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Do you believe men have unrealistic expectations on what a woman should look like beyond the age of 45 in terms of of body when naked?

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1625197 - 26 Sep, 2023 - 06:10PM

Perhaps some do, but I think being overly focused on your partner's physical appearance (naked or otherwise) is a sign of immaturity, so be greatful they are showing you who they are early I guess!

I prefer to worry about looking as good as I can for them, and just be happy they want to spend the time of day with me!

Craig7423 - 24 Sep, 2023 - 09:32AM

Everyone has their own thoughts on this and that’s why we all choose different people, personally I am not turned on by a muscular ladies it doesn’t float my boat but give me a natural woman with some curves I am happy. Why? Because I want someone to be happy in their own skin as I am slightly flawed so I feel that I would be accepted more readily by someone with bumps too.

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Beccak - 23 Sep, 2023 - 09:24AM

I will admit I do expect a potential affair to be fit and fairly muscular, I am simply not excited by an average body or a thin body.

I would burst out laughing if Malcolm from accounts was trying to be masculine, or Peter the cyclist with all the prowess of an ironing board.

Sorry guys but you got to hit the weights/ pressups, a far better use of your time than sending me message about how kind you are

Boudicca - 22 Sep, 2023 - 05:52PM

I have found that men are more realistic and accepting of older women’s bodies than women themselves are.

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1623593 - 22 Sep, 2023 - 04:26PM

I don't think men see the way a woman sees herself, so are the assumed expectations coming from the men or the women?

SecretSt - 22 Sep, 2023 - 02:40PM

Fear not ladies, we boys get older too, and with that our perception and appreciation of beautiful women changes accordingly.

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Beckysharp - 22 Sep, 2023 - 07:01AM

A couple of people have told me that the gym reference in my profile could be intimidating and put some guys off messaging me @johnhenry. I considered taking it out when I was looking but I’m so into the gym that I didn’t in the end (maybe I am a self obsessed narcissist!!)

In terms of what I look for, both my current and previous lover are in decent shape but not ‘gym fit’ and no 6 packs. But my type would probably be the same no matter how fit/unfit I am. No idea 🤷‍♀️

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JohnHenry - 21 Sep, 2023 - 11:21PM

…….but supposing you stumble across someone who is in good shape. Do you feel intimidated? Is it a ‘red flag’ sign of self obsession/narcissism ? Conversely, does being overweight suggest hedonism, lazy or something else? And finally - is a body type indicative of a particular personality bias?……My experience suggests (in general) ‘fit’ ladies want ‘fit’ men.

JayJames70 - 21 Sep, 2023 - 08:58PM

I can’t speak for other men but I’m certainly not unrealistic on how the ladies in my age range should be like.

Everyone is different and to be honest I would accept my IE partner for however she is because not one of us (especially not me) are perfect are we?

I think it’s important to accept and respect someone however they are - as long as there is an attraction and chemistry the rest is just part of the overall package.

Maybe it’s just because I like to see the positive in most things and see beauty as not just surface deep 🤷🏼‍♂️😘

Paula99 - 21 Sep, 2023 - 08:46PM

The Enigma…

It does seem that you have chosen the wrong name 😂

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andyluvslegs - 21 Sep, 2023 - 02:49PM

If they do, then probably not worth getting to know!

Facial attraction, similar values & personality chemistry are my expectations for a wonderful relationship x

TheEnigma - 21 Sep, 2023 - 12:13PM

Firstly let me make a distinction. I am not the chap you all seem to be angry at.
I’m “TheEnigma” rather than “Enigma”. Oh dear this may work out very badly for me. 😅

Anyway. I don’t think men are generally unrealistic on this site. In fact most men here love nothing more than to blow compliments in every direction whether they mean it or not, to see what sticks. That is the dating marketplace generally in a nutshell as I understand it. I’m certainly not unrealistic. A dazzling woman is a package of things each holding a certain weighting but none of them absolutes, in my view.

It’s also probably true to say that women are far more selective on the basis of body composition as well as height, age, race, socio-economic status and more. You need only read a few men’s profiles vs women’s profiles to see the difference.

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Johno4040 - 20 Sep, 2023 - 07:35PM

As a man in my early 50s i know my bodies not perfect so i don't have unrealistic expectations on anyone else's. Where all getting older

ExoticOrchid - 20 Sep, 2023 - 05:53PM

P99 - 04:20PM

Especially creeps who can't handle rejection and then go round telling tales in the hope of earning a few brownie points ... the worst kind of man ... a sneaky snake (sorry, that's an insult to snakes actuslly!!!)

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Paula99 - 20 Sep, 2023 - 04:20PM

Whatever is going on here …it’s not nice to implicate a third party ….if you have an axe to grind then just block 🤔

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ExoticOrchid - 20 Sep, 2023 - 10:36AM


Looks like there's a nasty snake here who is making trouble as revenge for being turned down!!!

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Petruchio911 - 19 Sep, 2023 - 11:47PM


Spa hot tubbing......luxury

We never had hot tubs when we were growing up....we had to make do with a dip in the Cut (canal for those south of Watford) every other week


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Falmouth - 19 Sep, 2023 - 10:00PM

My search start age is set to 45yrs...its the perfect age mind and body.

1620668 - 19 Sep, 2023 - 06:36PM

for what its worth Enigma, im not that female either, that my not be truthful x

Let'sjusthavefun - 19 Sep, 2023 - 06:12PM

As a male I have no expectations on how a woman should look dressed or undressed, if the attraction is there mentally and physically who cares as long as you are happy

Anton555 - 19 Sep, 2023 - 05:15PM

Yes a lot of men do or they did, I did myself expect woman to have a gorgeous figure at 50 y/o even though they have had three children and breast fed them but as I have aged and now I do see they beauty in a woman of my age and older, I like a real woman who is bigger than the next woman if she likes the way she looks and is not shy I will like her my self who am I to tell her what she should look like when I am very far from perfect myself, ladies be proud of your body and if he does'nt like it tell him to go away {you know how} and I am sure there is a man not far from you who would appreciate you and how you look

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ExoticOrchid - 19 Sep, 2023 - 05:12PM

Enigma.. - 01:09PM

Indeed not this female either! ☺️

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The Lioness - 19 Sep, 2023 - 03:18PM

I spent so long worrying about what a look like under my clothes I started losing sight of who I was. Now I DONT CARE what men think. I am me. Yes there has to be initial attraction it's human nature, that animal instinct. Think men get a rough deal too though. If ya don't like my jiggly bits jog on, simple. I'm certainly not going cry over it 😊

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Jay122 - 19 Sep, 2023 - 02:46PM

It used to be models in adverts, magazines and on TV that gave unrealistic expectations of females, now it’s online filtered images and of course AI generated images which just create subliminal expectations of perfection. I do think this has now become a problem for both / all genders, however I must say there are so many different things that can be attractive in a persons body and mind that I didn’t appreciate 20 years ago. Still learning and growing 😁

Dotty Green - 19 Sep, 2023 - 02:22PM

Enigma.. - 19 Sep, 2023 - 01:09PM

??? why do you say that. Not upset this female. Can't speak for others male or female

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Paula99 - 19 Sep, 2023 - 02:19PM


You haven’t done anything wrong or angered anyone as far as I know …😁

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shaved_dave - 19 Sep, 2023 - 02:03PM

I am 27 and I like body of older women. Don't ask why... I just do...
I think we can't please everyone and not everyone can please us... I decide to move on from women who don't like me... I was not before... I chase after before. Now I have realized we Wil eventually meet someone that is right.

Beauty is temporary... And I am gonna be pile of bones in less than 100 years... Live in the moment... Be kind and be decent person... That's what I have learnt

1623921 - 19 Sep, 2023 - 01:56PM

Sadly some men do have unrealistic expectations but they’re the ones not bothering with or getting to know. Most men are like me, we look for a lovely smile and good conversation and enjoy the moment.

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Enigma.. - 19 Sep, 2023 - 01:09PM

Have I upset, angered, annoyed anyone, especially any females, on this forum.
Yes…this is actually a genuine question?

Beckysharp - 19 Sep, 2023 - 12:50PM

You don’t need to be a naturist Kevin! Anyone who has ever been to a beach or swimming pool knows the range of bodies of all age groups! I doubt anyone on earth expects the average 50 year old to look identical to the average 20 year old.

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Iamnotkevin - 19 Sep, 2023 - 12:09PM

it depends I suppose.

I think many younger men may be fairly unaware of how ageing affects women's bodies - and men too - probably because the only older women they usually see which they may fancy are those in movies or on TV who have had extensive work done to keep them looking more youthful than their years.

Older men though will have experienced first hand that they and the ladies in their life have changed over time and wont be so bothered by it...

Personally I have been a naturist since I was in my 20's so was never under any illusion about how women look naked as they age.

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laugar164 - 14 Sep, 2023 - 11:42AM

Big that message will have them flocking to you in the thousands

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Big G2221 - 14 Sep, 2023 - 09:46AM

Can a sexy chic chick drop me a line Gx

Raatan Kaliyan - 13 Sep, 2023 - 11:55PM

Do you believe women have unrealistic expectations on what a man should look like beyond the age of 45 in terms of body when naked?

