11PM

To be honest, I think under the curcumstances, it's ok to just be open and honest and say "I've enjoyed meeting you, but this isn't quite right for me". The whole point of getting into this is not to feel emotionally stuck in a situation you aren't really satisfied in - you might as well just stay at home and stick it out!! I think most people on here would understand that? I would, anyway. Plus, I'd like to think if I had erection issues, I'd have mentioned it at some point before hitting the sack, and tried to talk about how to work around that ahead of time (or whether that would be a problem).
Physical side isn't always everything, is it, but in this scenario, I think it's pretty big...(unlike his knob, by the sounds of it...) :D

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Oldboy 74 - 31 Mar, 2024 - 01:36PM

That’s the most difficult thing to deal with at the start of any relationship. You can only make excuses that your circumstances have changed and it’s not him. Normally honesty is the best policy but in this case for no fault of either of you it’s best to play the villain. We are all adults and unfortunately on this site we could be confronted with the most personal problems that people may have and are wishing to overcome here.

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Life is a beach - 24 Mar, 2024 - 10:07PM

Well spotted Exotic Orchid!
It is indeed the female equivalent of the post about the padded woman. I guess she could be the person writing this post 😅.
On a serious note,she says that he was a good first date. It could be that he was nervous on his first time?
It is so shallow, it takes two to tango, if you really liked him to begin with, you should have given him one more chance, or are you only concentrating about someone pleasing you?
Perhaps this man deserves someone else, who not only wants to be pleasured, but can also give him some pleasure too.
Size doesn't matter, it is what you do with it!
If you don't want to hurt him, just leave him but don't tell him anything about his size or performance, he doesn't deserve to be hurt.
Some of you have mentioned the blue pill can keep them going. It is maybe worth a thought.

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TJJ89_fun - 24 Mar, 2024 - 09:12AM

I agree with a lot of what’s been said already, just be honest, tell him the reasons why you don’t want it to continue and then you can both continue to look for another IE. I’m sure that he will be understanding as he is likely on here to get something he doesn’t get at home too xx

Marlen - 23 Mar, 2024 - 10:01PM

The best policy, honesty, wrapped with some kindness. No one enjoys being reminded of their shortcomings (no pun intended).

Better to say thanks, but no thanks, it was just like home and you're looking for something different. A sane man would accept that and graciously move on. Some might ask for a rematch, to up their game. If you're certain it wouldn't work, tell him. If you do meet again...its in his court to wow you. Either way, you've been polite and possibly had a good time.

Johnson65 - 22 Mar, 2024 - 07:19PM

We're not all performing seals - maybe the next time he may be more relaxed and 'grow' in confidence. Sometimes things just happen and for no obvious reason - it's even happened to me ;-). Give it another try then see how things go. If you're still not satisfied, just tell him you don't feel comfortable with him and wish him luck wit his next partner.

Paula99 - 22 Mar, 2024 - 01:20PM

Experience indicates that guys do tend to suffer from performance anxiety the first time but with a little tlc you can ‘help out ‘ …if you approach it in an adult manner and make him feel like he is worth a second chance then you could end up with a great lover …

All kinds of issues can cause erectile problem's like work stress/ tiredness.. and more often than not it’s only temporary…

Not all women are looking for a nine inch bed snake…as long as you get the ‘right’ reaction….suck it and see🤪

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InspiredBy - 22 Mar, 2024 - 12:24AM

Just tell him that you didn't feel a sexual connection before or after and that you slept with him because of his personality and what a great man he is. I mean, praise him before the exit and this way you won't hurt him as much. At least he can then exit with the... head looking up (the one with the brain).

1633195 - 21 Mar, 2024 - 11:21PM

Just be honest with him and tell him it didn’t work for you.

I don’t mean to be hurtful here, so please don’t take this the wrong way, here is an alternative view:

You never know, he may be relieved to be off the hook, after all, it was him who had trouble getting it up maybe he felt the same way and his tool really did the talking…

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