Am I just panicking or should I be concerned?
I’ve been chatting to a guy on here since last October, and wanted to meet him, but due to a family bereavement on his side, a meet hasn’t happened yet.
Recently I’ve really wanted to meet him, but when I mention he says he can’t, as he’s too flakey and concentrating on his family. He has a habit of going awol from chats for weeks at a time, with no word, then comes back, and expects me to be ok about that.
This week he finally decided that he’s like to meet, but I’m worried about the circumstances. The hotel he’s picked is near his workplace, but a 40min drive for me, he doesn’t want to meet for a drink first, just go straight for sex. He’s picked the day, but hasn’t even asked me if it’s convenient for me.
My intuition is telling me to be careful, but I’m not sure if I’m just nervous, as this would be my first affair.
Could anyone that has more experience offer and guidance or gut feelings on this one?
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giggly hamster - 14 Mar, 2024 - 01:58PM
He's a punter.
He's used to seeing escorts. You can tell from the way he's behaving.
He's got a hotel hobby and he's used to getting outcall escorts to come to him,, hence everything is on his terms.
You're being treated as such going by your description.
All you are is free sex that he doesn't have to pay for and not too far away for anyone at home to start questioning why he's needing to do a couple of hours drive. 40 minutes radius from work is a nice convenient going to see a client for a drink ruse for the wife if she looks at his location.
Get rid, Walk away unless all you want is a panda (eats roots shoots and leaves).
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Suzanne1983 - 13 Mar, 2024 - 10:22AM
Run!!!!
To many men on here get cold feet, Or is that just me. Its frustrating that people join something like this and not know if they can cheat.
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Emeraldeyes267 - 13 Mar, 2024 - 08:13AM
I've been here a while on and off now and been on a few meets but only found only one person with whom I clicked.
Don't meet this man he wants his cake and eat it..... he has no respect for you so you must have respect for yourself. There are lots of guys out there and tho it is a tedious task. Set yourself a tick list if they don't fit..... then politely let them know that and onto the next x
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Emeraldeyes267 - 13 Mar, 2024 - 08:13AM
I've been here a while on and off now and been on a few meets but only found only one person with whom I clicked.
Don't meet this man he wants his cake and eat it..... he has no respect for you so you must have respect for yourself. There are lots of guys out there and tho it is a tedious task. Set yourself a tick list if they don't fit..... then politely let them know that and onto the next x
1571141 - 13 Mar, 2024 - 12:40AM
From what you describe, not one thing sounds anyway enticing about him. I wouldn't bother meetin him. He's feedin you breadcrumbs and thinks that will gain him his prize. Far better men out there. Run! Always trust your gut feeling!
Mrsdragonfly1969 - 12 Mar, 2024 - 07:28PM
Please don’t meet this man, you are worth so much more than this bread crumbing bs.
Know you’re worth and find someone who is going to appreciate you xxx
Johnson65 - 12 Mar, 2024 - 04:58PM
Why would you see someone like that? He clearly has no interest in you other than as a sex toy! Just forget him and find someone who will treat you as a human being!
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Enigma.. - 12 Mar, 2024 - 06:50AM
Dump him like a hot potato.
Send him a message…
“I’m no longer interested.
You had your chance and blew it.
I don’t do second best, never have done and never will”
Wish him all the best and good luck.
Make sure he actually gets around to reading the message.
Then block him.
And now most of you will probably think me a biatch. Not true. I’m just speaking from experience… unfortunately.
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Betelgeuse - 11 Mar, 2024 - 11:27PM
Trust your intuition and move on. Find someone who will meet you in a public place for a drink or whatever you are comfortable with.
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