No one is the same. Everyone is different. Nothing is permanent.

If people can accept this, then there is no discussion required.

logicboy - 13 Sep, 2023 - 11:31PM

No, I don't.

Mister.E.Mann - 12 Sep, 2023 - 11:04PM


Maybe I'm of an age where the most attractive part of a woman is between her ears, not between her arms or legs. Maybe I haven't met enough over 45s.

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Andrea Andrew - 12 Sep, 2023 - 10:37PM


I agree in terms of looks, but also personality are important!

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WillKr - 12 Sep, 2023 - 06:54PM


Loads of womens man- menus are along the lines’ ‘yes I know it’s shallow, but I’m taking a risk wanting an affair so there has to be attraction, I like rugged guys, no bellies I’m afraid, full head of hair and preferably tall, twinkling eyed and great teeth get my attention’

Simping n telling women how looks arent all that important is just not going to win the day

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Mister.E.Mann - 11 Sep, 2023 - 11:43PM

I must confess to not knowing what "most men" expect in women over 45. However, I think that they should look at themselves, too. I'm sure most women will have a more realistic expectation of the bodies of men over 45 (but hope for better)! I, for one, am looking at a slightly older age group and have no expectations at all. I think women worry more about their look and their bodies but I'd be happy with someone who was prepared to walk around the house/room completely naked without worrying about the inevitable "wobbly bits". In the end, it's what's inside that's attractive. That's not to say that I don't have preferences but I wouldn't expect to find a middle aged mother looking like a teenage model with boobs under her chin and a boy's bum! However, my experience in these matters is very limited (hence joining IE).

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Freyab - 10 Sep, 2023 - 10:57AM

Er twilight zone here
Will I am and AA

Beckysharp - 10 Sep, 2023 - 09:27AM

Andrea if someone blocks us it’s best to take the hint! But make sure you block them too so they can’t unblock and message you in the future (almost inevitable 🙄). Delete them and move on to better things ☺️

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Andrea Andrew - 10 Sep, 2023 - 09:08AM


All I will say is, Will you seem a decent guy on the forums but remember not to ignore those who care about you, don’t block them

ExoticOrchid - 09 Sep, 2023 - 06:29PM

Hmm ... WKr/AA ... me, myself and I ... 🤣

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TheBoredHousewife - 09 Sep, 2023 - 03:03PM

Andrea Andrew - 09 Sep, 2023 - 02:23PM

Don’t make the rest of us middle aged women envious now 👠💃

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Paula99 - 09 Sep, 2023 - 03:00PM

This is very interesting 😂

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TheBoredHousewife - 09 Sep, 2023 - 02:45PM

Waiting for a Chezley / Karen moment…… 😎

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Andrea Andrew - 09 Sep, 2023 - 02:23PM

I agree Will… delicate girly shoes and ankle bracelet are so cute…… a little dress to add as well!

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TheBoredHousewife - 09 Sep, 2023 - 02:17PM

FluffyClouds - 09 Sep, 2023 - 02:05PM

Paper bags might well become the latest kinkcessory!!

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FluffyClouds - 09 Sep, 2023 - 02:07PM

I'm sure you do Conradd...sorry Willkr...got a little confused there for a second

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FluffyClouds - 09 Sep, 2023 - 02:05PM

There's having a great body but not having the face to match. Paper bag time? Could that be classed as kinky? I need a nice face to look at over a great body.

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WillKr - 09 Sep, 2023 - 01:51PM

My most ardent non negotiable is big feet, I can’t dress a kangaroo foot in delicate girly shoes and ankle bracelet

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Beckysharp - 09 Sep, 2023 - 01:21PM

A young body? Imho any age can have a nicely toned body (if we work on it 😅)

Awww Andrea… plenty more fish in the sea!

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Andrea Andrew - 09 Sep, 2023 - 12:08PM

I still agree with the idea of young bods….however……

Will you need to appreciate you have huge potential to break hearts, you should take relationships as seriously as your women do

Beckysharp - 09 Sep, 2023 - 11:53AM

Is it looking young or just looking good for x age? I’ve never thought anyone looks significantly younger than they are. But obviously some people are in great shape whatever their age. Especially at gyms ime- very motivating!

I like a guy that is fit and looks good, but also is comfortable in his own skin

Andrea Andrew - 09 Sep, 2023 - 11:26AM

And to be young looking too!

Andrea Andrew - 09 Sep, 2023 - 11:26AM

Its good to aspire to look young!

Smiler91863 - 09 Sep, 2023 - 11:11AM

An active mind and body confidence is more important than body shape and weight. I’d go for a comfortable happy woman over an angry at the world model type all day long.

Andrea Andrew - 09 Sep, 2023 - 09:13AM

Wow Will that sounds so arousing…..i so agree with you, it is realistic, i met someone here who really loves my new young bod….. i do miss him!

WillKr - 09 Sep, 2023 - 08:19AM

I’m one who likes women to have young bods and it’s definitely realistic

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Alexis162 - 08 Sep, 2023 - 05:40PM

Some men think women should still be looking like a 25 year old after you have been through Child birth and all the sudden stress that follows 😂 of course they would as they are more visual

Bardxx - 08 Sep, 2023 - 03:40PM

Can only speak for myself...maybe

ExoticOrchid - 08 Sep, 2023 - 12:48AM

JH - 04:59PM

Apparently! 🤷🏻‍♀️

JohnHenry - 07 Sep, 2023 - 04:59PM

If I follow the logic, it seems beerbellys have no right to be choosy, however gym fit = set the bar high???

Elemental_nature - 07 Sep, 2023 - 01:40PM

Quite possibly yes, but I find more mature women far more interesting. I’m interested in their minds and the adventures their bodies have had. Experience counts for a lot. Be comfortable with who you are and sod those with unrealistic expectations. After all, most men, and I include myself, hardly have the body of an adonis.

boav91 - 07 Sep, 2023 - 11:35AM

All I know is that when I look in the mirror I am not my 18 year old self any more. Despite efforts the enjoyment of life mens that often wins a little more over than the perfect figure.

I think as you get older good enough and different lenses always help. Rose and a shade of green work well for me ;)

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Petruchio911 - 05 Sep, 2023 - 10:30PM

Paula 99

Yes the bedpan is full and my dressing needs changing.

P911 it will never get well if you pick it

Petruchio911 - 05 Sep, 2023 - 10:20PM

I dont think my amazon prime account extends to ordering a woman.

Will have to stick to ukranian/thai brides.

P911 self checkout

1616715 - 05 Sep, 2023 - 09:39PM

No. Do women have unrealistic expectations of what a man's body should look like after 45?

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Beckysharp - 05 Sep, 2023 - 07:16PM

Ha ha I meant OLD as in online dating. I wasn’t referring to you as old Petruchio 😂😂

Paula99 - 05 Sep, 2023 - 05:51PM

Did anyone call for the NURSE?

I was removing a lightbulb 💡 😂😂😂

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Paula99 - 05 Sep, 2023 - 05:43PM

Hold on to your love handles 😁

Unfortunately…sites like these tend to make it easy to ‘have what you want ‘but in reality we all know it’s not possible..,..online dating is a bi product of the ‘i pad’ age…let’s ‘order’ our perfect man/woman and let’s hope they come in perfect packaging..
Free shipping and returns the same day if we are not satisfied with the product…sadly no money back/Survey?

Wrong guy/woman
Not tall enough
Too fat/skinny
Too old /young
No personality
Not enough hair
Not local enough
Quasi Modo/ugly Betty
obsessed with their jobs
Not my type

…we just need a some escape/sex/ compromise …do you see that in the list of entitlements?

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Petruchio911 - 05 Sep, 2023 - 05:43PM

Thanks young beckysharp.

Now where did i leave my zimmer?

NURSE !!!!!!!!

Petruchio911 - 05 Sep, 2023 - 05:43PM

Thanks young beckysharp.

Now where did i leave my zimmer?

NURSE !!!!!!!!

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tarnished knight - 05 Sep, 2023 - 03:54PM

I have always found the spark and electricity between a partner (or indeed just someone I have flirted with) the thing I go for.
We all have lumps, bumps and lines or grey hair which tells the tale of our lives or indeed genes. But if you haven't got that spark, it's all for nought.

Beckysharp - 05 Sep, 2023 - 03:06PM

Having sat through ‘swiping’ with single friends I think the quality of 40 plus men is better on here than standard OLD Petruchio! Married men will always struggle on apps, unless they are pretending to be single. Which brings a whole load of issues for them…

Petruchio911 - 05 Sep, 2023 - 01:45PM

‘sorry guys no dad bods, skinny or fat guys, I know this sounds shallow but I wont settle’

to which you respond

Im sorry i fail to meet your exeptionally narrow criteria. Best of luck finding your 6ft tall, toned alpha alpha male on here........hes probably on tinder scrolling through reams of blonde 20 somethings with plastic tits and lip fillers ...enjoy

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WillKr - 05 Sep, 2023 - 01:21PM


When on beaches in Greece and Italy there’s a very stark contrast between how British and Latin middle aged women look and behave, as a GENERAL rule.

Latin women tend to be much mire active, playing ball, swimming etc. They nibble on whole foods and oilive oil.

