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ExoticOrchid - 25 May, 2020 - 10:42AM

HotChoco - 25 May, 2020 - 10:15AM
"I think you misunderstood or presumed what they said."

How is "they have both asked me to be exclusive" be misunderstood or presumed … ?

HotChoco - 25 May, 2020 - 10:15AM

I think you misunderstood or presumed what they said.

They mentioned exclusivity in the chat but it doesn’t mean it applies straight away. Maybe that’s what they hope for when you both feel compatibility in all aspects....

Be honest though. Tell them you are chatting others.

If they insist they want exclusively now,
Then that’s ridiculous!

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1320953 - 25 May, 2020 - 10:05AM

I’d say that’s an unrealistic expectations from either of them. You haven’t Even met ... Have you even spoken on the phone ? They are both asking something that’s not reasonable. In my opinion that sounds like they may be a bit insecure. I wouldn’t lie to either of them and say yes, I would however deflect and ask why they felt the need to be exclusive in an online format. That you’d. Be happy once you meet and you feel he’s the one to definately be Exclusive but in the meantime you want to stay as you are.

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1386588 - 25 May, 2020 - 10:03AM

To be honest they both sound a bit needy. As others have said, chatting to someone doesn’t guarantee a meet or that you will have a connection if you do. Remember people are totally different behind a keyboard. If you do choose you may end up sat opposite someone with the charisma of long dead roadkill

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1272141 - 25 May, 2020 - 10:02AM

Nonsense. Is one called santa and the other the tooth fairy.

You can still meet either for a social, then see if either are worth it.

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1382215 - 25 May, 2020 - 10:00AM

Definitely keep your options open as chances are you may not even meet either of them. Things can change all the time for a multitude of reasons so don't put all your eggs into one basket at this stage. If it progressed to a sexual encounter then this is the only time it would become exclusive. I would just be honest and if asked, admit that you chat to other people. Alarm bells would be ringing for me also, particularly if married as it seems a little possessive at this stage to expect you to do that. Good luck x

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ExoticOrchid - 25 May, 2020 - 09:41AM

I would ditch BOTH of them … what makes them think they can ask BEFORE you have even met!!!

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There and back - 25 May, 2020 - 09:41AM

Until you meet does it matter? Honestly, one or the other may well fade into the background anyway.

It seems that is the norm here. Chatting then, nothing.........so you go for it!!

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Unique68 - 25 May, 2020 - 09:38AM

Until you meet how could you be exclusive!!? you have to meet and see if you have a connection
Might be great conversation but if you also want intimacy and there’s no sexual chemistry is no good
Good luck

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Radang - 25 May, 2020 - 09:38AM

I enjoy chatting to different people, but I would never be exclusive to someone I've never met, this is a dating website to get to know as many different people as you like, I would have never met half of these people if it wasn't for this site, thank you ie

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