Do you have a type?
If you do, are you disappointed when someone you’ve been messaging turns out not to be your ‘type’?
Or like me, who doesn’t have a type, do you find life on IE interesting and successful?!
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Mister.E.Mann - 28 Sep, 2023 - 04:12PM
I'm with Boudicca (metaphorically). At my stage of life I find the most attractive part of a woman is between her ears so it is relatively quick and easy to discover if she's "my type". Any disappointment would be minimal. I am also attracted to anyone who fancies me so, I guess, that would make them "my type"! 😄 I would generally hope to have a good idea of her physical shape (from photos, descriptions, etc.) before we met, so disappointment would be minimal there, too.
As for an IE "success rate", about 10% reply to my initial message and, maybe 3% engage in a "conversation" over more than one session but it is definitely interesting!
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Boudicca - 28 Sep, 2023 - 12:13PM
I suspect that we all have physical and personality attributes that we find more attractive.
I find intelligence and quick wit incredibly attractive but if I don’t find you physically attractive also, it’s only going to lead to friendship.
So yes, I’d be disappointed if I hit it off with someone on an intellectual level and then I wasn’t attracted to their physical form.
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Boo433021 - 26 Jul, 2023 - 09:11PM
@Dotty. I agree you have to give people a chance. I think as you get older your prospective on what is or rather who is attractive changes. Sometimes at work I find myself attracted to women just because of the way they carry themselves. Or because of thei mannerism that they have about them. All this without a word spoken. To look at I would not be attracted but its something about them. If that makes sense. So I am happy to meet most people. Its slightly harder on here because it all depends on the written word. And if the profile you like struggles communicating via message then you are screwed. I recently spoke to someone for a week who only replied with one word answers. That was stressful. So I would definitely meet and see how it goes.
1612031 - 18 Jul, 2023 - 10:00PM
Free, easy and likes to go commando
1604745 - 06 Jul, 2023 - 07:44AM
AB negative
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1608792 - 05 Jul, 2023 - 08:41PM
@Dotty,
I, I mean he will be gutted. Premier Inn?
Dotty Green - 05 Jul, 2023 - 12:59PM
dodgydavetherave - 05 Jul, 2023 - 08:25AM
Soz - not even if it is a top of the range VW ......
1608792 - 05 Jul, 2023 - 08:25AM
@Dotty,
He will be gutted. He has got a really nice camper though :-)
Dotty Green - 04 Jul, 2023 - 06:15PM
dodgydavetherave - 04 Jul, 2023 - 04:39PM
Sorry mate … not sure any of my meets involve a camper van … you can pass that onto your ’mate’ 😂😂👍🏻👍🏻
1608792 - 04 Jul, 2023 - 04:39PM
@Dotty,
Does a camper van meet come before a hotel meet, just checking for a friend.
Dotty Green - 04 Jul, 2023 - 04:05PM
I was kidding myself I did not have a type but I so do... total sucker for a silver fox, however not all of my liaisons have been like that. There has to be a connection, the chat needs to flow, you need to get on, I am definitely one to take a chance and meet up, as that is when you really know if there is a connection. By meet up that is for the initial coffee or drink, not a hotel meet (that comes much much later).
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1608792 - 04 Jul, 2023 - 03:28PM
When I was younger then yes I always tried to punch above my weight. Now older, wiser and a little heavier, I look more for a personality match.
Paula99 - 28 Jun, 2023 - 10:13AM
Good looking guys …hmmm
You can’t take second best but we are all ‘imperfect’ 😊
BlindingPleasure - 28 Jun, 2023 - 10:02AM
I think everyone needs to be attracted to the person they want to have this type of relationship with. A physical attraction is ideal for me, and I have found that I was attracted to slightly older men. However, if they look good but zero personality or chemistry then it won't work either. That's why this is tricky, but worth it when you find a good one
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Danjam441 - 28 Jun, 2023 - 09:23AM
I have a type but it’s not necessarily the be all and end all. If you find that click with someone then type goes out the window (I do like a dark haired busty women though lol)
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masterbatesalot - 27 Jun, 2023 - 04:12PM
Anything with a pulse and resembling a woman will do me. It has got me into trouble in Amsterdam and Thailand, but you live and learn.
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1605394 - 26 Jun, 2023 - 12:23PM
Yes reading profiles can be exciting and make you respond with what you think is something that might apeal to get to know that person . You wait in hope of a positve respons from them . Well how many times can you crash and burn ! It is hard when you join here to escape the things that are missing , good for those that suceed . How many dont fit tge type .
Kiss_Lover - 26 Jun, 2023 - 11:13AM
Not really because your should exchange pics within the first few msgs. Connections important but attraction doesn’t lie.
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1604745 - 18 Jun, 2023 - 11:03AM
I leave photos until much later, although looks are important I care more about the individual and less about the looks if i find her warm and easy to talk to. I wouldnt be chatting to you in the first place if your profile description was not attractive to me.
I think its worse when you meet and the person you have been messaging looks nothing like they did in photos. (yes, i have been catfished a few times)
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getfun - 14 Jun, 2023 - 01:45PM
I know why I'm here, if I was looking for a type I don't think that this is the place for that.
Those looking for a type, they already have that home so they should be happy
ChilledJon - 13 Jun, 2023 - 11:15AM
I think most people have something attractive about them regardless of type.
EmnEm123 - 12 Jun, 2023 - 10:01PM
Not this old chestnut? Still?
I like a small, fat, ugly guy with bad teeth and stinking breath.
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Big G2221 - 12 Jun, 2023 - 08:49PM
Good evening ladies.
Goodnight gentleman ha ha
How we doing out there in IE land?
Does any ladies fancy a chat?
Paula99 - 12 Jun, 2023 - 06:29PM
Ed Watson …
We are not inundated with messages contrary to what many guys think and we don’t choose to ignore unless the person is a sex pest 😊
Most of the time the guys are not Gold members so they can’t message so they send those God awful VKs and trashy gifts…plus we can’t see if the guys are fully paid up so it’s not the case of ignorance as far as I know …
I am sure the regular forum chatters will explain a little more .. plus there are so many bots and fake accounts on here like many other ‘hook up’ sites that the guys get dispondant and decide that they are not getting ‘value for money ‘ and therefore brand is as the ‘entitled’ 😂😂😂
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1601112 - 12 Jun, 2023 - 04:42PM
I don't really have a 'type'. I guess if I was asked to choose someone from a bunch of pictures, I'd revert to looks, types, ages, etc...For me it's much more about the connection found here. So when we've met, I already know it'll be good.
Emsylou494 - 12 Jun, 2023 - 03:10PM
I don't believe that is true, unless it is just me who is lacking in receiving messages! Lol. I feel it is down the person and their character, and not defined by their sex etc.
I do have a type but a connection and chemistry are more important. If you are lucky enough to find this, attraction follows.
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Emsylou494 - 12 Jun, 2023 - 03:07PM
This certainly is not the case. Unless, it is just myself who lacks in receiving messages. Lol.
It all depends on the person you are interacting or attempting to interact with. I don't believe it matters which sex you are. Just the person's character etc.
I do have a type but chemistry and a connection are more important. if you are luck to find this attraction can follow.
EdWatson - 12 Jun, 2023 - 01:25PM
I don't have a type, as to me it's more about connecting intellectually and emotionally.
I do find life on IE interesting, although I can't say, as yet, successful. It can be frustrating, and at times annoying. I suspect it may well be different for guys as it is for ladies, but only seeing one side I can't say that from any position of authority. I suspect that ladies get inundated with messages, so much so that they can't respond to them all, hence the lack of responses to the guys, whereas the guys get used to being ignored when they may spend a long time carefully drafting a message.
Maybe I'm wrong. I'll happily be corrected if that's the case as I genuinely would love to know.
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Paula99 - 12 Jun, 2023 - 11:27AM
Beckysharp…right on the nose😁
Bobcat…get real !!!!
Do you really think that you will sustain an affair with a woman of 21?…you would be old enough to be her father 🙄
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BobcatOz - 12 Jun, 2023 - 10:44AM
My type is a confident woman who knows herself and knows what she wants. Not necessarily dominant but with that sparkle that comes from being naughty.
Also I like smooth skin (not a big fan of tattoos)
BobcatOz - 12 Jun, 2023 - 10:40AM
I think people who want to be discreet are often reluctant to share photos especially when talking with people living locally.
Legs&Eyes - 09 Jun, 2023 - 03:25PM
Enigma.. - 09 Jun, 2023 - 07:19AM
Yes, the photo thing is quite bad at the moment for me.. sick of seeing 1 solo photo, or everything from a distance like you say, on a horse, climbing a mountain (yawn..), jumping from a plane etc.
No-one seems to like me asking why that is either - I think 4 times in the past week Ive said we all either have a camera on a smartphone or attached to the top of the laptop, so holiday photos circa 2015 are really not necessary! I'm also asking - is this how you look this week?
I have 6 or 7 photos on my profile - and I change them, I added a new one this week. So one grainy shot doesnt cut it for me - not if you have a smartphone - for me its lazy or deceitful - or a combo of the 2!
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1603698 - 09 Jun, 2023 - 12:58PM
I find my type evolves every time I find the next big crush.
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Take a chance859 - 09 Jun, 2023 - 10:21AM
Why should we have a Type anyway. If you click with someone via messaging i feel it should just go from there. I personally don’t have a Type just someone with a nice personality and easy to chat to and see what happens.
Beckysharp - 09 Jun, 2023 - 09:59AM
Think of it as a good screening tool. No effort required on your part!
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TheBoredHousewife - 09 Jun, 2023 - 08:39AM
Enigma.. - 09 Jun, 2023 - 07:19AM
I stopped talking to one recently exactly due to those reasons. Old photos, blurry, from a distance, poor lighting. Honestly there wasn’t one decent picture. When I told him about it, he insisted they were ok. If they were ok, I would have had no qualms returning the favour of my pw 😏 My photo is a face shot, no filter. I really expect the same courtesy from the people that I exchange pws with.
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Enigma.. - 09 Jun, 2023 - 07:19AM
Chatting about pics…
Anyone else getting fed up being sent pics that are years out of date?
Heavily filtered?
Taken in a bathroom, public/hotel loo, in cars/vans/lorries etc?
Taken from a distance?
Every pic has the side of the face showing and none taken from the front?
In every pic they have sunglasses on?
Jumping out of a plane, riding a horse, climbing up a mountain, skiing, swimming in a Loch? And the pics are, very obviously, not the person in the facial shots, lol?
No facial shots at all just other parts of their bodies?
I don’t know about anyone else but I find off putting 🤷🏼♀️🙄
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Notts2023 - 08 Jun, 2023 - 08:11PM
I send my password straight away, it's pointless messaging for days and then finding out you're not attracted to the person when you eventually see their pics.
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David Copperfield - 08 Jun, 2023 - 07:58PM
Experience tells me that I'll have more success finding my type if I take more care entering my basic credentials information. Such as 'I am a male seeking a female'. All sorts of things happen when I misplace my specs. Just saying......
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1493580 - 08 Jun, 2023 - 01:53PM
Just joined but for me I have not been asking for pictures until we have at least exchanged a few messages. I want to try and get to know somebody a little and then see what they look like. Not sure if this is the right approach but it's the one I feel comfortable with.