Now contrast to British women with fist fulls of Lays and sausage who barely move all day

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WillKr - 05 Sep, 2023 - 01:15PM

Women invaded request men are fairly tall with full head of hair, so this cuts both ways

A VERY common demand is ‘sorry guys no dad bods, skinny or fat guys, I know this sounds shallow but I wont settle’

1621339 - 05 Sep, 2023 - 12:11PM

From a mans perspective - When I was young there was almost a blueprint of what a woman should look like and I guess I went along with it to a certain extent. But I really don't have this as a priority now. I have no real expectations, only, that you look after yourself physically and mentally (thats across the board - men and women). And have a realistic outlook on life!

Santa509 - 04 Sep, 2023 - 10:40PM

I think it works both ways , unfortunately most women want a man who is 5,8" and above thus limiting their potential matches x

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Carbon41 - 04 Sep, 2023 - 10:40AM

Its not just the women, I have been rejected because of my age but actually I look 10 years younger than my actual age. I'm also very active and fit which you can't see if you don't chat about it.
My approach to this is that at a certain age we ALL carry scars and few extra pounds so "people" should accept this and not refuse acontact based on perceptio.

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Caroline Red - 01 Sep, 2023 - 06:48AM

The M is the point for most point for most women where their bodies signal very clearly that they are no longer here for sexual reproduction but for helping with grandchildren and making jam for the village fete. It's biology. Men see a 2/3 waist to hip ratio and are actually turned on by that because it signals fertility. Conversely the M releases the waistline to wander where it pleases and signal that the woman is no longer fertile. Luckily for us most men over 50 are so desperate and horny they don't care.

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Hedone - 31 Aug, 2023 - 05:28PM

Fun guy
Completely agree, glad you’re getting your moneys worth :-)

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philix86 - 30 Aug, 2023 - 05:08PM

I’ve just joined this chat. Anyone with experience of older women will know that everyone ages, some better than others.
I wonder if women worry about it too much. For me, if they are warm, pleasant people with their clothes on, they are absolutely gorgeous naked.

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Petruchio911 - 30 Aug, 2023 - 01:57PM


Interesting point in your last sentence.
This will undoubtedly have been discussed on an alternative thread but how much younger or older would members go?

Generally i set an initial criteria at 15 years younger and 5 years older but those are not set in stone if a particulr individual intrigues me.


Doubleohseven - 30 Aug, 2023 - 11:57AM

Any man beyond the age of 45 who has ever been on a Mediterranean beach, and paid any attention, will have developed very realistic, statistically-based expectations of what the average woman (or man) in his age group looks like when naked. As a result, said man will frequently draw the self-exculpatory conclusion that physical decline is perfectly acceptable - especially in himself!

I for one am always attracted by personality first and foremost. Which includes the will and effort to do more about physical decline than just shrug.
As an alternative, a 20 year age gap (downwards) seems to be working too. 😁

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ExoticOrchid - 30 Aug, 2023 - 12:46AM

TBH - 09:27PM

L&G - 10:12PM
It happens to me quite often too ... you're in good company! 😉

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Petruchio911 - 29 Aug, 2023 - 10:31PM

Hey oop long Legs.

Nothing new there....the thought police regularly censor my posts. Sense of humour bypass syndrome.


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Legs&Eyes - 29 Aug, 2023 - 10:12PM

Think Ive done 3 posts on this thread in last couple of days.

None are posted.

My voice is being silenced!

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Petruchio911 - 29 Aug, 2023 - 09:39PM

Funguy 77

Not in scotland, wales, yorkshire or cumbria.


TheBoredHousewife - 29 Aug, 2023 - 09:27PM

ExoticOrchid - 29 Aug, 2023 - 05:10PM

Tbf humour is a subjective thing. But if one thinks themselves as a funny man, then it is only fitting that they should in turn be able to laugh at themselves.

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Funguy77 - 29 Aug, 2023 - 08:22PM

@ Hedone - 29 Aug, 2023 - 05:21PM

Just not found the right woman yet that’s all
Iv only met like 4 / 5 . I bet thes other’s in this forum that go through a lot more

ExoticOrchid - 29 Aug, 2023 - 06:38PM

P99 - 06:00PM

Of course ... I'll have a Porn Star Martini please! 🍹🍿

Paula99 - 29 Aug, 2023 - 06:00PM

Exotic..join me for drink ?

I have toffee popcorn and sex on the beach

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Hedone - 29 Aug, 2023 - 05:21PM

Fun Guy I’m surprised you’re still here with all these dates you’ve had. Don’t tell me not found the right one yet?

I think some men definitely have a warped mind when it comes to sizes in particular dress size. I’ve had a few that have commented that they wouldn’t go above a 12. I’m a 12/14 (just for context). When I then point out that a woman who is tall could quite easily be a 14 and be slim they just don’t get it.

Fine if you want the gym bunny, but please if you’re not gym fit yourself then it’s definitely double standards.

ExoticOrchid - 29 Aug, 2023 - 05:13PM

P99 - 04:30PM

What flavour🍿 are you having and which 🍹?

ExoticOrchid - 29 Aug, 2023 - 05:10PM

TBH - 01:29PM

Yup ... fantasies and bitchness abound and not from a female either ... who'd have thunk it, eh? 🤷🤦🏻‍♀️

Paula99 - 29 Aug, 2023 - 04:30PM

🍿 🍹

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Funguy77 - 29 Aug, 2023 - 02:01PM

Lol Do i come across as bitchy ? 🥹
I honestly don’t mean to be

Not had my hole in like 3 months lol

TheBoredHousewife - 29 Aug, 2023 - 01:29PM

Is it time to bring the popcorn and deck chair out again?

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ExoticOrchid - 29 Aug, 2023 - 10:34AM

Wow and they say women are bitchy ... now we know!!! 🙄🤣

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Funguy77 - 29 Aug, 2023 - 09:47AM

@ Petruchio911 - 29 Aug, 2023 - 12:33AM

Has no I have no need I’m doing quite well with the lovely ladies I have dated from here thank you

Ps you will need to brush up on your witty banter jokes about sheep went out of fashion in the 70’s

Petruchio911 - 29 Aug, 2023 - 12:53AM

My style guru and body double is Spike in Notting Hill.

"Well chosen briefs....nice firm buttocks"

P911 you say it best when you say nothing at all

Petruchio911 - 29 Aug, 2023 - 12:33AM

Funguy 77.

Have you considered sheep as an alternative?

P911 only ewe

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ExoticOrchid - 28 Aug, 2023 - 10:46AM

Sandypops - 04:40AM

ONLY 52? Still a youngster!
I'm 66 and no complaints too (and without blindfold and handcuffs 🤣).

PS: IE men "in general" do "tend" to have high expectations whilst they themselves aren't exactly "to swoon for" specimens.

As I have always said, both sexes can be just as bad as each other ... that's human nature innit!

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Funguy77 - 28 Aug, 2023 - 10:37AM

Tall Dark Handsome. Did someone call !!

I’m all the above but very funny I get a right kick out of making you laugh till you nearly pee yourself

Obviously the handsome part is subjective right 😝 but as Becky said we do exist trouble is I’m in Scotland with a total poof 5 million and not say in London that has 9 million lol I still haven’t been snapped up yet

Graciehunter - 28 Aug, 2023 - 10:22AM

Like anything some will and some won't. We aren't a hive mind believe it or not.

Beckysharp - 28 Aug, 2023 - 10:05AM

And yes I am shamelessly just as bad Paula 😇😂

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Beckysharp - 28 Aug, 2023 - 09:59AM

There are definitely tall dark and handsome men on here needleinahaystack 😉

Paula99 - 28 Aug, 2023 - 08:13AM

Needle in a haystack…

Unfortunately as you have discovered…the women are just as bad …😁

Dotty Green - 28 Aug, 2023 - 07:23AM

Needle in a haystack - 27 Aug, 2023

Yeah of course only the woman here with unrealistic expectations…. Never the men eh 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Sandypops - 28 Aug, 2023 - 04:40AM

Admin really doesn't like my comments 😫
So here I go again .....

Last time I checked, I wasn't a man, so I have no idea if they have unrealistic expectations about getting naked with a woman over the age of ... shock, horror .... 45 😱

Being a fuller figure woman, with more wobbly bits than a jelly and ice-cream party, at the VERY advanced age of 52 😂, I've not had any complaints (but that could be something to do with the blindfold and handcuffs 😉

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and personality is such a turn on (Think The Twits)

Petruchio911 - 27 Aug, 2023 - 11:53PM

Margot Robbie

Im weeping uncontrolably.


