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Christmas letter of the month

To all of those who are in established 'beneficial friendships' do you expect to hear from your friend over the festive period...or accept it is a time for family....and pick up again in the New Year??

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richard123 - 15 Jan, 2017 - 12:47PM

Is it still Xmas?!! xx

Rosie06 - 14 Jan, 2017 - 01:57PM

My long term IE and I were both away over the Xmas and NY period with respective families. We had met for the night the week leading up to Xmas and exchanged a couple of txts during the holidays.
It was a family time for both of us, so neither had pressure to be in touch. I know he would have raised a glass to me on NYE, as I did to him, but didn't and don't expect constant communication. Maybe that's why we are long term IEs - 5 years+

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Gj9345 - 14 Jan, 2017 - 12:04AM

I sent my a poem that took two weeks to compose. We had an unusual set of circumstances that allowed us to have a 'proper date', u know the type of thing, pub lunches, buying each other Xmas presents, kisses'n'cuddles for 4 weeks prior to Xmas. She really liked the poem and I think it brought us closer than ant material presents. One date into the New Year I feel we are closer than ever

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LucyLasticReturns - 11 Jan, 2017 - 09:58PM

@ wishonastar

Apologies, I wasn't being sarcastic, just realistic 🙂

Wishonastar - 11 Jan, 2017 - 05:41AM

@ Lucysarcastic....We plan to my dear..this year 😊 X

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576681-Deleted - 09 Jan, 2017 - 02:24PM

Just a short and simple exchange of messages is enough to reassure each other that, in that time for family and friends, the other person is still important and missed. In my experience this is enough to return to all the joys and stresses of the festivities with the assurance that your lover is immersed in it as well but still with a part that is missing you. It has always worked for me.

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911127-Deleted - 08 Jan, 2017 - 01:08PM

You probably gave it away with "friend" - dunno do you expect to hear from your friends over xmas?

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1093171-Deleted - 07 Jan, 2017 - 07:15PM

There is a time for sneaking off for texts and emails but it hardly enhances a family Xmas.

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MrGraysAnatomy - 06 Jan, 2017 - 10:09PM

A secret message back and forth having a little sarcastic moan about unwanted Christmas presents and forced family dynamics is always a must! This is the first person you can share your secrets with, after all...

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1111228-Deleted - 04 Jan, 2017 - 08:47PM

Its great to hear from the secret other half... whats the point of them being in your life if you have long silences? or maybe thats just me?!

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tea_coffee_me_ - 04 Jan, 2017 - 05:06PM

... and for the New Year experiment ...
Well I thought this would be an interesting experiment for me.

Meet up with any of mine over the Christmas, New Year, no not possible, not a problem.

Of all those I meet with
- of those I am 'in some form of relationship with, two!!, (a Happy New Year on NYD)
- of those I am in the process of getting to know, one, (a Happy New Year on NYD)
- of those I have had a relationship with, one, (a Happy New Year on NYD)

A couple more since then ... but not yet everyone ... never mind only 4 days in ... I will hear from them when it suits...
... again an interesting experiment

(... I did not prompt them just let the phrase in their court ;-) )

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The Actress - 04 Jan, 2017 - 11:47AM

I too, come on here, most days, purely to read the letters--they're amusing, revealing, and even insightful.

Added to which, you learn far more about a person here, than in a carefully "manicured" profile.

Ut caveat scriptor!

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Daggersbabe - 03 Jan, 2017 - 08:22PM

I could not have a relationship with anyone without feelings.
I came on here because I am not happy with what I have at home.
If I was I would never have contemplated an affair.
My affair is only 3 months old. I see him once a week unless he is working away, but he lives half an hour from me during the week, but goes home to his family at the weekend. Of course there is attachment, but we both went into this with our eyes open.
I still come on here to read the letters.
We are in contact every day, and it really brightens up my day.

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Teicu - 03 Jan, 2017 - 12:56PM

illicit lover

Because this place is addictive... The letters are worth reading...I could go on

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1070009-Deleted - 03 Jan, 2017 - 11:20AM

I will be seeing my 'friend with benefits' in January - we have been in touch once online in the past few weeks as we have both been busy, but I dont sit and pine for him sorry. He is way down the pecking order in my life and that's the way it should be. We will meet in a hotel in the next week or so and have a great two hours or so together - he lives 85 miles away from me which suits us both.
There are far too many people on this site too ready to get too attached and and setting themselves up for being hurt.