I guess we all have a type that we are more attracted too but if you have nothing in common with somebody and can't even exchange a few messages then does it really matter what they look like unless all your after is a quickie ?
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MrSoftToffee - 08 Jun, 2023 - 01:00PM
I never thought that I had a physical type as I like to go on a persons personality, and while never set in stone, apparently, 5 foot 4/5 inches and cuddly appears to be my physical type. 🤣🤣But my top type will always be personality looks.
Beckysharp - 08 Jun, 2023 - 11:46AM
I think sometimes a type is hard to define in words. Can only be seen from photo
I do read what the ideal partner for a man is. And if I don’t fit description I wouldn’t message/reply.
1600057 - 08 Jun, 2023 - 10:35AM
I would not say that their is a type so much....there are too many factors involved. For example if you say you prefer curvy red heads who are confident you can always meet someone who fits that criteria and then they turn out to just not click.
For me, it is more about attitude, is there a spark, a connection, do you feel like you're on the same page, are they genuine, are you looking for the same thing.
When I look back at my previous relationships or even flings, everyone is different and it is more about the passion, the connection......a 'type' limits your options in my view and not in a good way.
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Enigma.. - 05 Jun, 2023 - 07:33PM
@FluffyClouds @ ExoicOrchid
I did explain why and he did apologise and understood why I didn’t want to take thing’s further.
I just felt that he had said yes for the sake of it. That I wasn’t what he was looking for and I would “do” until what he was looking for came along.
2 weeks, 2 months down the line he would send a message saying he had met someone else more suited.
Anyhoo… no harm done and his loss.
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FluffyClouds - 05 Jun, 2023 - 02:32PM
Enigma -
He probably thought he could do better, then realised, eventually, that he couldn't.
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ExoticOrchid - 05 Jun, 2023 - 02:05PM
Enigma.. - 07:19AM
Did he have the grace to reply and even dare I say apologise?
(I'm guessing not?)
TheBoredHousewife - 05 Jun, 2023 - 08:00AM
HereAgain365 - 04 Jun, 2023 - 11:28PM
Don’t you find that once you’ve had a substantial IE/affair, that any subsequent person who comes along pales in comparison? I know we shouldn’t compare, but maybe subconsciously we do 🤷🏻♀️
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Enigma.. - 05 Jun, 2023 - 07:19AM
This happened to me a couple of weeks ago.
A male sent me a message. I read his profile and liked what I had read. So I messaged back. We messaged on the site for two days then he sent me his photo password.
I instantly recognised him. I didn’t say anything but sent him my password.
He replied that I was just his type.
Unfortunately… I had to message back saying that I did not want to take things further as we had already chatted last year. It had gotten as far as exchanging passwords and he told me then that I wasn’t his type. I wished him well.
All I could think about was that he was back on the site, new username, he had rejected me then but now I was, suddenly, his type!?!
He came across at being a tad desperate.
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mrrocket007 - 04 Jun, 2023 - 10:59PM
The physical experiences over the years have made me broaden my type and i am much more open now. I find that if things are going well it’ better to get to do pictures early to avoid a house of cards scenario. I tell them upfront, it’s no problem if I’m not their type and wish them all the best. It’s just the way it works, be kind.
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1602473 - 04 Jun, 2023 - 09:58PM
Redheads have always been my "type" i blame it on my first :)
other than that as long as i can strike up a good conversation that doesnt just mean we sit there in silence, i'm happy. Never bothered by size, height, anything like that.
i went through a phase in my early 20s that i didnt want to be alone, so i was totally not picky, and that was probably my best choice i made in life. there were obviously a few bad connections along the way, but it didnt stop me.
as long as i wasnt being taken for a ride, i gave everyone a chance. i think this is the best view to take in life.
Dotty Green - 04 Jun, 2023 - 08:52PM
Stacey644 - 04 Jun, 2023 - 07:22PM
It still seems that older men just want young girls
I’ve not found this at all …. My current guy is 56 … the one previous was 58 ….
Maybe write yourself a personal profile rather than using the computer generated one - you may peak more interest 🤷🏻♀️
David Copperfield - 04 Jun, 2023 - 07:53PM
Stacey644
I'm sorry to hear you've had that experience. Regardless of this being an IE date , it is sexual assault . How you report this is just way beyond my experience . Can you not at least inform the administrator at IE about the predator ?
As for older men just wanting young girls .... I've just realised my error and need to adjust my profile accordingly . Blame it on me being a newbie and I didn't really think when completing the profile criteria. I must correct it.
Not all older chaps are looking for a young lass here . I'm very sure many of us appreciate chatting and meeting women of our generation. I for one find someone my age much easier to relate to ; knowledge, music , culture as well as common courtesies. Sometimes it feels that basic good manners have gone out of fashion.
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Stacey644 - 04 Jun, 2023 - 07:22PM
It still seems that older men just want young girls.
I did meet a younger man but started to treat me like a hooker, totally disrespectful. I said no but he groped me was very persistent and grumpy because I didn’t put out.
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David Copperfield - 04 Jun, 2023 - 04:17PM
Suppose I treat it like fishing in some ways. Heading out in a boat hoping to catch something but not expecting to. It is a good day out and better than being stuck in the house.
Even if the person I've been messaging turns out not to be the object of my desire you can still be friendly and enjoy the banter.
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TheBoredHousewife - 04 Jun, 2023 - 02:37PM
Waskally Wabbit - 04 Jun, 2023 - 02:00PM
Would you do a quick round trip flight from Dubbers just to wave to someone at a UK airport (they would have to come to Arrivals to wave hi to you) 😊
If so, I have greatest respect and applaud you ✈️👏🏼👏🏼
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1577296 - 04 Jun, 2023 - 02:00PM
Perhaps its best to find out if they are your type first ...after the initial few salvos on here arrange a quick passing meet in a public place..just agree to say "hi" ..nothing more...and then go on your way . You then both know if its worth while spending interminable hours doing the " finding out about them " thing on here ...would save an awful lot of wasted time and disappointment !
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Eliza Boo - 28 Feb, 2023 - 03:36PM
Long, lean, clever geek-boy in specks...spread on toast.....mmmmm!!!
Sorry, its spring! Sap is rising!
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1573440 - 28 Feb, 2023 - 11:23AM
I'm either attracted to someone or I'm not. I don't have a type. But finding someone who wants the same thing... That's a nightmare!
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Sascha_9 - 25 Feb, 2023 - 10:28PM
I think it's difficult when you click when chatting and they don't do it for you when you see them. Or worse they show up not looking like their profile pic. I think this whole thing is risky so I refuse to lower my standards......
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Sascha_9 - 25 Feb, 2023 - 10:28PM
I think it's difficult when you click when chatting and they don't do it for you when you see them. Or worse they show up not looking like their profile pic. I think this whole thing is risky so I refuse to lower my standards......
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Bootycallicious - 24 Feb, 2023 - 10:35PM
I don't have a type, however, it is normal that some people attract us and some don't do anything for us...be they male or female. 😊
TheBoredHousewife - 24 Feb, 2023 - 10:35PM
ExoticOrchid - 24 Feb, 2023 - 09:57PM
Yup!
No more, no less, not offensive.
rodstripe - 24 Feb, 2023 - 10:20PM
I struggle with Geminis.
And people who don't read my profile about the types I like.
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ExoticOrchid - 24 Feb, 2023 - 09:57PM
Here's one Ladies and Gents:
"Thank you. I wish you well."
Just that. Nothing else. 🤷🏻♀️
Dotty Green - 24 Feb, 2023 - 11:47AM
Redfirefox - 24 Feb, 2023 - 12:23AM
I hate this dilemma - and yes not being vain either it has happened the other way round to me too!! I literally hold my breathe then open the photo and think aw no.... I do normally have to say you look lovely but sorry not my type - what else can you say......
I love the silver fox kind of look but that is never set in stone and I really really do not try and put too much into a photo and I await for the first meet so I am def not materialistic - but some people I just am not attracted to..... (and I know I am not everyone's type and many would say I am not attractive ....) it is always hard.
I think just be nice and if they take it that way great - if they don't then you have had a lucky escape. There is always someone out there and you will be each other's cup of tea
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Paula99 - 24 Feb, 2023 - 11:41AM
RFfox…
Unlike ‘love’ we are not programmed to be attracted to everyone ..I used to say to my children .. I love you very much but today I don’t like you..
It would all be very boring if we we attracted to everything that walked … we are human and all like different things ..
As long as you are civil and you say that you’re not for me you’re too far away or something similar ..I have rejected guys on the basis of the above reason and I haven’t seen their pw but most guys will say thankyou for replying and goodluck .. if you share your Pw and the guy just disappears then he hasn’t got the balls to tell you (pet hate) ..if they can’t take the rejection then it’s their loss..this isn’t the play ground 😊
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Beckysharp - 24 Feb, 2023 - 11:30AM
@teper_1961
Saying someone is not your type is just a kind way of saying you’re not attracted to them.
@redfirefox
I normally say they look great but not quite what I’m looking for and wish them luck. Must be better than ghosting! Be brave!
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This is the way - 24 Feb, 2023 - 11:19AM
Redfirefox
It depends. Whether or not you care about potentially hurting peoples feelings or coming across as uncaring or even a ‘dick’.
I would always be honest and just say. We’re all adults and have had rejections throughout life I’m sure.
One lady told me what they sometimes say is, ‘sorry you look too much like my brother/whatever and it would be too weird for me’.
Ironically someone did this to me before I learned this and I had to smile. 🤣
This is not necessarily honest, but at least it is better than just blocking.
Although I do get that people are concerned they’ll be verbally abused for rejecting others.
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AdventurousGent - 24 Feb, 2023 - 09:58AM
Yes I have a type.. I like a woman who doesn’t have a type! A sense of adventure and an open mind x
1444888 - 24 Feb, 2023 - 08:39AM
What still amazes me, is the number of profiles that say they 'don't have a type' (male and female) yet as soon as they see a photo, 'you're not my type'.
Whats the saying, ' If you always do what you always did, you always get what you always got'
Maybe if the type you are looking for is the same type as what you have/had at home, then presumably, you will always end up in the same position as you are now, 3,6,12,24 etc months down the line. Then you're back here again.
Maybe its time to ditch the type you're used to, ignore the type you don't like, but try those in-between?
just a thought!
Paula99 - 24 Feb, 2023 - 05:31AM
It’s fair to say men/women are going to maximise their options eg disclosing the 21 to 99 element …but running both sexes down isn’t going to solve anything ..not everyone is genuine and some have ulterior motives but some of us have been doing this kind of thing for a long time …yes we will encounter the hook up stereotypes over … treat this an an enterprise and have some laughs along the way ..
Remember you won’t always be doing this !!!👍
Redfirefox - 24 Feb, 2023 - 12:23AM
I could do with some advice …
I often find i can be messaging someone and build a real rapport with them. Then as soon as pw’s are swapped I’m gutted. There’s no attraction at all. (I’m not being vain btw as I’m sure it’s happened vice versa)
So I need advice really on how to handle it properly?
I hate and I mean HATE rejecting people unless they’ve been an arsehole in which case I take pleasure in it.