Needle in a haystack - 27 Aug, 2023 - 11:33PM

I think Woman have major unrealistic expectations on here full stop. Majority all searching for someone over 6ft, tall dark and handsome 😂
Well they ain’t here because they wouldn’t need these sites😂
Instead it’s dad bods in general, some of us scrub up all right.
Ones that make me laugh the most are the people who make out they look amazing with all the filters etc and look nothing like that in real life. Completely delusional

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PonderingOne - 27 Aug, 2023 - 11:09PM

No I don’t believe so but I do think both sexes can chase more youthful partners. The beauty industry marketers do try and persuade us you can appear more youthful than your age. Just look at the media hype around Joan Collins in a white bikini at 90 and how much is spent on anti wrinkle cream each year! Confidence in your own body, having a similar outlook and appearance are far more important to finding a match. Age can be beautiful too, experience can match vigour!

beechmore11 - 27 Aug, 2023 - 10:56PM

Probably yea but it can work both ways

laugar164 - 27 Aug, 2023 - 06:49PM

Paula I never do 👍

Paula99 - 27 Aug, 2023 - 05:31PM


Don’t take it personally 😁

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laugar164 - 27 Aug, 2023 - 05:03PM

Not all men are like that for me I just want a old fashioned affair one lady so we can meet up when we can close the door and forget ourselves for a few hours allowing us to be ourselves instead of being a wife or a husband

Db360k - 27 Aug, 2023 - 04:23PM

I think many men do . But also many don’t , personally i find attractiveness comes with the way someone acts , you can not get better that a woman who is confident in her sexuality and her body when together , more so in the bedroom . This counts much more than size, stretch marks ect , we are all human and different and I love that.

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Paula99 - 27 Aug, 2023 - 04:23PM

I don’t think men do have unrealistic expectations about getting naked with a woman over 45 ..

But …

They do have unrealistic expectations of attracting pretty young things that are half their ages and are fooled into thinking that they can compete with it .

Also guys want everything … hot wives …great jobs ..family ..sports and god knows what else they fill up their ‘boring’ lives with…the expectations are high for the women involved as they want a ‘ hot gf ‘ and zero drama.

Cake and eat it comes to mind …but no compromises😕.

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Funguy77 - 27 Aug, 2023 - 03:44PM

I dislike this question. As a 45+ man I’m realistic what a woman will look like when you take into consideration if she has raised a family…

For me it’s fifty fifty looks yes but make me laugh I’m your

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smooth operator - 27 Aug, 2023 - 03:32PM

Is it just me or is this question slightly slanted?!

Whilst leaving aside the aged 45+ criteria for a moment.

Judging by the amount of ladies who place a PW request within their profile for any male respondents to adher to within their first message
and many of those who don’t generally request a PW by message 3

I would suggest that it is the ladies rather than the men becoming more visually demanding and less focused upon other elements of personality or intellect.

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Getsby - 27 Aug, 2023 - 02:07PM

Personally I don’t think as I’m into older women’s and most of time I find them they look younger than their age ,

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TallishDark&Handsome - 27 Aug, 2023 - 01:28PM

I do not believe that men have unrealistic expectations on what women should look like beyond 45, I think the problem is propagated by women and the beauty industry, I hate to see women with fillers and plastics, natural is best but I think make up can transform- something that men don’t have.

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Gentle Man Jim - 27 Aug, 2023 - 09:08AM

I can only speak for myself, but……..
I think some women think men want something different to what we actually do want.
For me an aging attractive woman remains attractive and simply changes.
I dislike plastic alterations.
Face lifts look scary. Plastic tits look so,fake.
If a woman has large breasts the it’s obvious they may head south a little as she ages. Am I honestly alone in finding them appealing? I think enhanced round things on a woman’s chest look horrid!
A wrinkling face …. Or should I say laughter lines….. enhance beauty, not ruin it!
I am far past 21 and want to explore a woman with natural aging like myself.

The post about women taking more care of,their appearance I think is a fair comment and as for margothrobbie…… Im in tears!

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1598075 - 16 May, 2023 - 11:32PM

I am sure they do, some will be disappointed others though will be enlightened.
I grew up in a naturist family and appreciate the female form

Cheesypuff - 23 Apr, 2023 - 06:20PM

Circe180 - 23 Apr, 2023 - 05:41PM

The party never stops when Cheesypuffs in town 😘

1590175 - 23 Apr, 2023 - 05:41PM


I think your'e a bit too late to her party 🤔

Cheesypuff - 23 Apr, 2023 - 05:07PM

margothrobbie - 29 Mar, 2023 - 12:57PM

Ok you've got my attention

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Springit - 12 Apr, 2023 - 11:15AM

It might sound like it’s just the right thing to say but the way someone comes across , how easily they laugh and how personable they are is way more important

Raqeem - 12 Apr, 2023 - 10:45AM

It should be like that - I guess both are the same

lovetogo - 05 Apr, 2023 - 11:26PM

Considering women are more thoughtful towards what they look like all the time men expect
Unrealistic expectations,but forget that females have given birth to children which alters their
bodies.But being a male i would much more look at a female to a fellar when they are naked
because they are lovely to look at especially as women look after themselves that much more.
so our expectations are not unfounded do you not think.

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lovetogo - 05 Apr, 2023 - 11:26PM

Considering women are more thoughtful towards what they look like all the time men expect
Unrealistic expectations,but forget that females have given birth to children which alters their
bodies.But being a male i would much more look at a female to a fellar when they are naked
because they are lovely to look at especially as women look after themselves that much more.
so our expectations are not unfounded do you not think.

Springit - 02 Apr, 2023 - 09:23PM

I can’t speak for others but I certainly don’t . If you’ve really connected with someone emotionally , it doesn’t matter anyway. I speak from experience!

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Springit - 02 Apr, 2023 - 09:23PM

I can’t speak for others but I certainly don’t . If you’ve really connected with someone emotionally , it doesn’t matter anyway. I speak from experience!

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Sammi468 - 30 Mar, 2023 - 10:16PM

I certainly do. I am horrified when the scaffolding comes off.
We can have a tendency to slide quicker.

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margothrobbie - 29 Mar, 2023 - 12:57PM

My body isn't like it used to be but I can still do things with it that will make a man cry.

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Eliza Boo - 24 Mar, 2023 - 08:03PM

bollygirl - yes yes yes! Totally agree.

1588499 - 24 Mar, 2023 - 07:21PM

bollygirl - 24 Mar, 2023 - 07:01PM

Well said 👏🏼 Imperfections make a person and the confidence with which you carry yourself is infinitely more attractive and seductive than any objectively 'perfect' body.

Having reached my mid-40s I have a former IE to thank for an awakening and confidence in myself that I've ever had before.

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1589363 - 24 Mar, 2023 - 07:01PM

Whilst I do believe an element of this men have to remember parts of their bodies change too…. I have no hesitation pointing that out to a guy if he makes any suggestion. I have never felt so confident being 50 next year in sexuality and in my life…. The body of a woman is a beautiful thing and the majority have raised children. If a man can’t appreciate the beauty of that he simply should jog on in my world… I would like to see a guy of my age find the confidence a woman of my age in a younger ‘perfect’ body … in my opinion they are more wary of the no shit attitude an older woman has not her body…

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Dotty Green - 23 Mar, 2023 - 11:22AM

ZRicky - 23 Mar, 2023 - 11:15AM

How lovely of you.

However think we covered this on a different thread - younger men and older women, for me it's a no no.... I stick to my own age or a few years either way. But it's lovely you can appreciate an older woman.

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ZRicky - 23 Mar, 2023 - 11:15AM

Apologies if already covered, but I’d like to turn this around on the ladies..

I prefer an older woman, a lot of the conversations on this site lead very quickly to the lady stating something along the lines of “you wouldn’t be interested in someone my age/body type etc”, mainly due to how they perceive someone of my age would respond

I genuinely think there is something very attractive about an older woman, but I’d love for you ladies to have confidence in yourselves and not immediately think a younger man can’t appreciate you for what you are, is it a perception that you think men have unrealistic expectations or do they actually have them

Just a random thought, no offence intended to those who disagree with any of it!

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1546412 - 22 Mar, 2023 - 07:06PM

Becky Sharp, thanks

Unfortunately, you don’t live in London. And I’m not in your age range. And the people who do (and for whom I am) don’t appear to agree with you, at present! 😄

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1483842 - 22 Mar, 2023 - 04:29PM

I do not think men or women have unrealistic expectations. We are all going on what we have experienced before aren't we? Otherwise how could we expect what we haven't experienced?

The magic I make with a lover all takes place in the mind. My husband is 5'3 and 15 stone. Because of the mental connection we have I adore every nook and cranny. The same should apply here.

