Advice please Gents!
I have met a great man on here, we clicked right away, fancied each other instantly and got on well. First date was amazing and the kissing even better! However, once we've moved to the hotel date, I soon realised that he had some erection issues and was rather on the smaller side. He did work hard to satisfy me and overall it wasn't catastrophic, but I feel that this is very limited for my appetite. I believe that an affair should be everything you can't have at home. I definitely can't settle, but would like to exit without hurting his feelings or ghosting or giving a bs excuse. My question is mainly to men... what is the best way to deal with this?
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Cervinu1970 - 20 Mar, 2024 - 11:52AM
No best way . Just tell him you do not want to see him anymore. Leave it at that. It is truth without you having to make something up that will not destroy him
Beckysharp - 20 Mar, 2024 - 10:23AM
Assume that his erection issues are due to you removing your wonder bra, and suddenly he’s no longer interested 😂
BAMO
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capitalguy3 - 24 Jan, 2024 - 06:45AM
Just say you’ve decided to work on your marriage without distractions and end it.
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Paula99 - 24 Jan, 2024 - 05:35AM
I have discovered that in most cases when the affair comes to an abrupt end and they panic and delete everything and disappear then as if by magic they appear maybe 6 months or so later saying their partners got suspicious…in the mean time no one you are left high and dry with no explanation so you move on ..
Then comes the text you have been waiting for and all of a sudden they want you back …Not on your Nelly mate
Sadly this is the true reality of ‘respectful’ 🤔
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KittySimone - 24 Jan, 2024 - 01:20AM
If you're expecting reality to live up to your dreams, then you'll probably be disappointed more than once. Appreciate what you do love about him and focus on that. There's a lot more to having a good time than just the sex.
Manchild911 - 23 Jan, 2024 - 11:44PM
It’s a hard one( pardon the pun). Best to be tactful.. just say situation has changed at home, work. This is taking all your time. Going to cool it on IE for a while. Text , phone calls less frequent. Let him move on. Tell him that . Stay off IE for a couple of weeks. If he persists, just say you don’t really fancy him.. you don’t owe him anything and vise versa..Fingers crossed he takes the hint. Good luck .
Marlen - 22 Jan, 2024 - 09:50PM
I would suggest being tactful..Don't refer to your disappointments...
If you told him it's to much like what you get at home and isn't what you're seeking, a 'sane' man would accept this and you could part as friends....
There is never a perfect way to finish a relationship.
1644662 - 22 Jan, 2024 - 09:36AM
Be honest
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Antinomy51 - 22 Jan, 2024 - 04:34AM
I would recommend deployment of diplomatic half truths. It is afterall how the world works. Say all the good stuff above (he doesn't appear without virtues), but then just add that something didn't click. If pushed for an explanation, just say you can't put your finger on it. Cold honesty only to be deployed if he can't see the lay of the land. No need to compromise on your wants and needs, but no need for brutal, callous honesty either.
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