But how do I turn down a really nice decent guy who I’m not attracted to? So far I’ve took the cowardly route and blocked them because I can’t face telling them.
1554570 - 23 Feb, 2023 - 09:32PM
Okies….
But how many gent’s (coughs) on this site ACTUALLY describe their “ideal” female?
Usually it’s “nothing entered”… booooooooooring 😴. Or ages 21 to 99… seriously 😂. Etc, etc, etc…
Why!?! Hmmmmmmm… 🤔.
I’ll tell you why 😏
They don’t want to miss out by stating exactly what they are looking for.
^^ How many women have “nothing entered”, plenty do,
it’s just not fair to say “men are boring because they do / don’t do xyz”, because women on the forum do exactly the same thing
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Eliza Boo - 23 Feb, 2023 - 08:39PM
I read something on fb recently that said "women sleep with who they want but marry who they can. Men sleep with who they can but marry who they want".
It was so sharp it was like sucking a grapefruit...I bit went in my eye.
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MatureWorcsBBW - 23 Feb, 2023 - 06:10PM
Intoxicate Your Mind - 23 Feb, 2023 - 05:33PM
MWBbW
Men will have a type, that type being one who has a pulse 😁
Absolutely.
Women who do what they want is a plus.
Hedone - 23 Feb, 2023 - 05:33PM
MWBbW
Men will have a type, that type being one who has a pulse 😁
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1100888 - 23 Feb, 2023 - 04:26PM
I definatly have a type, alas is seems that my type does not consider me their type ;o)
My type is usually a little bohemian and probably never went down the marriage route.
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MatureWorcsBBW - 23 Feb, 2023 - 03:46PM
I'm my opinion and experience, men most definitely have a type.
The type that wants sex.
The type that kisses or doesn’t.
The type that has a sense of humour, I could go on.
I absolutely loathe seeing a profile which states they have no type because I don't believe it.
Of course, you can like various types but in my opinion, saying I have no type is merely an each way bet.
Just like the men who work the room at a club.
I just don't buy it.
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Enigma.. - 22 Feb, 2023 - 07:02AM
Pmsl….
A male member once told me I should lower
I replied “ If I lowered my expectations any further. I’d be scraping the bottom of the barrel”.
😏🤷🏼♀️😂😉
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1583208 - 22 Feb, 2023 - 06:51AM
I used to have type in my younger days but as i got older I appreciated that some people have something about them for me (somehow how the overall package works) and some dont. When last single I was lucky enough to date one or two very beautiful women who met what I wanted on paper but it just didnt work in reality, one was self assessed, one had little personality etc The more open minded I became as a result the more enjoyable dating became. Some people just 'have it', that something about them that works for you which you can connect with and some people dont. I cringe when I think of the missed opportunities on here because people dont work on paper but if they met in real life might work well
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1581027 - 20 Feb, 2023 - 02:41PM
Above all else I enjoy the company of people who are introspective, can speak their mind (not Clarkson/Hopkins drivel), open minded and progressive.
That said I also learn a lot from being in the company of people who are different but there's always a risk of a clash of outlook. So for me it's a mind frame as opposed to looks and background (race, class, job etc.).
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FluffyClouds - 19 Feb, 2023 - 11:41PM
I've definitely got a type. I can't help it 🤷♀️. Saying that, I can't complain.
I have tried ones who aren't my type, it doesn't work.
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Miss moneypity - 19 Feb, 2023 - 11:25PM
Yes I do have a type
Un vaccinated!!
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tarnished knight - 19 Feb, 2023 - 02:10PM
I do have a type, but I'm not telling you so there... You'll just have to guess
Enigma.. - 19 Feb, 2023 - 01:05PM
@Intoxicate
I’m not a swearer either. Ok… I’ll admit to saying sh*t etc but nothing major.
I’ve not had that problem.
Ignorance, arrogance, rudeness, mannerless, lack of respect and, at times, lack of intelligence I’ve come across. I know… ouch lol.
If I were you report and block. I wouldn’t want to but sometimes it’s necessary.
Take care
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TheBoredHousewife - 19 Feb, 2023 - 12:57PM
Love it when we get an entire romantic spiel but it is addressed to someone else. 🌹🙈😂
Hot tip: Check, and recheck the copy and paste!
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Hedone - 19 Feb, 2023 - 11:42AM
Enigma, I get that but when it is clear they haven’t read your profile, then why should I have manners and even respond. When they send a message with expletives again why should I waste my time and reply.
There are plenty on here with no manners, at least I don’t swear at others just because I haven’t replied to a vk or message.
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Enigma.. - 19 Feb, 2023 - 10:28AM
@Intoxicate You Mind
I only reply, even if it is to say, thanks but no thanks. Manners cost nothing.
I’ve had messages through… you are just what I’m looking for… petite, sallow skinned, curvy and brunette.
I’m 5ft 6, I make milk looked tanned, 14/16 and I’m blonde lol.
I could go on but we’d be here all day 🙄.
I rest my case lol 😂😉
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Hedone - 19 Feb, 2023 - 09:11AM
Enigma, if they haven’t read your profile why are you even given them the time to reply?
One guy quoted some words I had put on my profile and wanted me to elaborate.
Thing was they weren’t my words he was quoting….sometimes messages warrant a reply and sometimes they don’t
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laugar164 - 19 Feb, 2023 - 08:26AM
@ TallguyUK78 - 18 Feb, 2023 - 11:29PM
My main type is to have a pulse 😂 for starters
Enigma.. - 19 Feb, 2023 - 06:10AM
And yes…
I’ll acknowledge that this “profile” thang… lol, works both way’s.
But wouldn’t it be better if we were all more upfront and honest from the start 🤷🏼♀️.
I have changed my profile to discourage certain types. But… it hasn’t worked.
I actually find myself thinking…. Did you actually read my profile before you messaged me? 🤔
Then it the “Thanks for messaging me” but…..
Enigma.. - 19 Feb, 2023 - 06:02AM
@Redfirefox
That’s the prob . To many men on the site don’t want to rule out other “opportunities”… 😂😉😘
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Enigma.. - 19 Feb, 2023 - 05:59AM
@Acpk55
Okies….
But how many gent’s (coughs) on this site ACTUALLY describe their “ideal” female?
Usually it’s “nothing entered”… booooooooooring 😴. Or ages 21 to 99… seriously 😂. Etc, etc, etc…
Why!?! Hmmmmmmm… 🤔.
I’ll tell you why 😏
They don’t want to miss out by stating exactly what they are looking for.
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1582254 - 18 Feb, 2023 - 11:29PM
The challenge can be in communicating that you have more than one type - putting in a profile that I have a thing for tall women, as well as short women would naturally make it sound like I'm not interested in anyone inbetween which is not true.
They are attributes I find appealing but are certainly not deal breakers.
In general it comes down to the whole package, and by that I don't only mean physically.
Beautiful and bat sh!t crazy is not nearly as appealing as girl next door plain, but with her head screwed on straight and a naughty itch to scratch...😏😁
Subz4Fun - 18 Feb, 2023 - 11:03PM
What iv found funny is talking to people and rather than say they aren’t interested like an adult just blocking or ignoring on chats. You wanted a chat so we were chatting lol
Redfirefox - 18 Feb, 2023 - 09:24PM
Of course everyone has a type. Anyone who says they don’t are full of it.
I’ve made it quite clear who is and isn’t my type on my profile. Not sure why I bother tbh as they still contact me anyway 😂
I’m also not offended by not being other peoples type. Being a red head I’m used to it.
So complete your profiles properly and read others profiles also. Don’t bother if you don’t fit. 🤷♀️
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Redfirefox - 18 Feb, 2023 - 09:24PM
Of course everyone has a type. Anyone who says they don’t are full of it.
I’ve made it quite clear who is and isn’t my type on my profile. Not sure why I bother tbh as they still contact me anyway 😂
I’m also not offended by not being other peoples type. Being a red head I’m used to it.
So complete your profiles properly and read others profiles also. Don’t bother if you don’t fit. 🤷♀️
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1554570 - 18 Feb, 2023 - 08:06PM
What I find hilarious on here is the fact some male members state in their profiles…
“I don’t have a type”.
“Looks unimportant”.
Then you exchange passwords and they reply….
“Sorry you’re not my type”…
Me…. Well may I politely suggest you change your profile. Why!?! 🤔
Well very obviously you do have a “type” and looks ARE important to you 😏😃.
And males are wondering why they don’t get anywhere…. 😂🤷🏼♀️. Sakes 😂
^^ I’m male and this has happened to me on here , I would politely suggest that women behave exactly the same…, ( cough Double standards cough )
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Enigma.. - 18 Feb, 2023 - 07:25PM
What I find hilarious on here is the fact some male members state in their profiles…
“I don’t have a type”.
“Looks unimportant”.
Then you exchange passwords and they reply….
“Sorry you’re not my type”…
Me…. Well may I politely suggest you change your profile. Why!?! 🤔
Well very obviously you do have a “type” and looks ARE important to you 😏😃.
And males are wondering why they don’t get anywhere…. 😂🤷🏼♀️. Sakes 😂
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1583208 - 18 Feb, 2023 - 07:06PM
Such a good question, i think some people have a type and stick to it religiously (its always sad when you read a profile you really like only to discover in the last line you are year too old/young etc)
I have preference but some of my best relationships were with people who didnt fit these so overspecifying and sticking to a type can lead to lost opportunities with what you havent experienced? Still, whatever works for you, works for you
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ClassyLady77 - 18 Feb, 2023 - 06:40PM
We all have a type… we may not think it but unconsciously we do.. My type is definitely bald men.. my hubby and last affair was.. i didn’t realise I had a type until started looking for an affair..
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Eliza Boo - 18 Feb, 2023 - 05:02PM
Totally agree mattwright78.
Essentially I like geeky, lanky, bespectacled, nerds with messy hair, socially awkward and introverted who blow my mind with their cleverness, and how they have studied sex like a science! But it doesn't mean they won't be a total narcissistic arse underneath all that cuteness! And if someone really knocked me out that wasn't like that, I bet they'd become my new 'type'...
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1581152 - 18 Feb, 2023 - 04:06PM
@Lorelai Gilmore how amazing would it be to meet someone without knowing there type and it turns out they’re more and everything u wished for x
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Eliza Boo - 18 Feb, 2023 - 03:18PM
We all have a 'type' of course we do, but it doesn't mean that someone who looks like your ideal type is going to be compatibility with you, sexually or otherwise. If you just want a to shag and nothing more (which lots of people do) fair enough, i guess. But if you want a bit more satisfaction when they open their mouth to speak, people might have to try different 'types'.
And also, how bloody boring to only want to have sex with the same type of person every time. Just seems a bit narrow and unimaginative to me.
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1581152 - 18 Feb, 2023 - 03:13PM
Don’t think you need to put people in categories like ie types. Connections out rule everything
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Beckysharp - 18 Feb, 2023 - 02:28PM
I also think the most popular ‘types’ are more likely to be players as they have the opportunity. However that may be unfair 🤷♀️
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Paula99 - 18 Feb, 2023 - 02:16PM
It’s not a bad thing to have a type.. we are not programmed to like everyone and if there is no chemistry why should we say yes ..all of our lives we have been lucky to have a choice so why should this be any different …we just need to be mindful/ respectful /keep the human element 😑
IE is about the bits we are missing in our relationships not the fantasy love affair ..