We should just ASK about peoples preferences. Understand how a lover ticks. Rather than allowing someones preferences to affect your body confidence. Being honest about being 5' and 20 stone is crucial (just an example), because what you want is a person like me, that appreciates sexual attraction through the mind first. The mind is our biggest sexual organ after all. Establishing chemistry and a connection is the most important aspects. Wanting to rip each others clothes off before we meet is, for me, blinding to asthetics.
Don't be down on somebody's preferences by taking it personally. We can have whatever we want without hurting ot

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TheBoredHousewife - 22 Mar, 2023 - 02:13PM


Love a cheeky bum slap 😂😂😂😂

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Beckysharp - 22 Mar, 2023 - 11:05AM


Fwiw I think you have a good profile, and if I was your age and lived in London you’d be just what I was looking for! You come across well on forum too

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1546412 - 22 Mar, 2023 - 10:46AM

Some probably do. Men are very visually- oriented, and a lot of guys with bad sex lives are probably watching a lot of potential, which is massively unrealistic, and is bound to lead to unrealistic expectations. But I think a lot of women do, also. I’ve been knocked back repeatedly when the exchange of passwords ritual is observed. None of these women were supermodels, to my knowledge. And, while I know I’m no George Clooney, I also know from real life that I’m not a gargoyle. Women flirt with me a fair bit in the real world, but as has been discussed on here, while IRL affairs may be easier to come by, they’re also potentially messier- hence us being on here. I guess a lot of us come on here with unrealistic expectations - such as that people won’t ghost you for no reason, stand you up for no reason, etc, etc (cue snores and yawns from the forum, as Cuilleog goes into his standard rant …) 😆

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Beckysharp - 22 Mar, 2023 - 10:18AM

Yes the slap effect was mentioned by him too TBH 😂

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1588499 - 22 Mar, 2023 - 10:05AM

Ahhh, the mum tum 😋

TheBoredHousewife - 22 Mar, 2023 - 10:01AM

Indeed, some bits are meant to be wobbly. And it’s great for a female to know that her man appreciates them as well. I don’t think I could ever get tired of my man grabbing or giving my bottom a wee slap, or resting his head fondly on my mummy belly 😊

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1588499 - 22 Mar, 2023 - 09:59AM

😆 Exactly, B#! A little softness is essential!

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Beckysharp - 22 Mar, 2023 - 09:38AM

My guy complained recently complained I’d been working too hard at gym and my arse was no longer sufficiently wobbly enough for his liking 😂

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1588499 - 22 Mar, 2023 - 09:21AM

Chris, some bits are supposed to wobble 🤷🏻‍♂️

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chris19389 - 22 Mar, 2023 - 05:48AM

The comments on stats brought to mind this quote that made me laugh

"The odds are good, but the goods are odd".

Anyway I don't mind imperfections at all, but I do mind if she isn't bothering to go to the gym to stop the bits that wobble from wobbling. If *I* put the effort in, so should she.

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FluffyClouds - 21 Mar, 2023 - 10:35PM

HS -

You brought the chat to stats, all I did was quote Mark Twain. People do find relationships who aren't in the top 5%, it's maybe slightly more difficult on IE because it's a smaller community than singles sites, which the stats you refer to are based on. People also aren't looking for a soul mate on here and forever after.

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Eliza Boo - 21 Mar, 2023 - 08:55PM

Bummer, but good for him! I often think of Bob too. Top guys.👍 I miss my bloke mates from my teens and 20s. I like having guys to be silly and daft with. Maybe because I am so shit at flirting!!!

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Dotty Green - 21 Mar, 2023 - 08:44PM

Beckysharp - 21 Mar, 2023 - 08:39PM


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Beckysharp - 21 Mar, 2023 - 08:39PM

Me too LG!!! And yes he’s done ok for himself DG 😉 (I’m sure he won’t mind me saying).

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Paula99 - 21 Mar, 2023 - 08:37PM

Maybe he’s got his hands full 😉😉

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Hottie Spicy - 21 Mar, 2023 - 08:33PM

Becky, I really don't think you've understood anything I've written so far.

I get that you enjoy virtual encounters because it gives you more opportunity to flirt with lots of men, but if you want an actual, physical encounter, then surely even you can see that a 1 in 200 success rate is poor compared to 1 in 7, yes?

Dotty Green - 21 Mar, 2023 - 08:32PM

Lorelai Gilmore - 21 Mar, 2023 - 08:18PM

He’s not even playing words with friends 😂 must be well loved up 😂😂

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Eliza Boo - 21 Mar, 2023 - 08:18PM

Speaking of bloke mates, i actually quite miss Cheesey...Do you think if we say his name three times he'll come back for us?! 😃

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TheBoredHousewife - 21 Mar, 2023 - 08:05PM

Hottie Spicy - 21 Mar, 2023 - 07:06PM

By your own rationale, your final score could be one of fantasy.

I wish you a good evening.

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Hottie Spicy - 21 Mar, 2023 - 07:38PM

Illicit Penpals doesn't have quite the same allure 🤣🤣

I do take your point though - infidelity can be incredibly isolating and it's good to chat to people who are going through the same stuff.

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1588499 - 21 Mar, 2023 - 07:34PM

It's going way off topic here, thankyouverymuchBeckysharp! 😉
Back to the title. Which of you stallions on here doesn't like the odd little stretch mark, a little sag, a crooked nose etc.? I find objectively 'perfect' bodies don't do it for me at all. I much prefer 'real'.

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Eliza Boo - 21 Mar, 2023 - 07:31PM

Ive really appreciate the few platonic guy buds I've met from here. We might have complimented each other on our profiles but were not compatible due to age, or distance, but just a great chat and laugh together!

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Beckysharp - 21 Mar, 2023 - 07:27PM

Quixotic I remember you saying how much you enjoyed it 😉

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Hottie Spicy - 21 Mar, 2023 - 07:19PM

Sorry Becky but I don't think you have had any affairs. Not real ones. If you did, you wouldn't be so active on this site for year after year.

I think that you and your kind find validation in online flirting and that in itself is enough to scratch your itch. Nothing wrong with that, but it ain't an affair.

People who are genuinely satisfied with their love lives don't go on forums telling strangers how satisfied they are.

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Beckysharp - 21 Mar, 2023 - 07:18PM

I think I’ll leave you to enjoy your evening HS 🥴

I don’t think even you know what point you’re making now!

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1588499 - 21 Mar, 2023 - 07:14PM

Spicy, well, I suppose but not winning the lottery doesn't leave you any worse off and not finding anybody on IE shouldn't either.

I had an experience on here that surpasses anything I've ever experienced irl. Perhaps I was lucky but there are some very interesting and genuine people on here and they, men or women, should quite rightly be selective in who they choose.

Fwiw, I think your have a good profile. Unorthodox maybe but way better than mine!

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Hottie Spicy - 21 Mar, 2023 - 07:06PM

BH - just because you believe something doesn't make it true though.

We can all be masters at our game if we're free to make up our own final scores 🤣🤣🤣🤣

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Beckysharp - 21 Mar, 2023 - 07:03PM

Not at all HS.

So are you saying you are top 5%? As well as all of us who have longer term affairs?

My point is that we are not special, not that we are 🤷‍♀️

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Hottie Spicy - 21 Mar, 2023 - 06:56PM

Fluffy and Becky don't like the stats and would prefer to pretend that they weren't true. 🤣🤣🤣

Maybe it's because they want to believe that they are rather special and don't like the fact that EVERY woman here is inundated with male attention. Maybe that inconvenient truth devalues them in their eyes?

Quixotic, that's fair enough - but if someone hangs their hat on winning the lottery instead of grafting at a job, they're almost certainly in for a terrible disappointment, yes?

1588499 - 21 Mar, 2023 - 06:02PM

TheBoredHousewife - 21 Mar, 2023 - 05:44PM

"We can’t talk about our secret lives to anybody in the real world, and it can be isolating."

This cannot be overstated! So true.

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1588499 - 21 Mar, 2023 - 05:58PM

Hottie Spicy - 21 Mar, 2023 - 05:00PM

Like a lottery though, if your numbers do come up you can win big. Keep playing, in it to win it n'all. You might just need new balls.

Beckysharp - 21 Mar, 2023 - 05:50PM

Very true FC

And HS has proven that the stats are rubbish. Unless he is claiming to be too 5% 🤔😂

I agree TBH it’s soooo great to get a ‘make adulterer’ opinion sometimes. Could never get that irl.

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TheBoredHousewife - 21 Mar, 2023 - 05:44PM

Hottie Spicy - 21 Mar, 2023 - 05:00PM

We are long standing mates, and yes I believe them. They are masters in this game. Horses for courses. Reap success whichever way you know how and feel most comfortable in.

On the subject of chatting with others while matched. I find it incredibly helpful sometimes to talk through matters with people who can cast an impartial eye on things. We can’t talk about our secret lives to anybody in the real world, and it can be isolating. Like Becks, my male chat buddies sometimes ask for a female opinion on IE matters, and I do vice versa.

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StevenN - 21 Mar, 2023 - 05:22PM

I don't think so, I personally do not care about at this point of my life, although I do not need below 40

FluffyClouds - 21 Mar, 2023 - 05:18PM

Lies, damned lies, and statistics - phrase describing the persuasive power of statistics to bolster weak arguments

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Beckysharp - 21 Mar, 2023 - 05:10PM

Agree TBH I’ve chatted to platonic IE buddies most have had success. Sometimes they’ve even asked for advice which is cute! And I’d say even the very attractive ones have all been happy once they’ve found their IE. Most men just want regular fun with someone they fancy and trust

It’s one of the reasons I really don’t buy the incel theory stuff. It’s just making a few poor men who don’t have success feel very bitter

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Hottie Spicy - 21 Mar, 2023 - 05:00PM

TBH - Do these buddies really have success or do they just tell you they have success? 🤣

And what is their success rate?

Over the past five years or so, only one romantic partner arrived via internet dating - and that's after being rejected by about 200+ women.

By contrast, in the same timespan I've had four partners who I met IRL after being rejected by maybe 30 women - and I'm pretty sure that those four would all have swiped left had they seen me on an app. Go figure.

These days I see IE as being akin to buying a lottery ticket. You might get lucky, but you probably won't be.