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1066183-Deleted - 02 Jan, 2017 - 06:54PM

Many people with lovers and still on the site - cant help but wonder why that is ;)

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ExoticOrchid - 02 Jan, 2017 - 05:26PM

LucyLasticReturns - 31 Dec, 2016 - 05:15PM

Brilliant ... love it ... hahaha!!! ;-)

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pandora123 - 02 Jan, 2017 - 05:21PM

I met mine in between

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Perfect moments - 02 Jan, 2017 - 05:20PM

I think Christmas and New Year can be a real test for some people. You have people around you 24/7 so I guess it's hard to keep in touch.

richard123 - 02 Jan, 2017 - 03:56PM

Is mistletoe just for Xmas?!! XX

Callie - 01 Jan, 2017 - 03:59PM

I do find it very hard that i cant see my special friend over xmas but i do understand that it is a family time. We do keep in touch though all the time every day by text which is lovely.

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1113063-Deleted - 01 Jan, 2017 - 10:45AM

I you can come on here Christmas and new yr..you could get in touch with your lover. If they are worth it, or is that why you are still on here?

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LucyLasticReturns - 31 Dec, 2016 - 05:15PM

@ wishonstar

Why don't you move in together? Just saying!

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the maddest sexy hatter - 31 Dec, 2016 - 09:49AM

IE is fun & not to be confused with the real life of family & friends at Christmas . I personally keep away from the phone and email during the festivities . Its not that anyone is out of sight out of mind its just about priorities. New Year- new chapter -new activities & fun :)

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Wishonastar - 30 Dec, 2016 - 07:59PM

My dear man and I shared a lovely pre-Christmas meal and exchange of special gifts and he drew a wonderful portrait of my naked butt as a Christmas card 😄. We saw each other this week too and plan for the next week,as well as hourly messages.We would have preferred to spend it with each other😊

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1019956-Deleted - 30 Dec, 2016 - 03:26PM

[Quote] Teicu - 25 Dec, 2016 - 11:28AM

156 men on here at 11:27 on Xmas day. Just saying [Quote]

.....and you too!

Just laughing :-)

LucyLasticReturns - 30 Dec, 2016 - 12:17AM

The few days over Christmas when the emphasis is often on family, relaxing, making the most of a few days off work, maybe eating & drinking too much, I don't want to feel any pressure whatsoever to use email/text/social media (and possibly arouse a degree of suspicion to boot) to reassure my IE he still has my interest & thoughts. There are definitely times when less can mean more 😊 Out of sight doesn't mean out of mind!

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1070009-Deleted - 28 Dec, 2016 - 09:51PM

If someone feels miserable at not keeping in touch for a few weeks then it tells me that there are too many emotions involved and for me that is always a sign it can end in tears and someone getting hurt- when I was with my long term friend with benefits of 5 years we always wished each other well over the festive period but as we lived 90 miles from each other we both exchanged pressies and then arranged a date to meet in the New Year and then concentrated on our respective families instead.

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richard123 - 28 Dec, 2016 - 03:34PM

any mistletoe left?!! xx

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Daggersbabe - 28 Dec, 2016 - 09:55AM

My guy is away and has been since 15th December abroad until 8th Jan , so no chance of meeting but have emailed every day. Looking forward to the new year. Family or not there is nothing wrong with keeping in touch, I would feel really miserable if we didn't.

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1107554-Deleted - 27 Dec, 2016 - 01:06PM

A few sexy texts over the festive period perhaps but don't expect a meet....tis the season to be jolly but not extending to shagging the lover.....I'll be shagging my partner instead thanks - his needs are always paramount, and yep, I'm a greedy sod - when he's back home he always comes first, and any lover will be second!
I have just came back on here today to see all these interesting messages - merry christmas folks xx Hope yours is a good one!

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1070009-Deleted - 27 Dec, 2016 - 12:59PM

christmas is for friends and family sorry - I think affairs go way down the pecking order over the festive period...if you are sitting over the turkey and tinsel and fretting bout your illicit meet, and counting down the hours until you meet again then you are taking it all too seriously!
Sorry but this is a fun site so lets get priorities right

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tea_coffee_me_ - 26 Dec, 2016 - 10:25AM

Well I thought this would be an interesting experiment for me.

Meet up with any of mine over the Christmas, New Year, no not possible, not a problem.

Of all those I meet with
- of those I am 'in some form of relationship with, one, (a Happy Christmas on Christmas Day)
- of those I am in the process of getting to know, one, (a Happy Christmas on Christmas Day)
- of those I have had a relationship with, one, (a Happy Christmas on Christmas Day)

... so far me very very very low stats, a little disappointing however an interesting experiment.