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Beckysharp - 18 Feb, 2023 - 02:05PM
Agree matureworcsbbw
I have a type but it makes it much harder to find someone, especially as we can’t really filter on here and I also want someone local.
But I’m going to be patient 😇
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Zaroustra - 18 Feb, 2023 - 02:00PM
Any affair or fun needed around Sheffield or Yorkshire area. More than happy to go for a coffee.
If further away I'm more than happy to travel and I love long weekends away
Zaroustra - 18 Feb, 2023 - 01:57PM
Any affair or fun needed around Sheffield or Yorkshire area. More than happy to go for a coffee
MatureWorcsBBW - 18 Feb, 2023 - 01:49PM
Of course I do, yes.
It works very well for me.
Personally speaking, I don't buy into the idea that you don't have a type.
Otherwise you'd say yes to everybody.
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Hedone - 18 Feb, 2023 - 01:04PM
Shineon21
Unfortunately this can be the hardest thing ever. Who had thought heh, I’m not sure you’re doing anything wrong, it’s just how it is.
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Purple dreamer - 18 Feb, 2023 - 11:42AM
Should never judge a book by it's cover
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Paula99 - 18 Feb, 2023 - 11:13AM
The online dating game is a farce at times 🧐
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Shineon21 - 18 Feb, 2023 - 10:59AM
How hard can it be to meet someone my membership ends in a couple of weeks and not met anyone as yet so no idea what I’m doing wrong!! Help wanted xxx
1558991 - 17 Nov, 2022 - 07:40PM
Fluffyclouds
Question for you?
Why are you actually here?
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1558991 - 12 Nov, 2022 - 09:04PM
Certainly do have type pulse start lolol after that everything else flow lol
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Beckysharp - 12 Nov, 2022 - 08:27PM
Why the difference out of interest @JonP1974
I think I’m the opposite. For an affair looks are more important rather than less
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JonP1974 - 12 Nov, 2022 - 05:15PM
If I was looking for a life partner then yes - 5'4"-5'6", long dark hair, slightly younger and slim to cuddly. On here I'm looking for someone that I can chat and have a laugh with, a friend to meet up with on days off and obviously thd physical aspect, also strangely attracted to older ladies.
plumbr - 08 Nov, 2022 - 05:01PM
@business flyer
I agree that sounds a wise move. Looks are important. It's a two way street no matter how attractive a mutual sense of humour may be too. But physical attractiveness is different for different people and combined with reasonable literacy & lightness of spirit most of us have the potential to strike a chord with someone. And as you say it does save an awful lot of typing to an otherwise dispiriting end, here where we are definitely not the "one eyed man in the kingdom of the blind " , as it were :)
bizzlebizzle - 05 Nov, 2022 - 11:39PM
connection over type. it’s the chemistry you can’t explain ahead of any specifics. when you get it, you get it. doesn’t have to be the best looking but just that pure raw energy
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businessflyer - 04 Nov, 2022 - 11:58AM
I have found it painful when I've got into a really good discussion with a lady and we seem to be ticking all the boxes and then we share pw and I get 'you're lovely, but not my type...', so these days I share pw on the first or second message and that avoids wasting a lot of time...
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Horror_Fan - 03 Nov, 2022 - 11:41PM
I don't really have a physical type, I'm demisexual. My lovers have all looked quite different to each other.
A profile with a certain amount of daftness to it usually catches my eye. If they have a good sense of humour, that's usually a good sign I'll have chemistry with them. As for successful, I'd say my experience on here has been a mixed bag.
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Red Succubus - 03 Nov, 2022 - 06:09PM
Tall_Fair_and_Handsome - 02 Nov, 2022 - 11:46AM
Also it helps if you live nearby, for some reason I thought that St Albans would be full of Hotwives but it doesn't seem to be.
And just another note…maybe the Hot Wives of St Albans don’t appreciate being told by a man pretty early on in the chat that they can find the G-spot. Like I said to you those that need to point that out in the first few messages probably are over egging it a bit
Red Succubus - 03 Nov, 2022 - 06:06PM
Tall_Fair_and_Handsome - 02 Nov, 2022 - 11:46AM
Also it helps if you live nearby, for some reason I thought that St Albans would be full of Hotwives but it doesn't seem to be.
Tut, tut, we are here and you know it. If you going to ghost them though that’s a different matter!,
1483842 - 02 Nov, 2022 - 10:05PM
I do not have a 'type'. I do, however, have an 'ideal' lover based upon everything I don't want. I rely purely on chemistry and physical attraction in the very first instance. I want to have sex so that's the criteria like it not personality or looks soap boxers.
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Conradd - 02 Nov, 2022 - 07:15PM
Foxhills, if they don’t compromise then nor should you. Online dating is highly competitive and like being in a cake shop with option overload, many female profiles warn they are ‘inundated with messages so don’t be offended if I don’t reply ‘
Black Pill guys argue this options overload means the top 10-20% of men get losds of interest but the rest get little
Blue Pill guys argue every man can get dates if they make up for lack of looks with wot n banter etc
Red Pill guys claim you can turn yourself from a low tier to a high value guy by becoming buff and focusing on making yourself valuable
Take your pick
Conradd - 02 Nov, 2022 - 06:59PM
Foodislife, I just ask for up to date shots if we hit it off chat-wise, like ‘send me a photo of you right now, no filters’.
I know from Twitter how women with adoring male simp fans will filter every photo and lap- up daily validation from a platoon of Simps all hoping in vien that if they just give enough compliments she’s gonna date a pasty bloke called Malcom who’d be as clingy as a wet limpit
1550355 - 02 Nov, 2022 - 03:34PM
I think having a type is an unaffordable luxury here. Firstly you click based on the profile created which is not a true reflection of the person as how can you possibly sum up your personality, type in a such a short space? It's a zero sum game IMO being here. As a guy you try to stand out, be witty and interesting to whomever you find and bottom line you get asked for a password and never hear from them again!! Now maybe that's just me 😂 but surely you gotta give a guy a chance?
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1502658 - 02 Nov, 2022 - 03:33PM
In a word no, not a physical type as such. Just when I see a woman, they could be all shapes and sizes, skin colour, hair colour but if they are demure and can have a good sharp sense of humour and make me laugh, then that tends to tick my boxes.
It is not like a game of Guess Who and I am left with a woman with the same characteristics as the one I may have engaged in a relationship with.
Tall_Fair_and_Handsome - 02 Nov, 2022 - 11:46AM
Also it helps if you live nearby, for some reason I thought that St Albans would be full of Hotwives but it doesn't seem to be.
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Tall_Fair_and_Handsome - 02 Nov, 2022 - 11:42AM
If you're female and you find me attractive, you're my type.
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1558991 - 02 Nov, 2022 - 11:23AM
Well someone pulse lol massive advantage good start lol
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1549844 - 02 Nov, 2022 - 11:15AM
Oh absolutely. Smart, funny, kind, warm and self validating. A streak of dark in the mix and I’m pretty much set.
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Smartypants65 - 02 Nov, 2022 - 10:21AM
Someone with a pulse has an advantage:)
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foodislife - 02 Nov, 2022 - 10:14AM
Lorelai Gilmore - LOL 😂
You caught me 😂
That physical attraction has to be there and that person should look like the person I have been chatting with online 🤷🏻♂️
Eliza Boo - 02 Nov, 2022 - 10:03AM
But apparently, foodislife: "Attraction comes in many forms, physical, sexual, emotional and spiritual".
I guess attraction doesn't actually come in so many forms after all. You might want to rework that line. 😂
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malachiah - 02 Nov, 2022 - 09:57AM
I don't have a type per se - needless to say I'm attracted to personality more than looks so if IRL a woman doesn't quite match up to any photos I'll reset my expectations and go with the flow - it's much more important to me to find a woman who understands and appreciates me, as I do her, and from there we can build something physical to enjoy.
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foodislife - 02 Nov, 2022 - 09:10AM
It’s so frustrating when you chat to someone for days and weeks even, only for when you meet them they don’t look like their pictures. The pictures were filters, old or that the angles were very favourable.
I just don’t see the point as it’s never going to work for them.
So from now on I’m asking for a video call before we meet, it will save both of our time beforehand.
naughtynathan96 - 11 Oct, 2022 - 08:47AM
Not at all. It is my mission in life to experience as many different women as I can, and who are obliging I should add.
EmnEm123 - 21 Sep, 2022 - 06:00PM
haresh
I would suggest nearly everyone's profile pictures are rubbish.
I would consider myself a nice looking woman, never taken a good photo in my life, of course who wants to see the totally posed, done up like a dog's dinner, pouting, photos?
Just take a photo face on, never from under the chin!
I think most people can read between the lines!
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haresh - 20 Sep, 2022 - 11:18PM
I used to have a type, not anymore. Personality I think is more important. Some people can just jump into bed with somebody to have sex, probably very bad sex. I could never do that with someone unless I had some sort of chemistry with them.
I keep away from profiles that state "finer things in life" or "take me shopping" I have stated quite clearly Not interested in materialistic money grabbing, sugar daddy wanting types.
Haven't had any luck yet, my profile pictures are just rubbish. Some women have asked for the PW and then not replied. Which is fine. I will just crack on.
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1542317 - 18 Sep, 2022 - 09:32PM
Porky99
I’m not complaining about not getting laid, 2 ladies in last 3-4 weeks, I’m doing ok thanks
Definitely getting my moneys worth anyway
Does not alter the fact that this site is an absolutely awful experience for most of the guys here irrespective of getting a bit of Jack & Danny here and there
secretflirt68 - 17 Sep, 2022 - 11:39PM
FluffyClouds - 15 Sep, 2022 - 01:10PM
I have to say, Copy/Paste might have worked 10 years ago. Being of a certain age and a repeat offender in terms of IE membership, I can remember the old messaging system. It doesn’t work now though.
The distance thing is just a bit poor - although you do have to take into account what I’m calling “IE paranoia” - which means you bump your location by anything up to about 50 miles to avoid being recognised. Since that’s about 7500 square miles, it’s probably pretty safe. I might be guilty of that myself - anyway, I guess the point here is at least asking the distance question, or if some one says “I can only meet evenings” when you can only meet days, but still message them anyway.
Desperation is, honestly, a killer for anything you’re trying to achieve on IE. More people will say no than say yes - that’s not dissimilar to real life. Keep working in a relaxed way - if you find communication comes easy with someone, chances are they’ll come aro
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TheBoredHousewife - 15 Sep, 2022 - 02:30PM
FC
Hilarious.
Not even a few messages in and suddenly you’re the love of their life 🤦🏻
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FluffyClouds - 15 Sep, 2022 - 01:10PM
Secretflirt -
Good list 👌 1,2 and 7.
1. You can tell
2. So what area in Manchester do you live? I live in Leeds.
7. Three messages in, swap pw, want to meet? Or in one case, two messages in, no pw swap, want to meet?
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Breakfastinbed - 15 Sep, 2022 - 12:30PM
Everyone should try and remember that while looks are important, they aren't everything. In fact, quite often if you give the personality a chance to come through they are less and less important
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TheBoredHousewife - 15 Sep, 2022 - 12:19PM
secretflirt68 - 15 Sep, 2022 - 09:57AM
Absolutely 1, 2 and 7 are my main bugbears.