TheBoredHousewife - 21 Mar, 2023 - 04:21PM

I don’t think anybody is looking to tuck great grandma into bed so that’s me away from the search radar.

But what I really wanted to write about was that I have platonic male chat buddies from IE who at first glance are not top 5%, yet have a fair amount of success, with hot women too. They must doing something right 😊

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Beckysharp - 21 Mar, 2023 - 04:06PM


Personally, once I match with someone and begin a relationship then I stop looking

You must be too 5% too!! 😂😂

Beckysharp - 21 Mar, 2023 - 03:51PM

I have a long term thing and my profile is hidden so I get relatively few messages 🤷‍♀️

I don’t think any posters on here are obviously lying. You may disagree.

I have never struggled to get exactly what I want in terms of an affair. And I guess that’s all that matters for me!

I’m always curious about men who don’t have a full membership posting comments on the forum 😂

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Hottie Spicy - 21 Mar, 2023 - 03:23PM

I'm always curious about why certain women who claim to be super-successful on this site are still on this site - unless they are muddling getting lots of male attention with actually getting a real life partner.

Personally, once I match with someone and begin a relationship then I stop looking - just like I don't spend all day looking at car ads once I've bought a car. I think there are a lot of "fake it 'til ya make it" ladies here,

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Beckysharp - 21 Mar, 2023 - 03:10PM

I guess I (and a lot of the posters on here) are all top 5% then Hottie Spicy 😉

Eejit69 - 21 Mar, 2023 - 03:09PM

Got to say I’m surprised this came up as a subject on here and in these times of body positivity. Just shows how naive I am…
Given that most of us here have been around more than one block (apologies to anyone that’s still on the first lap) and encountered life’s vagaries, that experience helps to look beyond the shallow expectations generated by media and false social norms.
Don’t get me wrong, I am attracted physically as much as the next guy, but my definition of attractive has wide boundaries. I’m not trying to ingratiate myself with the whole female population here (although I can kiss ass when needed) I think it’s closer to reality. My tuppence

Hottie Spicy - 21 Mar, 2023 - 02:51PM

Beckysharp It's hardly a conspiracy theory. There are literally hundreds of articles and dozens of data-based studies on why internet dating fails so many people so consistently (unless they are in the top 5% lookswise). You're right in part - there is definitely an imbalance of men / women, which will give women greater choice but it goes beyond that. Most women are INCREDIBLY picky about who they engage with, yet spend literally years of their lives never matching with anyone. At some point, even they have to admit that they're not helping their chances by being so super-selective, especially if they're not in the top 5% themselves.

Beckysharp - 21 Mar, 2023 - 01:43PM

Ultimately we can only control our own actions. If there are people who we think have unrealistic expectations (plenty of men on here do too!) just don’t message them,

Obviously I do feel sorry for the certain % of men on here that always struggle. But that will always happen on a site where there are more men than women. And becoming bitter about it does not add to your attraction to the opposite sex.

We are all (men and women) looking for a spark and there’s no point in doing this when it isn’t there. If you find it easier to meet people in real life- no one is stopping you! I doubt conspiracy theories help though!

Paula99 - 21 Mar, 2023 - 11:02AM


Guys do know more but women know better …😂😂

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1554570 - 21 Mar, 2023 - 10:43AM

Hottie Spicy,
Totally agree with you, ordinary women will regularly reject a guy if he is not super good looking , but then get upset and claim there are no decent men left when mr good looking blows them off.

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Hottie Spicy - 21 Mar, 2023 - 10:27AM

WillKr, I've seen exactly the same thing in almost exactly the same environment. Very average-looking female friends who are single or divorced busily rejecting any guy who isn't Orlando Bloom and then getting annoyed when the few actual Orlandos don't find them attractive enough to engage with.

Internet dating fails the lower 95% of both sexes, but for different reasons. Real life is SO much easier.

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1554570 - 21 Mar, 2023 - 09:01AM

Not personally, but reading some of the profiles on the forums think some women certainly have some incredibly unrealistic physical expectations of what they are going to find in married men 50 +

James1268 - 20 Mar, 2023 - 08:33PM

No I don't agree with this, I think men are smarter than woman think they are

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lovetogo - 20 Mar, 2023 - 08:17PM

If what is under the clothing is above i think girls put us guys to shame,women tend to be very
on the ball when its about looks at any age.Mind you they have been through having children.

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FluffyClouds - 20 Mar, 2023 - 08:11PM

BeckySharp -

I'd swipe right on Bagpuss.

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MatureWorcsBBW - 20 Mar, 2023 - 06:34PM


Long before online dating existed, I had boyfriends and then got married.

Anyone who knows me will testify that I dated men who were never considered remotely good looking and never handsome.

So although I do swipe right now as we all do, I don't do it based primarily on looks and NEVER have.

In fact I'm quite the opposite.

Good looks tend to put me off meeting someone.

Just to be clear.

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Beckysharp - 20 Mar, 2023 - 06:28PM

(You don’t say whether they were men or women swiping but I’m sure both behave equally- quick judgement based on photos)

Beckysharp - 20 Mar, 2023 - 06:17PM

I think we’d all ‘swipe left’ on those examples wouldn’t we?!

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WillKr - 20 Mar, 2023 - 05:49PM

I got an insight into online dating when 2 of my wife’s divorced friends were at a dinner party and chatting with us about how they cant find a guy. Now they on any objective measure are around average in looks, so what do you think they were like when scrolling through profiles?

They were rapid left swiping making derogatory comments on each ‘ugly, fat, wimp, bagpus, looks thick, tramp, shit wig’ etc.

I estimate they swiped 2 men per second. So the starting point is physical attraction no matter how much people say otherwise

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FluffyClouds - 20 Mar, 2023 - 03:01PM

It's all this cow talk 🤷‍♀️

FluffyClouds - 20 Mar, 2023 - 03:01PM

Syphyjohn -

Thought that read 'manured' with age, my mistake 😂

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Syphyjohn - 20 Mar, 2023 - 10:07AM

I am a twin and we look very alike, however, for some reason, he got all the action when we were younger. It goes to show looks are not everything and it is how you carry yourself.

I have matured with age but still think he is a twat. :-)

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1588499 - 20 Mar, 2023 - 09:44AM

Enigma.. - 20 Mar, 2023 - 06:55AM

It happens the other way around too, and not just here but on conventional dating sites.

One possibility though is that some people are rarely in front of the camera lens, rather than an intention to deceive. I have very few photos with me in them from any period and I don't think the wide-angle selfies you get on phones are particularly flattering!

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Enigma.. - 20 Mar, 2023 - 06:55AM


Most males on here are 🤔, imaginative, when it comes to their profile age.
I’ve had a couple of dates where I didn’t recognise them 😲😕😂.
And I’ve seen some profile pics that were well and truly out of date 🤷🏼‍♀️.
Having typed that… I suppose it’s the same for male members.

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Syphyjohn - 20 Mar, 2023 - 12:19AM

I am pretty fit, no fat on me, I work hard so it keeps me lean. I don't have unrealistic expectations, just nice boobs and a nice bum and I am a happy man.

Johnnylondon - 19 Mar, 2023 - 11:25PM

As a guy I completely agree that most men do have unrealistic expectations but I wouldn't say it's exclusive to men - a lot of profiles will often say - your manhood needs to be this size, your height needs to be this size and you have to look like you work out. I agree that there obviously has to be an attraction there (clearly) but i think both sexes have the same 'ideals' that they say they want no?

Johnnylondon - 19 Mar, 2023 - 11:25PM

As a guy I completely agree that most men do have unrealistic expectations but I wouldn't say it's exclusive to men - a lot of profiles will often say - your manhood needs to be this size, your height needs to be this size and you have to look like you work out. I agree that there obviously has to be an attraction there (clearly) but i think both sexes have the same 'ideals' that they say they want no?

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FluffyClouds - 19 Mar, 2023 - 06:50PM

Peaches & BeckySharp -

Totally agree. They can dream I suppose. It's laughable in most cases judging by the pics I've seen.

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Enigma.. - 19 Mar, 2023 - 06:37PM

Having been off the site for 2 years and I only came back on again last year.
Some of those same males, who rejected me before, are messaging me again. Saying I look good. Just their type.
Have I changed 🤔… nope. Gotten older 🤔… yes. 😂
Make of that what you will 😉😏

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Dotty Green - 19 Mar, 2023 - 06:12PM

Paula99 - 19 Mar, 2023 - 10:30AM And Becky

My moisturiser is the same as my perfume … as is my body wash … I have a very specific scent ….

I love underwear…. And I love nakedness… as I said if you feel comfortable in your own skin you are sexy !!!!

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Beckysharp - 19 Mar, 2023 - 10:44AM

I completely agree with the age range thing Peaches1. So many that would sleep with someone over half their age but not even a year older. I guess if that’s their preference then fair enough, but it’s an easy ‘no’ for me so that’s a plus!

And yessss to the feeling of skin on skin Paula99 😍

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Paula99 - 19 Mar, 2023 - 10:30AM

Becky and Dotty ..