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raymond961 - 25 Dec, 2016 - 03:32PM

66 women at 15.32

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Teicu - 25 Dec, 2016 - 11:28AM

156 men on here at 11:27 on Xmas day. Just saying

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Teicu - 25 Dec, 2016 - 11:24AM

Happy sweet girl

Oh my goodness, I would be on here looking for a new ie. Seriously if he dumped you just before Christmas, guilt or no guilt he would be long gone with no second chances!!

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raymond961 - 25 Dec, 2016 - 08:40AM

I think it would be nice just to hear a word or two, just to know they are thinking of you. After all affairs don't just stop for the weekend.
Merry Christmas to all

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Nathalie7777 - 25 Dec, 2016 - 07:34AM

regardless,we both email each other its nice xxx

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jan27 - 24 Dec, 2016 - 03:23PM

Myself and my IE email each other. He is with his family and me with mine over Xmas and new year.

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Happy sweet girl - 24 Dec, 2016 - 01:32PM

Mine Broke up with me just before Christmas said he felt guilty
He went back home yesterday for the holidays
He has texted me 3 times already
So fingers crossed for the new year

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Refined Gent - 24 Dec, 2016 - 08:14AM

@ Organic Basket of Plums - You do realise you've probably alienated Mothers in Law (who constitute a substantial proportion of the IE over 50s) Don't be surprised if you are left with shrivelled prunes in the NY!
Meanwhile I recall the 'breath of fresh air' walk I took one Christmas Day many years ago to find a public phone box. Just a brief moment but it was all part of the fun. With the digital age it is so easy to just let someone know they are thought of, so why not. However, excessive phone absorption is a dead give away so remember to keep it under wraps!!

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sugarlolly - 24 Dec, 2016 - 06:35AM

Seek happiness wherever it may be,
With friends, family or even on IE.
Thus spoke Santa...

Merry Xmas.

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1093400-Deleted - 23 Dec, 2016 - 07:41PM

Didn't expect to be meeting over Xmas,but an opportunity has arisen between Xmas and the new year...and I think that's the key to illicit relationships,seize the moment!, the opportunity of good sex can never be put on the back burner ;-)

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Summerbelle - 23 Dec, 2016 - 07:39PM

Isn't it something that will vary from person to person dependent upon their situation? Just enjoy the festive period, let your 'beneficial friend' enjoy theirs and look forward with excited anticipation to seeing each other in the New Year.

Merry Christmas to all x

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Organic Basket of Plums - 23 Dec, 2016 - 07:33PM


or to quote Kylie
I should be so lucky

lucky, lucky, lucky recurring

or if you're your with the mother in law
unlucky, unlucky, unlucky

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daisy-54 - 23 Dec, 2016 - 06:40PM

And to all of us who are still looking Happy Christmas and heres to a good 2017 ! x

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Mrsmiller - 23 Dec, 2016 - 04:14PM

I don't expect anything. I believe that is down to personal circumstances. Not everyone on this site are religious or believe/follow Christmas traditions.

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1079413-Deleted - 23 Dec, 2016 - 03:56PM

WELL,
Ido think christmas should be with the familie. aspecial when most of the year will be at work , meetings and excuses to see that special person

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ChampagneinTheCity - 23 Dec, 2016 - 01:24PM

Understand that family commitments are important at Christmas but a cheeky text now and again is a great distraction... ;)

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ExoticOrchid - 23 Dec, 2016 - 12:14PM

Yes ... don't expect to meet but definitely messages!!!

Merry Christmas everyone.

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mitterrandetpingeot - 23 Dec, 2016 - 11:55AM

I would not expect this but have send her an e-card. However unbelievable, given the number of sexually frustrated women on here, in shock I pledge to continue satisfying my loved one at home (my task and my honour), with newly obtained skills (mentally and otherwise), as well as potentially a part-time friend and lover, if ever I can find another one who is, in contrast, committed long-term, careful, smart, goddess, fair and sane. An impossible combination of course.

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Teicu - 23 Dec, 2016 - 10:48AM

Absolutely. It doesn't take much time to send a quick message. I have always had contact with IEs over the festive period and let's face it a lot of men are on here during Christmas to get away from the hum drum so why not send messages

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Scotchbabe - 23 Dec, 2016 - 10:26AM

Funny that came across my mind also - can only answer from my own perspective - which is I hope to hear from him even just briefly even just to say Merry Christmas and the Happy New Year at least I would know I wasnt out of sight out of mind!!! - certainly know I wont see him but already knew that - just makes the anticipation of the new year more exciting and if Im honest LOL a little frustrating.

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