It’s about listening and respecting the cues that the woman is giving, either from the profile or in private message. It’s tough though, if the man has been out of action a long time and is just getting back into the game. So the woman has to listen and sometimes cut some slack too.
Paula99 - 15 Sep, 2022 - 10:24AM
B1981....
You are constantly making excuses for not getting laid..?
Do you not think it could be you with the 'issues' ..I agree IE does have its faults but in this world we have to learn to adapt and make the best of what we have...
The wood for the trees 🌳 comes into mind...😊
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secretflirt68 - 15 Sep, 2022 - 09:57AM
Paula99 - 14 Sep, 2022 - 08:47PM
I can only agree. Laziness is the primary cause of lack of action. Laziness is:
1. Copy/Paste messages - same thing to multiple people.
2. Not properly reading profiles (some are hilarious, I won't mention them here).
3. Messaging 100 ladies on your first paid day (because you want as much action as possible before your Gold runs out).
4. Failing to check whether the person you're messaging is ever online.
5. Not adapting to your failures and adjusting your approach.
6. Blaming your failures on the other person.
7. Not being forward enough, or being too forward because you're desperate to seal the deal.
8. Sending VKs and Gifts.
I could go on, but those are the main things I'd pick up on. Imagine, if every person you messaged wanted to meet, and see if you think you could handle it. If you couldn't, you're messaging too many people and need to be more selective.
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Paula99 - 14 Sep, 2022 - 08:47PM
True44...you need a kiss alot of frogs to get your prince....but you will get there...😊
Some guys are convinced that because women don't pay we are to blame for the fact that they can't get any action..🤔
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ExoticOrchid - 14 Sep, 2022 - 08:35PM
True44 is a FEMALE but let's not get facts in the way of the woe is me brigade shall we!!! 🙄
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1Jackpot - 14 Sep, 2022 - 08:08PM
I don't exactly have a type. But lots of things attract me. Intelligence. Sense of humour. Good conversation. Direct eye contact. Good figure. Red painted nails. Smooth skin. A ready smile. Neat dress sense. Healthy appetite. And on, and on...
1542317 - 14 Sep, 2022 - 07:38PM
True44
Unfortunately this is an experience you will have to get used to on here and on any similar sites
As long as ladies don’t have to pay subscriptions and there is not equal numbers of male and female members this will never change
True44 - 14 Sep, 2022 - 04:33PM
Well someone i was chatting to for a few days arrange to meet up blocked me so feel deflates and windering if this site is actually worth it
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secretflirt68 - 14 Sep, 2022 - 01:02PM
As I've got older, my "type" has changed from a physical one, to one based on mentality - and I've tried to reflect that in my profile. When I get into messaging, I try to make sure that the lady I'm talking to has read the profile. In the past I've made the mistake of overlooking such aspects, and it is a recipe for a short relationship. The suspicion I have is that a lot of people are overly concerned about getting to a meeting and getting intimate, before they fully consider whether that intimacy is going to satisfy both parties.
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1515523 - 14 Sep, 2022 - 12:30PM
I have a very clear physical type which I have stated clearly on my profile. I’ve done this because I don’t want to waste anybody’s time. I think it’s important to be clear about what we like and what we’re looking for.
Having said that, whilst physical attraction is very important, I think the key thing is chemistry and connection and you can’t define them; they are either there or they’re not. If they’re not, it doesn’t matter how attractive the person might be, but it just doesn’t ‘work’ for me.
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DateMate - 13 Sep, 2022 - 11:16AM
The indistinguishable 'it'.
I find attraction can come in many forms - both physically and mentally. I build up an impression of someone and know if it feels right or not. If someone is in your head then I don't care if she isn't a 6ft blonde with big tits. The memories will last and you'll find yourself smiling when you are reminiscing.
AAGilfan - 12 Sep, 2022 - 06:03PM
Lorelai. I am with you when you say it is all claptrap. Best thing is to just be open minded. We all come in all shapes and sizes. But the primordial thing comes from making the connection: and being open minded about making that connection and you just find you are incredibly compatible on a number of levels. And sexual compatibility is not driven by type: I was lucky to end up in bed with someone I had fancied for ages, we were good friends and it happened: but it just wasn't v good. And with others, where I had struggled, on paper and even on first meet, to really wonder whether there was anything there, turned out to be phenomenal and addictive. But from that first meeting we had built an amazing connection. Maybe meeting through IE helped as there is always an underlying "frisson" knowing that you probably have the same agenda....... :-)
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rarity23 - 11 Sep, 2022 - 10:38PM
Blueboy1981
I'm older and mature in my approach, I don't have a bit ego to fulfill, and why would I be interested in someone young who could be my daughter
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1542317 - 11 Sep, 2022 - 08:54AM
@rarity
Is it more because you are older, you are realistic about who you can actually attract now, more than not having a type.?
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rarity23 - 10 Sep, 2022 - 11:34PM
Lorelai Gilmore. - 8th September
I definitely had a type when I was in my 20's.
Somehow as life has gone by I feel I don't have a type .... I'm much more open minded, personality has become more important and attractive in it's own right.
I do seem to prefer women who are married though, somehow they are more straightforward.
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FluffyClouds - 10 Sep, 2022 - 05:30PM
I'm not on here looking for a fantasy, but I do look for certain attributes which I find attractive, and they're not outrageous. Someone doesn't need to have all of them, but they do need to have some of them.
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Jan669870 - 09 Sep, 2022 - 04:37PM
yes I do find it interesting and successful. I have met some very interesting men who have given me some amazingly sexy experiences and I hope they would say the same about me. But also I have enjoyed their company talking to them learning about their lives. It was never all about the sex with the men I spent time with as I need some sort of connection to the lover I am with to enable me to orgasm and to ensure I can please them as with the connection I can pleasure them as they need me too.
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EmnEm123 - 09 Sep, 2022 - 04:16PM
Chris76a
How many women have you met, had conversations with walking down the street?
Don't say loads, no woman will believe you.
A passer by is just that.
You can exchange messages on here, it may not go anywhere, but there is a difference.
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1545183 - 08 Sep, 2022 - 10:34PM
The latter. I think we idealize a lot but it’s good to be open minded and be surprised. Physical attraction is different though. On here it’s hard to know initially (v walking down the street)
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thefoos101 - 08 Sep, 2022 - 10:12PM
Good evening everyone! Any females from the Shropshire area fancy a chat ?
1542753 - 08 Sep, 2022 - 09:11PM
I dont strictly have a type but there's got to be an immediate spark. And anything about a person could be the spark I'm looking for.
The ick on the other hand... once you've got the ick that's it! You could be the most handsome man in the world, but if I get the ick then it's game over.
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FluffyClouds - 08 Sep, 2022 - 06:49PM
DateMate -
We may have married our preferred types, but people can change. Some won't have married their preferred type, they made do. Some will have married for money, some due to religious expectations. Some other halves may not be fun anymore, became boring, became overweight, became miserable, became lazy, became neglectful of their appearance, became uninterested in sex, in affection, in conversation.
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Eliza Boo - 08 Sep, 2022 - 06:25PM
Datemate - so much YES! I married what my 'type' was in my late 20s early 30s. As lovely as that is, I've already had my 'type' now I want domething different! I wonder if men essentially have the same type all through life though, stickinbveith what they liked at 20 - which is why you see a man essentially dating the same woman through his life 😆. Nope. Viva la difference!!!
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Sporty14u - 08 Sep, 2022 - 04:09PM
I think we all subconsciously know what we think we like. Appearances and looks are first and then you get to know the person. I’ve been with very attractive women who only have looks and nothing else. That doesn’t work for me. You need a good personality and looks are a bonus.
DateMate - 08 Sep, 2022 - 03:17PM
Aren't we already married to our preferred types. Get out there and try other types - you may enjoy it 💁
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1546412 - 08 Sep, 2022 - 03:06PM
Objectively, I know that I do have a “type” in terms of the physical characteristics that I think I’ll be attracted to. But I’ve dated a wide variety of physical and personality types, and Ultimately, isn’t it always about the person? At first glance they may see different from what you think you’d usually go for; but then you find yourself captivated by the individual quirks and differences that make us all - well, US. “Type” Goes out the window, then
1542317 - 08 Sep, 2022 - 02:55PM
Petite, big tits & nice ass
Simple as
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1272856 - 08 Sep, 2022 - 02:11PM
There are things that turn me off someone but they’re mostly about attitude or the way they make assumptions about me. Anyway everyone is unique so I don’t very often assume anyone is some kind of “type” and choose to approach her or not on that basis. Still, it’s undeniable, some people you do just click with and find you get on really well. I’m not sure it’s anything to do with “type”
1100888 - 08 Sep, 2022 - 01:11PM
Ideally an English Rose who happens to be a Rock Chick.
Very few on here who fit that description.
But if we all settled for our ideals we would probably not have any success.
Mainly it's down to what doesn't appeal rather than chasing perfection.
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1542000 - 08 Sep, 2022 - 12:48PM
I suppose it’s how broad you define the term ‘type’. I have a few 100% deal breakers and a few things I much prefer but broadly speaking type could be quite wide ranging.
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Martin763 - 08 Sep, 2022 - 12:43PM
The cerebral thing is probably the most important, although other things play a part- some bigger than others.
OK, I’ll stop digging now…….
Eliza Boo - 08 Sep, 2022 - 12:21PM
Nearwildheaven
I know....but it was actually the other way around (I was protecting my pride a bit below). Indeed, he'd never fancied anyone over a size 12 - and I am, I mean, I'm lovely, but I haven't seen size 12 since my 20s. And he - very athletic and sporty. But the personal connection unprecedented. So things developed and ... well it was outrageously and hilariously good, and as such for quite a long while too! But I was never his 'type'.
I don't know. Is 'type' social convention/subconscious memory for someone or something/Darwinism?! Essentially I think its bullshit and when you can tap into something deeply erotic, almost primordial with someone sexually, and you become very close, "type" is overthrown claptrap!
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Wake up smiling - 08 Sep, 2022 - 11:37AM
I've been with women who aren't my "type" physically when I first meet them, but we really hit is off on a personality level and were amazingly comfortable around each other. When we did eventually sleep together it was amazing, because of the comfort. No nervousness, everything felt natural. Great for both of us...
Dotty Green - 08 Sep, 2022 - 11:32AM
Fluffy
Very funny!!! I was obv never that popular to be on a date with two men at the same time.
FluffyClouds - 08 Sep, 2022 - 11:21AM
Le Grand Fromage -
Yep, didn't stay to the end of the night, my nerves couldn't take it. 🤣
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Le Grand Fromage - 08 Sep, 2022 - 11:10AM
@Fluffy
Hark at you and your swinging 20s
When it came to slow dance time at the end, did you make a bee line for the exit…just in case one of them saw you for the end of night sloppy kissing?
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Woodsterpete - 08 Sep, 2022 - 11:04AM
I don't have just one set 'type'. Variety is the spice of life, right? 😉
One exception: Gotta have good energy.