I agree too … not a great fan of lingerie… I know guys love it but there is nothing like the feel of skin on skin ..
I use an all over moisturiser and I shave .. my IE used to love it.. yet he would shower and nothing else and yes your right Becky ….I liked him for him

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Peaches1 - 19 Mar, 2023 - 10:28AM

I think alot of men have unrealistic expectations full stop on this site. Coming across so many men on here who are in their late 40's early 50's setting their age range from 21 to their current age. I mean what pretty 21 year old is going to go with a fat, baldy, arrogant man? I think if someone is young enough to be your son / daughter then it's a no. Just my opinion as the thought makes me sick.

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Waterman08 - 19 Mar, 2023 - 10:23AM

I would say not all men, but I'm afraid most are likely to think so, and that is unfortunate. Attraction is not only viual, but in the mind and communication.

Beckysharp - 19 Mar, 2023 - 10:14AM

Completely agree DG.

My lover not massively into lingerie (and nor am i tbf) but I wax and use scented moisturiser and even that makes me feel sexy and confident.

He does neither of those things but I like him just the way he is!!

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Dotty Green - 19 Mar, 2023 - 10:03AM

I think a lot of attraction comes from if you’re happy and confident in your own skin … it shows !

For me it’s … this is me 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m never going to be a size zero …

I make the most of what I have and lingerie !!!! 😂

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1588499 - 19 Mar, 2023 - 09:56AM

I am 44 and feel in better shape than I've ever been and I'm sure the same is true of many ladies but I actually like imperfections in a person. It's what makes them unique.

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Isthisforyou? - 19 Mar, 2023 - 09:12AM

Speaking as a 50-something man, I don't think we have unrealistic expectations... we all have miles on the clock and bits don't quite fit together in the way they did in our twenties but we can still work to keep ourselves in the best shape for ourselves. Tt's just going to be different from when we were younger

1587976 - 19 Mar, 2023 - 08:25AM

I believe some men do, but speaking as a man myself, we are all different and aging is a natural process we all have to go through. If a man can’t accept that then he is not worth your time. Find someone who likes the inner you, someone who wants to get to know you for who you are.

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1587581 - 18 Mar, 2023 - 05:16PM

Beccak - I had some viens dealt with in my left leg...once I started losing weight it was odd, my left calf just remained large....That's when all the viens revealed themselves..I looked like I mismatched legs for about 6 months!

Had them done at a local BUPA place, it's worth getting it sorted if it bugs you. Mine was a bit more medical than aesthetic though.

Paula99 - 18 Mar, 2023 - 09:58AM

Ferrari ..

Well done you …I hope you find your passion 😊

Beccak - 18 Mar, 2023 - 09:39AM

Morning all.
I too am the fittest I’ve been, it’s a nice feeling other than the dreaded daily exercise. I have some varicose viens though which are starting to show behind my knee.

I don’t agree it’s unrealistic to expect a tight body, lots of older people attain it

Dotty Green - 18 Mar, 2023 - 09:24AM

TheBoredHousewife - 18 Mar, 2023 - 06:14AM

I fell asleep 😂😂😂😂

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Dotty Green - 18 Mar, 2023 - 06:34AM

FerrariFF - 17 Mar, 2023 - 10:04PM

Wow amazing - well done and I hope all is well health wise.

As I approached I took up running lost weight again like you for me !!!!

Now the dreaded M word has appeared along with a few stressful situations I’m finding it harder to keep weight off - it’s a blip - and i want to maintain how I look and feel for me !

I think like others have said if the other person is hung up on the perfectl body … then the night need to have a reality check.

If I feel comfortable with someone it brings out the confidence….

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TheBoredHousewife - 18 Mar, 2023 - 06:14AM

All things and wonderful - 17 Mar, 2023 - 11:37PM

I enjoyed reading that profile before. And then clicked on the pw…….😏

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Somniata - 17 Mar, 2023 - 11:49PM

Oh definitely. Most men do have unrealistic expectations of what a woman should look like beyond the age of 45! They think women of a certain age have stretch marks, wobbly bits and love handles galore 😅😅 Imagine the surprise when they see we still look fit!😜

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All things and wonderful - 17 Mar, 2023 - 11:37PM

Try and check WintersNight profile you might get the answer to your question and even more 😉

1588146 - 17 Mar, 2023 - 10:06PM

Most of the unrealistic expectations about body image (for women and men) is internalized guilt and nonsense from marketing / media - most of which is trying to tell us rubbish, just to sell us rubbish. That's what pre - conception is, an implanted idea.
It becomes a comparative image of ideal vs reality. It's the ideal that is rubbish - not you.

The whole commercial world runs on this crap.

Its about our internal well being - a partner who ignites it in us is what matters.

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1587581 - 17 Mar, 2023 - 10:04PM

Ironically I'm the fittest and healthiest I've ever been in my life right now. It took a health scare for me to take stock of life and have a rethink about what I was doing to myself.

I lost 5st over 2 years then spent the next two years getting really fit. I changed the way I live, not a diet, not just a bit of exercise, it was a complete change of lifestyle.

Got my teeth fixed, my eyes lasered and ended up the best version of me possible...I just did it for myself.

The unexpected side effect was confidence, something i'd never really had before. Just comfortable being me. It has been life changing.

Still have some wobbly bits and loose skin but I don't care.

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Sables - 17 Mar, 2023 - 09:57PM

I don’t no, we’ll I don’t, I like it

Eliza Boo - 17 Mar, 2023 - 09:46PM

The thing is...you look at pictures from 20 years ago, when you thought you were crap ... and you think "bloody hell, I'd do her!" So we should enjoy what we have, while we have it. Life goes so fast...you only get one body and one life.

If someone doesn't find us sexy for our body and mind and all of us, especially when we probably do everything we can in our power to make them feel amazing about themselves, maybe they are ugly people...

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Beckysharp - 17 Mar, 2023 - 09:20PM

I don’t know if it’s just me but when I’m getting neked with a guy for first time, I’m more focusing on his body and what I think of it than mine!

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Dotty Green - 17 Mar, 2023 - 09:18PM

FerrariFF - 17 Mar, 2023 - 09:12PM

Love a new outfit to surprise him each meet ! Sometimes 2 😈😈

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1587581 - 17 Mar, 2023 - 09:12PM

You got it ladies.....exploit our weaknesses!

Some lovely undies, stockings and heels and it's like a truth serum, we'll do anything for you!

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Eliza Boo - 17 Mar, 2023 - 09:05PM

Have to admit, basque, stockings and heels definitely makes me feel a bit better about my casarian and surgery wrecked stomach. I tell myself im still here and i nearly wasn't and so I shouldn't completely hate it. There's plenty I hate about me, but I do tend to focus instead on how crazy hot i find my partner!

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Dotty Green - 17 Mar, 2023 - 08:51PM

FerrariFF - 17 Mar, 2023 - 08:21PM

I’m a great lover of sexy undies…. Gives me a huge amount of confidence.

I felt I had put a bit of weight in over Christmas, mentioned to my IE about it and he was oooo bigger boobs 😂 (they’re quite impressive anyway)

I def look after myself and exercise … I’m always slightly shy on the first encounter … but that doesn’t last long I’m quite happy with my body.

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Shinetime99 - 17 Mar, 2023 - 08:21PM

My first girlfriend was 12 years older than me and I remember being besotted by her body. She had had kids and stretch marks but her body was the most perfect thing in the world to me. I loved the fact we got to explore and enjoy every inch of our bodies. Our bodies all get older, but to me get no less beautiful/sexy.

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1587581 - 17 Mar, 2023 - 08:21PM

The alternative is get some nice lingerie that covers up the bits that you're self conscious about but you still look/feel great.....

For some reason us men are hardwired with the sexy underwear thing, no idea why, but it is what it is. Forbidden fruit or something, the anticipation of whats coming..., but it works, whatever the psychology is behind it.

So use all the tools available to you to make it fun for you.

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1587581 - 17 Mar, 2023 - 08:12PM

Amarulla - The right man will give you that confidence but you've got help him with that just a little bit. You've got appear confident, just long enough to make him think you are. It's a dance, a game, a bit of an act.

We're simple creatures, even at 53 much nuance and all the body language just flies over my head. I see a lady who feels sexy herself, she makes me feel sexy then the way we behave makes her feel wanted and sexy in return......be obvious, try and

Think of it as a mindset, see if you can switch it on for just 20 minutes or so and it all becomes self fullfilling. Then the upside is you feel so good about what just happened that you actually start to feel good about yourself anyway.

If the guy isn't helping, he's the wrong guy. But then you don't need me to tell you that, that's why you're here!

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Amarulla - 17 Mar, 2023 - 07:57PM

I think the unrealistic expectation is about how women should feel in their bodies, rather than expectations on how they should look.
Confidence is attractive, yes. But when gravity, childbirth and all else has had its turn, its easier to be critical than confident. Yet men expect confidence...

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Beckysharp - 17 Mar, 2023 - 07:07PM

I get those too 😂 - they keep us grounded!!

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1585013 - 17 Mar, 2023 - 07:06PM

Mind and connection is the key … and the body could be a bonus .. but I agree with the gravity comment , and the fact women are probably more worried about this than their dates .. but it’s always fun finding out whether you click or chemistry exists after you meet

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TheBoredHousewife - 17 Mar, 2023 - 06:56PM

Beckysharp - 17 Mar, 2023 - 06:13PM

I get reality checks on a regular basis from my nearest and dearest 😆

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Marriedguy47 - 17 Mar, 2023 - 06:41PM

I personally like a older woman and find a woman who is classy but older far more sexy in body and mind.

