MrMissedIt

About Me:

*Double Vaccinated & continued mask wearer, regardless that the restrictions are a 'thing of the past'! - I've no interest whatsoever in 'Anti-Vaxxers' or 'Anti-Maskers'! Sorry, that's entirely the wrong kind of drama for me!*

Me, you ask?
Respectful and intellectually-mature Northern bloke of average height with a slightly dry sense of humour and high EQ (a pretty decent IQ too, if I do say so myself!). Always looked young for my age, which is becoming more of a blessing every year! Also, I certainly don't feel 45, so it's very important that you feel that way about yourself too! I've an old soul, but a young spirit!

In terms of psyche, I'm a Sigma.
I'm authentic, confident and independently-minded yet sensitive, insightful and perfectly happy to avoid the limelight being placed on me if that means I can instead spend that energy & attention on you. Basically all the bits you love about Alphas without all the boorish arrogance, attention-seeking and borderline-overt aggression!

Ladies, a gentle truth bomb.
You may not realise that the average height of men in the UK is 5'9", so by insisting on 'tall men', you are missing out on a lot of good & decent fellas. Conversely, those 'tall men' women seem to crave have usually used their height to coast through life, probably in lieu of having a decent personality, and will almost undoubtedly have terrifyingly high 'body counts' - therefore, given they could drop you and move on at a moments notice to the next adoring fangirl, respecting you will probably not rate very highly in their intentions! Sad, but true!
Whilst I may be an 'average-statured guy', I could easily be your 'diamond in the rough'!
On the other hand, if this is some sort of 'deal breaker' for you, that only a six-footer will do, I'm more than happy for you to move along! Sorry, but anyone shallow enough to place such significance on a simple accident of genetics is someone I probably don't want in my life!

A couple of other things that some find very important, even deal breakers: I have no tattoos, no piercings, and a full head of hair dark hair which is subtly 'salt & peppering'! Sometimes short facial hair (longer than stubble, but still resident upon my chin, not my collar bone!), sometimes clean shaven - It's often a mood thing!

So, why am I here?
Well, I recently woke up wondering what I'd missed out on by being in a (very) long term relationship since I was a youngster. I've had a 'dead bedroom' for a few years now, and I greatly miss physical contact & intimacy.
'Touch Starvation' is a very real thing!
Edit: Things have 'improved' a little at home, and my relationship is now more open - ENM, as the current acronym crowd would say.

Who am I?
I'm most comfortable in the pub - I know, how predictable!
That's not to say I don't like to look good or can't fit into classier surroundings... I can comfortably be a social chameleon, although I certainly prefer a button-down shirt to a T-shirt! I always ensure I smell good too - smell is so often underrated. So, if the situation calls for either a loud shirt or a three piece suit, I have it covered!
However, I'm by no means wealthy, so I'm certainly not sugar-daddy material, but I tend to prefer the simple things anyway!

I love to verbally spar and learn new things. I'm a bit of a wordsmith (but certainly not a motormouth, despite what the length of my profile suggests!) who knows how powerful words can be.
I'm also a very good listener - it's one of the best ways to learn new perspectives - and very discrete above all else.
I have never enjoyed gossip and pride myself as someone who can keep a secret. Trust is earned and I never throw that away, or offer it, cheaply.
And I never ever make promises, unless I absolutely, positively, 100% know that I can deliver!

Other sites (not that I'm on any others, I just browsed for comparison!) pegged me as the 'Social Philosopher', which I really quite like! A pint in my hand, a confident, sparky & cerebral woman opposite me, and fascinating yet fun conversation in a quiet pub sounds like a wonderful evening! After all, things must be fun, engaging and pulse-raising before anything else can develop!

Music is a massive part of my life, and I love live music. My tastes are vary varied - a bit of a 'musical omnivore'!
Also, I'm a vocalist in a band and we're now gigging post-Covid, thank god!

I abhor 'Reality TV' and it's ilk, I prefer a good crime drama.
Call me an intellectual snob if you want to (I'm really not!), but if you simply must 'Keep Up With The Kardashians' or 'simply have to know who was just booted off Love Island' then we are sadly probably not going to gel.
I quite like a bit of decent sci-fi and can take or leave horror. Love 'Classic' & 'Dark' comedy, although the current 'Woke' stuff leaves me cold, despite personally being naturally pretty left-wing.
I'll watch almost anything that is Police Procedural, Crime or Courtroom based - what can I say, I enjoy the journey just as much as the destination!

As I mentioned earlier, some folk think men don't need or appreciate touch, but I know that's not true. I really miss the simple pleasure that is touching - and being touched by - someone new, and the increased heart-rate that brings.
I'd love someone to help me both broaden my horizons and resurrect those long-dormant butterflies in my tummy!

One more thing for me...If you're not 'getting off', neither am I.
I'm not what I would describe as a subservient, but I need your pleasure to feel mine! In terms of your pleasure, I can control it, ration it, or give it willingly depending on the partner, but it HAS to be there. If you're not feeling the waves of pleasure sweeping over you, how can I enjoy myself?! Of course 'I' need to cum, but if 'you're' not then what's the point?!

So... what am I looking for?
What I'd like is a mutual secret with a special lady, something where we can build some trust and excitement. I'm certainly not looking for bedpost notches or one night stands per se, but I'm not overly interested in long pre-meet correspondence either.
Honestly I don't think communications in solely in text or even voice can reliably convey chemistry, at least not anywhere near as well as face-to-face does, and I'd prefer to know sooner rather than later if we really enjoy each others company so as not to waste each others time. That being said, not everything has to end 'in the sack' to be considered successful.

I'm certainly not looking to change anyone's home situation, as mine is unlikely to change anytime soon. However being 26 years in one relationship with very little & very occasional 'deviation', but 3 years with a completely dead bedroom, makes for a noticeable lack of sparks.
As such, not necessarily brilliant at 'reading signals' or making first moves, but on the other hand nor am I in any way pushy!

Ideal Partner:

This is arguably the hardest bit for me, but I'll give it a go!

Intelligence, empathy and humour are so, so important to me, and I find the combination riotously sexy.

I need to be able to explore ideas, new and existing, in an intellectual and well communicated fashion. Language is a beautiful tool and can be deadly (attractive) if used well!

Aesthetically speaking, if I'm honest, I prefer short women (although I have no problem with your heels) with physiques on the slimmer/athletic side of things. This recent trend of the 'overly-big sexy ass' passed me by I'm afraid. Not a hard and fast rule, but a definite preference.

I like women that know their own mind and what they want, and know how to get it, without being domineering. Basically, an equal. Power games are not really my thing - although there are always exceptions!

At the risk of sounding puerile, I adore a 'mischievously naughty' woman. Someone sparky and emotionally & sexually confident. As such I'd like to meet someone much like me, someone that is a younger spirit. Let's be honest, we're all here because we are missing a certain spark in our lives, so I'd love to meet someone who is fun & flirty. Someone who, chemistry permitting, will help me feel desired again and will enable me to irresistibly desire you too. Either confident, or coy & mischievous, flirting drives me wild and really gets my blood pumping!

Other Interests:

Nature, Museums / Galleries, Music - Alternative, Music - Dance / Electronic, Nightclubs / Clubs, Music - Blues/Jazz, Music - Pop / R&B, Music - Rock, Politics, Singing / Playing Instrument, Computers / Internet, Theatre / Ballet, Movies / Cinema, Music - Hip Hop

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