FluffyClouds - 08 Sep, 2022 - 11:02AM
Le Grand Fromage -
Haha, you know that reminded me of when I was seeing two men in my early 20s at the same time, and on a night out with the girls ended up in a nightclub and they were both in there! Luckily they were in different parts of the club, and it was a reasonably large club and dark. I did spend most of that night in hiding from them both and my friends were keeping their eyes peeled.
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Beckysharp - 08 Sep, 2022 - 10:19AM
@LG I have had that once too. Looks wise, completely not my type but for some reason the chemistry was instantly amazing and so was everything that followed! We did get on very well personality wise too
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Le Grand Fromage - 08 Sep, 2022 - 10:12AM
Maybe the answer is to arrange a date with more than one person.
3 is the right number.
Make sure you get there first and then do the Robin Williams Mrs Doubtfire thing (RIP Robin - you were a master of your art)
Put them in different parts of the room and take 3 sets of clothing hidden in the loo.
On the balance of probabilities 2 of them will either not be what they claim to be OR you won’t fancy them.
You achieve a few things by doing this
- You make the date ‘efficient’ - 3 for the price of 1
- You hedge your bets
- You at least made an effort in the act of letting someone down.
I’m in the wrong job me.
Good luck.
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1382700 - 08 Sep, 2022 - 09:34AM
LG
So not your physical type. No romantic feelings. No butterflies and never fancied people with that look? But still you slept with him. Now what’s that all about?
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1543211 - 05 Sep, 2022 - 10:17PM
I didn't think I did untill recently, but I definitely do. Its not the way that they look as their hair colour can be different so can their shape in some ways but it is the way they are in the world, how they sit, often in complete opposition to their surroundings. Difficult to explain but if I put all the women I've been with in a room together as they were when I was with them there would be a common pulse. I guess we end up here when we realise the one we managed to hang on to was the odd one out ... .. .. .and that it is us who haven't worked it out yet
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1539153 - 05 Sep, 2022 - 07:48PM
I so don’t have a type! For me the connection is the thing, having said that I have met guys who when i get ther e I think 😔
I am very excited about my new partner in crime 😈
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ThickusDickus - 04 Sep, 2022 - 05:38PM
Fair enough.. it is hard to keep track of the back and forth sometimes 😃
ExoticOrchid - 04 Sep, 2022 - 05:07PM
TD - 04:37PM
Oh sure, I don't blame them ... at the end of the day, they are here for sex.
My comment was to LonghairedDom who said HE is happy to keep chatting.
ThickusDickus - 04 Sep, 2022 - 04:37PM
@ ExoticOrchid - 04 Sep, 2022 - 09:30AM
I can’t really say I blame any man for doing that Exotic Orchid I mean this is a site for illicit encounters at the end of the day, I wouldn’t waste my time talking to someone if they didn’t fancy me. I have a wife at home I don’t need another one here.
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ExoticOrchid - 04 Sep, 2022 - 03:38PM
LG - 02:06PM
I'm wondering how you get to the sex stage if there was zero attraction in the first place? 🤔
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Eliza Boo - 04 Sep, 2022 - 02:06PM
What if someone is not your physical type. At all. You don't get any of the romantic feelings or butterflies when you look at them and you've never fancied people with their look. But, when it comes to the sex the two of you are off the wall amazingly sexually compatible?! When the sex is hilariously good, like meeting your 'sex-twin'?! It happens....What's that all about then???
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Enigma.. - 04 Sep, 2022 - 09:55AM
Life on Ie is certainly interesting but definitely not successful.
Why!?!
A lack of active male members in the South West Coast of Scotland and Glasgow area’s.
I’m having to chat to men from the central belt, Edinburgh and further north. This means that travelling time increases.
I do get messages but mainly from men in Northern Ireland, Wales, England and especially London. Why message me? I want to meet someone. I don’t want a pen pal.
Most of the messages I reply to all start… Apologies but… Why? Because a majority of males on here don’t read profiles and since when was London within reasonable travelling distance of Scotland?!? Planes, trains and automobiles would all be involved to get there.
Mini rant over ☺️😉😏
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ExoticOrchid - 04 Sep, 2022 - 09:30AM
TD - 10:19PM
That is absolutely spot on (without the "rumour" bit 😄).
LD - 12:22AM
In my experience, I found that the men weren't interested in continuing to chat once they realise I'm not attracted to them that way but like them for the person they are. Such a shame.
LonghairedDom - 04 Sep, 2022 - 12:22AM
I used to be drawn to a particular type or at least I thought I was but as time goes on I'm attracted to a range of aspects, getting to know someone opens that up. I've also enjoyed chatting with women on here where we weren't attracted sexually but hit it off at depth....and still look forward to chatting with them, hanging out and connecting as like minded souls.
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ThickusDickus - 31 Aug, 2022 - 10:19PM
I definitely don’t have a type but I do have standards…. Rumour has it 🤣🤣
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1541695 - 19 Aug, 2022 - 09:54AM
Personally I find that it stings more to be rejected after making some progress with someone than before. I put my face on my profile and if you don't like the look of me, then don't waste my time.
Some guys think that having good banter will overcome the disappointing photo reveal but it never does.
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1540704 - 19 Aug, 2022 - 09:14AM
Having a type can be so restrictive. I've met people I wouldn't have dreamt would be "my type" & got on like a house on fire. People with opposing political or religious views to my own can be some of the best dates ever had, just as long as you both keep an open mind and listen to each other. You don't have to agree but reconciling your differences afterwards can be so much fun...
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1541445 - 18 Aug, 2022 - 11:15PM
Sometimes you have to take a chance for any kind of happiness. We're all here because something is missing in our lives or we need whatever we need for whatever reason. I just want to be happy again and to feel wanted or even get a few kind words and emotional warmth rather than feeling that me and my feelings don't matter. Sorry my emotional baggage is coming out tonight.
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Alfie_New_Here - 18 Aug, 2022 - 09:41AM
I would say there are different parts that make up an ideal whole, but I never expect to find that ideal. It’s fairly easy to identify those individual parts when messaging and either they accumulate or they don’t and you decide whether to take things forward based on the weight you give to the individual parts.
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Dotty Green - 17 Aug, 2022 - 07:36AM
Thongtwister - 16 Aug, 2022 - 10:34PM
Sometimes it all about taking that chance
TheBoredHousewife - 17 Aug, 2022 - 12:56AM
Somniata
I’m with you here. I’m open to anyone, but I know what I don’t want. The way one communicates is crucial, and I think I can now tell within the first few messages whether someone is potentially for me or not.
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BristolDoc - 16 Aug, 2022 - 11:34PM
So would anyone out there happen to be in or around Bristol then?
Thongtwister - 16 Aug, 2022 - 10:34PM
I went on a date that on paper should never have worked, but we had great fun and it led to a steamy relationship that lasted 18 months! We were both ready to be out of our comfort/type zone and wow did it pay off!
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Somniata - 16 Aug, 2022 - 09:35PM
I guess I'm one of those people who says I don't have a type:)
For the most part, it's true. I get on with most people however I am more sure about what I don't like or want! I can nearly always tell from their communication style whether I like someone or not, so I'm rarely disappointed.
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Paula99 - 16 Aug, 2022 - 07:06PM
Rose- petal...
Are you being a bit 'picky'...or are you going for the "same' type?..
Here in IE you have to consider other options....as these are not credible relationships....learn to adapt to a different style and the IE world will open up..😉
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mipaulac - 16 Aug, 2022 - 05:29PM
RosePetal0007
Out of how many?
Does your perception of "athletic" seem to conflict with their discription ????
Wargrave - 16 Aug, 2022 - 01:23PM
Someone ridiculously hot, either mentally or physically, or both.
You don’t need to be conventionally “attractive” to be ludicrously hot. The mind is a powerful thing.
Wargrave - 16 Aug, 2022 - 01:23PM
Someone ridiculously hot, either mentally or physically, or both.
You don’t need to be conventionally “attractive” to be ludicrously hot. The mind is a powerful thing.
Dotty Green - 16 Aug, 2022 - 01:12PM
RosePetal0007 - 16 Aug, 2022 - 12:46PM
So what is "your" type ? Are you meeting with them because you are taking a chance that you will click or are they lying to you that they are you type??
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RosePetal0007 - 16 Aug, 2022 - 12:46PM
Everyone I’ve met so far were not my type😳
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Dotty Green - 15 Aug, 2022 - 08:35PM
mipaulac - 15 Aug, 2022 - 04:38PM
True … I agree with you …
And I will - I think at my time of life it’s time to be spoilt …
As you say the anticipation…. You and your lover can just be yourselves for that special afternoon… however you want.
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Paula99 - 15 Aug, 2022 - 05:28PM
BT50...
I can't call you Bigtits...its just not me..😊
In relevance to your earlier question whether you think he's seeing you and/or basically collecting notches on the bedpost..?
I always go with my gut feeling and there aren't many times have been wrong.....if your guy is still searching there is nothing you can do to ever please him..
You can try to liven things up in the bedroom...try outdoors...in the back of his car..introduce toys...kink or whatever
The bottom line is until he finds what he's looking for ....only then will he stop.
Its got nothing to do with how sexy you are ..how beautiful you are..or how many positions you can do..or if you can stand on your head and sing 'she'll be coming round the mountain"..he will always be thinking about the single thing that he's searching for....some guys have tunnel vision..
If the guy likes you it will be because he likes you as a person and the sex is a bonus..
Think about it..😊
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mipaulac - 15 Aug, 2022 - 04:38PM
Dotty Green,
inpulsiveness with some one you've just met can result in disappointment Anticipation builds desire.
What's worth having is worth waiting, for enjoy your hot fun
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ExoticOrchid - 15 Aug, 2022 - 12:55PM
DG - 10:48AM & 12:05PM
I'm with you on both counts!
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Dotty Green - 15 Aug, 2022 - 12:05PM
Uglyfrog-worth kissing - 15 Aug, 2022 - 11:38AM
Nope that is not good behaviour - but don't worry this behaviour happens both ways !
I am always really polite, I normally say which is true, you are really lovely but not my type and I wish you well - or as I did in my previous affair, not sure you are my type, but hey lets go for that drink and a year long affair ensued....
No one should be proud of that behaviour but please note it is not ALL woman and as I said we get that behaviour too from some ...
Good luck
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Uglyfrog-worth kissing - 15 Aug, 2022 - 11:38AM
The worst thing ….
Some ladies claim to be classy looking for manners, wanting to be respected
I totally get some guys act disrespectfully and deserve to be blocked
But when someone you are chatting with for a little while requests your Pw and then blanks you or worse blocks you
What is that all about?
Genuine guys have feelings too
Are those really qualities to be proud of ?
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Dotty Green - 15 Aug, 2022 - 10:48AM
O mipaulac.....
My days of outdoor shagging (unless in my own space ie holiday - private villa etc) and yes I have in my younger days experienced some outside thrills (lots infact!) ...
However now I am afraid I want the finer things ... and as BT50 as found the knee trembler in woods has not done her any favours as her fella still on the prowl (still not convinced that BT30 is not a spoof account )
As said below - I want the long lazy decadent afternoons shutting away the world ....
But hey whatever floats your boat.....
