Am I just panicking or should I be concerned?
I’ve been chatting to a guy on here since last October, and wanted to meet him, but due to a family bereavement on his side, a meet hasn’t happened yet.
Recently I’ve really wanted to meet him, but when I mention he says he can’t, as he’s too flakey and concentrating on his family. He has a habit of going awol from chats for weeks at a time, with no word, then comes back, and expects me to be ok about that.
This week he finally decided that he’s like to meet, but I’m worried about the circumstances. The hotel he’s picked is near his workplace, but a 40min drive for me, he doesn’t want to meet for a drink first, just go straight for sex. He’s picked the day, but hasn’t even asked me if it’s convenient for me.
My intuition is telling me to be careful, but I’m not sure if I’m just nervous, as this would be my first affair.
Could anyone that has more experience offer and guidance or gut feelings on this one?
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Gentle Man Jim - 18 Mar, 2024 - 02:50PM
I’m a red blooded man but just wouldn’t expect that from any lady! My gut says something is very wrong!
First meet should be a coffee only!
Be careful xx
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Funtimes4u2 - 18 Mar, 2024 - 12:10PM
Walk away if this is your first affair you should have it on equal terms.
This guy is just in it for himself will take what he can and leave.
NOT the sort of affair you want to start on, it will leave just you wondering is this for me.
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1646590 - 17 Mar, 2024 - 02:21PM
The man has set out his stall. If you don’t like what you see, move on. If that’s his modus operandi, it might work for one in a hundred attempts and that’s all that matters to him. IE is predominantly a site for sexual liaisons, but getting into bed with a complete stranger, doesn’t sound like a good scenario.
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Marlen - 16 Mar, 2024 - 05:04AM
OP, don't waste your time with this individual.
You're likely one of many, as this person is clearly busy with other potential, or actual conquests, to focus on you.
He's not interested in you the person; you're just fuck-meat to him. So unless you're as callous and shallow as he is and happy to be used, forget him.
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Peaches1 - 15 Mar, 2024 - 10:35PM
Dick head end of! Get yourself a proper man. You worth soo much more x
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1649649 - 15 Mar, 2024 - 12:09PM
Self respect is an underrated superpower. It is perfectly acceptable to identify the glaring red flags and walk no run away.
Why attempt to convince your second brain, your gut instinct, otherwise?!
Rob667 - 15 Mar, 2024 - 09:57AM
Listen to your gut feeling. Sounds like it isn't a balanced two way relationship. Is that what you want?
If not, time to say no thanks.
Funguy77 - 14 Mar, 2024 - 03:58PM
Wow that all sounds well shady. Kick him to the curb and move on. You can’t just jump in to bed with someone you haven’t met for drinks first
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