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Legs&Eyes - 17 Mar, 2023 - 06:33PM

FerrariFF - 17 Mar, 2023 - 06:04PM

I agree with every word of that post! Lol... Yes I too did 12 months on dating apps and also underwent the 'apprenticeship' - horrendous!

And yes I learnt that chemistry is chemistry - and you cant really detail it in full on a profile!

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Beckysharp - 17 Mar, 2023 - 06:13PM

I can tell you don’t work in advertising TBH 😂

Hottie Spicy - 17 Mar, 2023 - 06:13PM

A friend of mine who is a masseur told me that 9 out of 10 of her female clients start a session by apologising for how their body looks.

Men never do.

I think it's women who have unrealistic expectations of how they should look naked.

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TheBoredHousewife - 17 Mar, 2023 - 06:06PM

Nobody has the ability to fight gravity.

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1587581 - 17 Mar, 2023 - 06:04PM

This is the whole "spark" conversation in a nutshell.

You meet someone - you could have been chatting to them for weeks and you feel.......nothing, just flat, so dissapointing. They could tick every box on your wish list but for some reason it's just not there.

The next person you meet ticks half your boxes but makes you feel like a teenager again.....we don't have any control over this.

I'm glad I did 10 months on regular dating apps before I arrived here, I learned more about myself in that 10 months than the previous 20 years! It feels like a I did an apprenticeship!

I would have been a rabbit in the headlights here without that experience.

So throw all your preconceptions out the window, age, body type, hair colour, education, how bigs your dick! The lot....

If you hit it off, you hit it off.

Isn't it funny that it takes until your 50's to undertand all this crap, when everything's going or gone south or wrinkly and you care far less about what other people think about you!

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1587581 - 17 Mar, 2023 - 05:24PM

There's a reason our American cousins refer to the act as "bumping uglies".....

Eliza Boo - 17 Mar, 2023 - 05:13PM

Attraction isn't something you choose. Even if your brain disagrees. It isn't even superficial, its primordial. The eyes take precedent, and if a man doesn't fancy what he sees it just isn't going to happen. I lament this, but I also accept it. Women in their 40's dont look like the women men had in their 20's. But the men don't look the same either... no matter how much running or press-ups they do. Expectations regularly have to be updated accordingly.

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1585013 - 17 Mar, 2023 - 04:57PM

Men surely always have unrealistic expectations .. mainly about their own abilities ..

I hope they wouldn’t have any preconceptions of how a woman should look naked .. but if there is chemistry and attraction - then the eyes had me all along …

Nothing that attractive about a naked fifty year old Penis and balls is there … ha ladies look much better naked fullstop ..

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rogerlikearabbit - 17 Mar, 2023 - 04:18PM

I have heard a saying which says women age like fruit whilst men age like wine.

Thanos McM - 17 Mar, 2023 - 04:00PM


I'm not experienced enough on this site to separate the dreamers from the serious people.
But it's good to know that I'm in with a chance if the 12inch fantasists are the minority 😂

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Thanos McM - 17 Mar, 2023 - 03:57PM

Don't shoot the messenger 🙌
I'm just relaying what I've read 😆
I'm glad not all women need a full foot, I'd have no hope!

1579917 - 17 Mar, 2023 - 03:40PM

Paula99... 20 mins 😄

Fingers lips and tongues for as long as possible I'd be 20 seconds banging away after the years of nothing 😔

Paula99 - 17 Mar, 2023 - 03:17PM


9 inches plus … it’s painful and often guys rely on their size …banging away for 20 mins is not my idea of good sex..😕

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Hedone - 17 Mar, 2023 - 03:11PM

More than likely those profiles are from women o are living in fantasy land
I.E flakes, just want the attention, no intention of meeting

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Thanos McM - 17 Mar, 2023 - 03:08PM

Women are definitely more judgemental to themselves than men are,
Confidence is hot, and in my very little to non existent experience with women who are 40-45+, older women seem more confident in themselves, and rightly so.
Which again, is hot.
Men love the wobbly bits! Well I do anyway 😂

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1582894 - 17 Mar, 2023 - 03:00PM

I think we’re all pretty aware of the effects of ageing, it’s obviously nice to be with someone who looks after themselves and is confident in their appearance. I do think women are often much harsher on themselves than men are… confidence is sexy

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1579917 - 17 Mar, 2023 - 02:50PM

IMO you've just got to be happy with yourself. If you overindulge you've got to work it off (haven't been able to burn any calories in the sack for years)
Age is how you feel pretty sure most on here over 40 feel 21 that's why we are on here so treat others the same as you feel and give them a chance
It'll soon become apparent if they're stubborn old gits

Redfirefox - 17 Mar, 2023 - 02:32PM

I can’t say I’ve ever stipulated I want a man well endowed but I wouldn’t want a cocktail sausage either. And I certainly wouldn’t want anything over 9” even that’s a stretch. I don’t want a baggy Fanny.
And when you’ve got my colour hair I’m certainly not picky on other peoples colours. I just want them to have hair to grab and confidence in their abilities.
Not arsed about body shapes with 2 exceptions.. extremes. Couldnt do very skinny otherwise I’d feel like the hippo next to the duck from the silent night bed advert and I couldn’t do morbidly obese.
Again everyone has their preferences and I think women can be just as picky as men. And why not. For both sexes it important to get it right.

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Thanos McM - 17 Mar, 2023 - 02:15PM

I've seen a lot of profiles asking for
Tall dark handsome, must be well endowed.
I'm blonde so I'm out of those ones 😆
Maybe 12 inches is an exaggeration

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Hedone - 17 Mar, 2023 - 02:03PM

I’m not sure many women on here want 12 inches, I most certainly don’t. I prefer pleasure to pain

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Thanos McM - 17 Mar, 2023 - 12:45PM

We all know the over 45s are the hottest!
I think it's the ladies that have unfair expectations of men, we can't all be tall dark and handsome with 12inches

1490598 - 17 Mar, 2023 - 12:45PM

Most people have something they don't like about there body. I think you'll find that those who workout regardless of how they look ate the most critical of themselves. I like to stay in shape for a multitude of reasons but I don't expect my partner to. I have met incredible woman of all shapes. It's about a confidence that makes them attractive and sexy.

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Hedone - 17 Mar, 2023 - 11:50AM

I’m not sure he’ll read your forum post, too busy with his inbox ☺️

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Paula99 - 17 Mar, 2023 - 11:46AM


So you have a sack of replies in your in box …like to see that one 😂

Hedone - 17 Mar, 2023 - 11:41AM

Oh dear Richie
Is that photo getting you far? You look quite recognisable from it btw

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Beckysharp - 17 Mar, 2023 - 11:33AM

In your dreams @Richie 😂

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Hedone - 17 Mar, 2023 - 10:35AM

Men and women. I hate the guys who say their ie needs to be below a size 14. Ahem you could be 6ft tall and be a size 14, it doesn’t mean you’re fat!

As far as I’m concerned it’s what you do with it and confidence that makes a person sexy and that my friends comes with age

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Fidges1 - 17 Mar, 2023 - 10:11AM

Not at all in. My 📖 like all types 😂😂 I’m just deprived 😂😂

1579641 - 17 Mar, 2023 - 09:57AM

Naked attraction, everyone should have at least a half naked photo so we know what we’re getting, it’s all about selling yourself

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Redfirefox - 17 Mar, 2023 - 09:29AM

In my short couple of months time on here I’ve found quite the opposite.
Everyone, man or woman, deserves the right to have their own body type preference. As so I.
I make it very clear what my idea of curvaceous is. I’m tits, ass, and some wobbly bits. Size 14-16. So the men that contact me know this already. Those who want a slim slender gym bunny would skip past me. As is their right to.
And yes, I’m one of ‘those’ women that genuinely gets insecure from time to time however so far every single guy on here has been very reassuring and complimentary. Sure they could be lying through their back teeth 😂 but it’s been a massive boost to my self confidence.

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1575239 - 17 Mar, 2023 - 09:08AM

the young model types might be eye candy but give me a real woman with curves ,humps and bumps etc So much sexier

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Dave180 - 17 Mar, 2023 - 09:03AM

Certain men maybe but for me we all have humps & bumps & scars & that’s what makes us real. Would rather a real woman all day long

1587581 - 17 Mar, 2023 - 08:57AM

I think it's a mindset, I like someone who's healthy. That doesn't mean thin or skinny, or six packs with taught skin just conscious about your lifestyle. I'm very fit for my age, but I have la small amiunt of loose skin, it is what is and part of who I used to be.

We're not all built the same and being sexy is far more to do with a frame of mind and confidence than unrealistic magazine images.

Obesity though is not attractive, but that links back to health as it's probably someone who isn't that bothered about food intake or exercise.

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1490598 - 17 Mar, 2023 - 08:47AM

I'm way beyond 45 and my body is looking pretty damn good thanks 😁

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1490598 - 17 Mar, 2023 - 08:46AM

Do women?

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