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Foryourpleasure - 15 Aug, 2022 - 08:31AM
Hi We all have types? I think I am right is saying that :0. My type was a dark skinned dark haired woman, So what do I do ? I marry a ginger haired milk bottle :). Me looking on here all I have to go on is your profile first and then a picture? The proof is in the pudding so to speak the only way you find out is on meeting each other? Then its in the Lap of the Gods you may be lucky you may not, like when you were younger looking for Mr or Miss right you would go out on a night out hoping to meet the 1 luck of the draw ? Can anyone tell me where I can buy some luck :) LOL
mipaulac - 15 Aug, 2022 - 01:10AM
Dotty Green
Oh it sounds so mudane..... especially with the weather we've currently got a fuck outside is such a thrill.
It still turns me on when I remember how my ex wife gave me a lingering BJ at a remote highland railway station and a later gf squirted in my face on an isolated track at night x
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debaser_ldn - 14 Aug, 2022 - 11:27PM
My type is probably more personality related then physical. Physical attraction provides a spark, but personality is the fuel.
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debaser_ldn - 14 Aug, 2022 - 11:25PM
My type is probably more personality related then physical. Physical attraction provides a spark, but personality is the fuel.
1539506 - 14 Aug, 2022 - 10:50PM
I have but not necessarily looks wise more personality wise.
Looks help obviously, but i also feel sometimes that opposites attract.
I would be more disappointed if I met someone and they was a complete numpty and had no conversational skills.
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1539506 - 14 Aug, 2022 - 10:50PM
I have but not necessarily looks wise more personality wise.
Looks help obviously, but i also feel sometimes that opposites attract.
I would be more disappointed if I met someone and they was a complete numpty and had no conversational skills.
1539506 - 14 Aug, 2022 - 10:50PM
I have but not necessarily looks wise more personality wise.
Looks help obviously, but i also feel sometimes that opposites attract.
I would be more disappointed if I met someone and they was a complete numpty and had no conversational skills.
1539506 - 14 Aug, 2022 - 10:50PM
I have but not necessarily looks wise more personality wise.
Looks help obviously, but i also feel sometimes that opposites attract.
I would be more disappointed if I met someone and they was a complete numpty and had no conversational skills.
Le Grand Fromage - 14 Aug, 2022 - 10:01PM
To be fair to BigTits (I am having to write this over & over as laughter takes over when I do) Woody Womb Pecker is an epic name for yer man who I daresay was very deep in the undergrowth …
🕺🕺
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FluffyClouds - 14 Aug, 2022 - 09:50PM
Bigtits50 -
& Paula99 - my username is a piss take….As I wouldn’t use my own name…
So are you not 50 with BIG TITS then?
Dotty Green - 14 Aug, 2022 - 09:45PM
Bigtits50 - don’t sell yourself short… my days of a shag in the woods are long gone … hotels, wine, decadent afternoons in hotels, eating, clean sheets, fluffy robes and great sex ..
As others have said if your gut says he’s still actively searching on here he probably is - but hey you’re also still on here ?
Which isn’t a bad thing I’m just here for the banter on the forums but I’ll prob deactivate my account soon as I’ve met my IE …
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Paula99 - 14 Aug, 2022 - 08:06PM
BIGTITS...
Like EO said....none of us use our own names but we do use something civilized..😆
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FluffyClouds - 14 Aug, 2022 - 07:35PM
Bigtits50 -
Don't really know what to say really to that.... Apart from you weren't backwards in coming forwards were you? Act in haste, repent at leisure as they say. He probably is if that's your guy instinct.
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ExoticOrchid - 14 Aug, 2022 - 06:47PM
B50 - 06:29PM
Yes, none of us use our own names either! 🤫
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Dotty Green - 14 Aug, 2022 - 06:30PM
P99/EO/ LGF … you lot 😂😂😂
But I agree -what a name to pick
Do any of you get totally turned off by a crap user name ??? I know I do 😂
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Dotty Green - 14 Aug, 2022 - 06:30PM
P99/EO/ LGF … you lot 😂😂😂
But I agree -what a name to pick
Do any of you get totally turned off by a crap user name ??? I know I do 😂
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1529221 - 14 Aug, 2022 - 06:29PM
@ le grand fromage, @exoticorchard
No he is called woody Womb Pecker!
& Paula99 - my username is a piss take….As I wouldn’t use my own name…
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Le Grand Fromage - 14 Aug, 2022 - 06:09PM
Paula99
In the woods it was definitely Ben Dover …
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ExoticOrchid - 14 Aug, 2022 - 06:06PM
P99 - 06:00PM
Or just BigWilly even! 😁
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Paula99 - 14 Aug, 2022 - 06:00PM
Bigtits50....
Why oh why would you choose a name like that.....its got to be a piss take...😕
Is your fella called Ivor Biggun?
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Paula99 - 14 Aug, 2022 - 05:56PM
Having an affair with someone ...yes our types are still there..most guys are taller than me..but the most important element is I like the person for who he is and....he must like me being me...
If he can't visualize that...then he might aswell look like Zeus himself...no bloody good to me..
😊😊...just get pissed off and the sex would be nothing to write home about..
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Le Grand Fromage - 14 Aug, 2022 - 05:49PM
@Bigtits50
Can’t have been very comfortable given how dry and saturated the ground is.
Did you take a bucket of water to dampen the ground beforehand?
Fair play though - can’t beat nature after all …
PS - your instinct is usually right. A wise man told me that once
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1434493 - 14 Aug, 2022 - 05:48PM
Yes, I have a type. Tall, willowy and blonde. Think Joanna Lumley in her pomp. A cliche, I know, but I'm a slave to my hormones.
But I married a short West Indian. So what do I know? Yes, I have my fantasy, but in reality personality will trump looks every time. I guess that means I'm not disappointed if she doesn't fit my physical ideal provided she interests me in other ways.
But Ms Lumley, if you're reading this...
ExoticOrchid - 14 Aug, 2022 - 05:46PM
Answer!
In that case it's up to you whether you want to keep seeing him or not, isn't it.
Le Grand Fromage - 14 Aug, 2022 - 05:45PM
Small diversion but related, is it ok to wear a mask on a date, given there are still variants of Covid in the community?
You could take it off to exchange a quick peck on the cheek & put it back in place straight after.
It would neutralise any impact of the person not looking like the pics previously swapped & would enable the date to be based 100% on personality. Which apparently is what everyone wants…I’m happy to fall in line.
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1529221 - 14 Aug, 2022 - 05:39PM
Question!
So I have never had an affair before in my life, but I am like most in here, not getting the attention I deserve at home.
I’ve met this guy, instant attraction, we had sex in the woods, it was amazing……yes there is a but….why do I feel he is chatting to others, when he has said he wants to be exclusive..we message on daily basis, meeting up with him again this week..but my instinct is telling me he’s playing the field, what do I do?
I have asked him straight out and he has denied it….🤷🏻♀️
HVP3455 - 14 Aug, 2022 - 05:07PM
I guess my type is someone who I can connect with. I don’t go for looks tbh. If I connect with them then it’s ment to be. I have had a few meets where people look totally different but I blame photoshop. Lol.x
FluffyClouds - 14 Aug, 2022 - 02:46PM
XperiaX -
And how have yours not been as they described themselves?
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1432599 - 14 Aug, 2022 - 01:53PM
I guess do have a 'type', and yes, I am disappointed if someone turns out not to be as they describe themselves.
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What to do? - 14 Aug, 2022 - 01:40PM
For me the must haves are clean, well groomed, good manners, polite, and that mmmm spark. I find a pretty face and a big smile an instant WoW. We all know when we meet that person that sparks the desire. If you can’t have that then what’s the point, this is supposed to be a place for something we are missing, an ‘illicit encounter ‘?
If thats not there then just stay home and DIY , its not just about bumps in the night……
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FluffyClouds - 14 Aug, 2022 - 01:15PM
Indiandelight -
I find it very attractive if someone loves animals if I'm honest.
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Indiandelight85 - 14 Aug, 2022 - 01:00PM
To answer this question, its a yes and no
There are the yes elements of a guy that could be things like kind, respectful, knows what he wants, able to make time for you etc etc
Then some physical things like is active, plays sports, looks after their health. Things like these are super important, as we get older we need to look after our health not just for an affair but generally as well
When you start describing the physical appearance in detail like blonde blue eyes etc etc almost like your sculpting a statue of this person then thats when it gets tricky.
To answer the no bit: the no is the unsaid, unmentioned things that would make the partner attractive when chatting to them. An example, he has foxes in his garden and he makes sure they're ok and checks up on them often, and hasn't mentioned in his profile he likes animals. You're an animals and you would think omg that's sooooo awesome. Which to be honest is an attractive trait in someone.
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Bobb20 - 14 Aug, 2022 - 12:51PM
I’m sure most people have a ‘type’ in certain areas, whether that is height; width; hair; hair colour; skin colour;; macho/feminine traits etc.
I’d be pretty sure one; or a few, of these might be ‘must have’s, whilst the rest are fairly open.
Some men and women might feel uncomfortable with a far taller women for example (I’ve seen the odd post where a lady has said she is 6ft so seeks a taller man, so must be quite a common example).
When I read the ‘requirements’ of some women, I have no problem they are being picky, I get it. If you were after a pen pal then it doesn’t matter in the slightest, in fact the broader the net probably the better the conversation as you will get different viewpoints, however, if you envisage meeting someone eventually, you have to have an attraction.
I’m a sporty person, so for me physically I am not attracted to large ladies. Personality wise, I’m really not into beer monster/clubbing men/women, massive turn off for me.
Good luck in your searc
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Marty5555 - 14 Aug, 2022 - 12:37PM
I am brand new today never thought I would be here for me its all about respect....articulate conversation and magnificent copulation.
BBW 45 Deeside - 14 Aug, 2022 - 12:37PM
I seem to chat to nice sounding men but I am hesitant to chat further as many seem so quick to jump in and I want to get to know someone first
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Dotty Green - 14 Aug, 2022 - 12:37PM
Although I have a type … it’s not set in stone ……
Like a lot here and what’ I’ve said before until you actually meet you’ll never know. As I’m not jumping into bed with anyone on the first date … I don’t think it hurts taking the time to meet for coffee or a wine… it’s 20 minutes out of your life - and you never know could be the start of a wonderful adventure
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1525035 - 14 Aug, 2022 - 12:23PM
Of course I do... But will that be the only type I go for... Not at all! The world is beautiful with its diversity.
To me is how something makes me feel... It is that simple and that complex
Good luck to you all
Tallulabelle - 14 Aug, 2022 - 11:45AM
Generally disappointed when the chat is good, pics match your type but then you meet they turn out to be as dull as dishwater and no get up and go! Or when you meet, their pics are circa 2000 and not aged well 🙄
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Paula99 - 14 Aug, 2022 - 11:30AM
As we get older we do have more standards and we get ' comfortable ' with certain aspects of our lives....it doesn't mean we wouldn't consider OP....but we do lead busy lives and our lifestyle and time constraints lead us to prioritize certain parts...
I agree with Conradd some of us are high maintenance and the profiles indicate it....
Some adjustment is needed but there are folk that just won't compromise full stop
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Lobo_45 - 14 Aug, 2022 - 11:25AM
Well, recently I've been more attracted to women that, like myself, are from abroad.(we have that in common I guess)
Holdfast70 - 14 Aug, 2022 - 11:19AM
I'd be happy with a woman who can write at the moment, I've noticed plenty can read but none can reply.
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DILF-Lpool - 14 Aug, 2022 - 10:52AM
I love a sexy married lady who is available and local, to Liverpool to get some spark and excitement started….any takers?
Conradd - 14 Aug, 2022 - 10:30AM
1522018:
I find people if anything have more suitor demands the older they get, look as some profiles and you see an extensive list of near impossible expectations.
I’d hate having the pressure of needing the highest ‘value’ partner’
1498103 - 14 Aug, 2022 - 10:24AM
I just love a lady that laughs and is a great kisser.
I no it sounds like a cliché but I go for personality.
What to do? - 14 Aug, 2022 - 09:52AM
We all love a beach in Bali but often a caravan in Newquay is where we end up! When you get wherever be happy, you ultimately made that choice.
We all have a type secretly. I know mine always seems to have been redheads for some reason. Always have gravitated towards them.
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1511987 - 14 Aug, 2022 - 09:32AM
I wish I didn’t have a type! It’s hard enough trying to find a man relatively local, with a compatible personality and in his thirties.
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Holdfast70 - 14 Aug, 2022 - 09:30AM
I always used to think I had a type, turns out I never seemed to be the type they were looking for lol. What I have learned though is that I much prefer genuine women who can hold a conversation and be honest stimulate my mind a lot more than those pretending to be someone they aren't, and let's face it, turn on the mind and the rest will follow.
Steph21 - 14 Aug, 2022 - 09:20AM
I wouldn't say I have a type - my issue is all of the guys that message are miles away. How are we supposed to have a fun, spontaneous meet if you are at the opposite end of the country? Yes we can do the organised ones as long as our schedules allow, but what about the spur if the moment ones?
1464267 - 14 Aug, 2022 - 09:12AM
I know what I don't like but am always happy to be surprised by something new and different
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Naughty Jason - 29 Jul, 2022 - 10:43AM
Chindren often enjoy very bland colourless and tasteless food. If you asked them what type of food they want they would addamently say that they only want that type of food. I'd say the beauty of this site is that it allows us to try different flavours that we've never tried before.
Lusty40 - 29 Jun, 2022 - 05:43PM
I don’t have a type. I’m very honest & open. Have non edited pics.
Get the craic with a man & most seem to be all talk.
I’m here for the sex!
Ones I have met goes well & have great sex & then nothing…….
I am who I am from start to finish
Don’t understand what’s going wrong?
Am I not meant to put out on first meeting!?!
Like I say, I’m here for the sex so I’m not eating anyones time, not mine
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FeralFawning - 11 May, 2022 - 07:52PM
I like men who are respectful, intelligent, funny and just so happen to be handsome. It isn't asking for much. I'm not into demands.
The best of a person is in their mind, as cheesy as that sounds.
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1522018 - 11 May, 2022 - 04:08PM
Paula99 - 30 Apr, 2022 - 05:13AM
as we get older our tastes change and we appreciate that life is too short to introduce extra barriers.
A bit like olives.
1117169 - 07 May, 2022 - 06:51AM
@TantricExplorer
Quite, which is why you should avoid using the profile wizard if you can.
" Just to level out the playing field, my friends think I'm kinda brown eyes and not much into hard rock" etc 😝
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sunandbeach121 - 06 May, 2022 - 09:16PM
I think it is more about the connection than a type. The words you use are important and need to be you and not something you craft otherwise once you get speaking the person will be disappointed. Have fun and relax
FreshMintTea - 06 May, 2022 - 11:12AM
Looks wise - I like her to be curvy with boobs.Preferably Mixed race/Other, Indian or South Asian.
Personality wise - conversational and able to talk about different things.
1520432 - 04 May, 2022 - 09:11PM
My age or thereabouts
Thin, small boobs, red hair, pale skin, glasses.
Funny, intelligent, loves rock music and Coen Brothers films. Reads a lot. Talks a lot. Laughs a lot.
Never find her 😀
1518602 - 30 Apr, 2022 - 08:00PM
I’m definitely into gingers an pale skin see if I can find my weakness
Paula99 - 30 Apr, 2022 - 05:13AM
When I was younger I used to dye my hair red all of the time...but I am too dark realistically ...but I quite like the prince Harry look for guys and I do find there are more red haired guys than ever...attraction morphs into other places but I still stick by my original statement...yes we all have/had a 'type' but as we get older our tastes change and we appreciate that life is too short to introduce extra barriers...😊
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turquilmaz - 30 Apr, 2022 - 12:03AM
I think everyone has a type but people can be anyone online, an extrovert in cyberville but when it comes to the crunch nothing like what you expect in real life. There is someone in work she is married and we flirt and the attraction is real, maybe it’s because I’ve gradually known her and like her good habits, bad habits and love them. That’s hard to do with a stranger
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1357585 - 29 Apr, 2022 - 11:39PM
I find a multitude of things attractive in a person, some of which are contradictory. I know it's a cliche but whilst I would like an initial attraction that has not always been the case for me and a deep attraction has developed over time. I must admit though red haired ladies do catch my attention.
TheBoredHousewife - 29 Apr, 2022 - 08:31PM
@Pedro
In a way, yes. But maybe more importantly, can it be sustained?
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Pedro845 - 29 Apr, 2022 - 08:10PM
Newbie here...hello !
If the messaging has had any content and meaning then it wouldn't take long to know if you were on the same wavelength would it !?
1518766 - 29 Apr, 2022 - 01:31PM
Not really, I like what I like. I find people attractive for different reasons.
As long as there's an initial attraction, it can vary quite a lot.
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Paula99 - 26 Apr, 2022 - 02:15PM
Everyone has a type even if they say they haven't..its just you have to work out a compromise...none of use are oil paintings.
I have a friend she has a different type to me and we laugh about it...she will say I saw a guy in the gym hes just up your street and vice versa....in the end we are best friends and respect each other's choices...😊
We all perceive each other is different ways..
Sometimes if you get out of your comfort zone you will be surprised ..!!!!
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1382700 - 26 Apr, 2022 - 10:12AM
@EO
Cheeky!!
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funlover67 - 26 Apr, 2022 - 09:18AM
Sassykay
Best to be totally honest people have to accept that beauty is in the eye of the beholder what I find attractive in a woman both physically and mentally another man might not and the same goes for women it just appears some people can’t take it as they see it as a personal rejection but that’s their issue not yours.
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Thetravveller - 25 Apr, 2022 - 08:57PM
I think it depends on my situation at the time, at the moment I wouldn’t say I have a type as I am interested in experiencing the excitement of meeting a stranger. I suppose if I was interested in something more specific that’s when I would have a type.
sparklysparkly - 25 Apr, 2022 - 08:56PM
Yes I have a 'type' , however i also find so many other women very attractive who are completely different in their own way.
1517903 - 25 Apr, 2022 - 07:36PM
Well what ever happens I believe in being courteous and non judgmental
I do have a type and I think it helps if you post that upfront on your profile, I’m new here but think I may have already met my lady.
We chatted for a while and the took it off line to exchange some photos etc, nothing seductive just us.
Hoping now to meet up soon as this Lady needs wrapping up in my arms xx
I wish you all luck but please be real and yourself from the start, if you don’t you won’t find what you seek.
There is someone for everyone but just be real.
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Sassykay571 - 25 Apr, 2022 - 06:57PM
I think most people have a type usually..I know I do. It can be very awkward when it turns out your not attracted to someone you've been chatting to but you can't force yourself can you ?! I do find it incredibly uncomfortable though as I don't want to hurt guys feelings and try to be as nice as possible about it. X
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1382700 - 25 Apr, 2022 - 06:00PM
AM76
Me too. Yeh I’m good.
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AshleyM76 - 25 Apr, 2022 - 05:49PM
It's wherever you want it to be, it's kind of mobile.
Also nice that I join an illicit dating site and the longest conversion I've had is with a guy, eh marra? 😂
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1382700 - 25 Apr, 2022 - 05:16PM
AM76
is it in the Bigg Market? I probably would get lynched. I’m a Sunderland Boy
AshleyM76 - 25 Apr, 2022 - 05:06PM
Nearwildheaven
There's a club near me that does a night, I'll get you on the door
Thatsme69 - 25 Apr, 2022 - 04:17PM
hugely disappointed..... a lot to be said for meeting for the coffee interview in the early days.
Paula99 - 25 Apr, 2022 - 03:27PM
I think covid put the blockers on most people's relationships including my own..I always thought mine would last ..but these things have to end..
Clearly my relationship wasn't as strong as I thought and he was my 'type'..🤣😂
1382700 - 25 Apr, 2022 - 12:58PM
AshleyM76
You’re right. It’s more people stereotype rather than type. I’m looking for a black Irish one legged lesbian. Really struggling
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AshleyM76 - 21 Apr, 2022 - 07:18PM
The word type suggests that people are easily categorised. Is my type blonde? Is she tall? Does this mean I can't be attracted to a short redhead?
The disappointment is due to expectations not being met, not 'type'
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1487293 - 21 Apr, 2022 - 07:07PM
We are all subjective in this. We like to think in our imagination that we prefer certain traits or behaviours, histories or potential. But the truth is, it's all personal prejudices based on environment and upbringing. I left home at 16 and was in the services for almost 25 years. Thus I depend on integrity, resilience and trust (yes a contradiction in this place). I can't ever understand men who send dikpix, or demand similar, who get upset that they aren'r successful and thus rejection makes them blame inadequacies in 'the other'. The vast majority of contacts are likely to be unsuccessful. We're working with limited Information about the other person. Men aren't objective about them selves. There are many honest and very straight profiles from ladies. For men...READ the profile, and just ask normal questions. You will find out a deal more that way. On meeting, it's always still going to be a lottery, albeit reduced by honesty on both sides !
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1497533 - 21 Apr, 2022 - 02:55PM
Chezley - 21 Apr, 2022 - 12:06PM
Nope you're wrong. It ended because i had to shield due to covid. We remained friends and now back together.
If you read my profile it says I'm here for the letters and not to meet
So for gods sake stop being so bitter and nasty. It shows you up
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Paula99 - 21 Apr, 2022 - 02:31PM
I think some progress is better than none at all.....👍
Good luck with your IE..😊
Chezley - 21 Apr, 2022 - 12:06PM
London lady
So effectively hitting up an old flame for easy action. In other words no real progress in your own capabilites or performance. You're also still scuttling about here, on the off chance.
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1497533 - 20 Apr, 2022 - 08:59PM
Nic70 - 20 Apr, 2022 - 08:24PM
Still hope. I've reconnected with my pre Covid IE and picked where we left off.
Nic70 - 20 Apr, 2022 - 08:24PM
Hmmm....before coronavirus met a lovely IE on here, at the edges of each other's age range, but over the weeks of emails, messages, and regular calls it was absolutely clear that we were the type for one another...hit it off the moment we did finally meet. Just such a shame Covid got in the way of it all.
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1117169 - 20 Apr, 2022 - 01:55PM
@ Paula99
Apparently they were all the rage with the Victorians, and especially popular with the models who posed for saucy photos.
Paula99 - 20 Apr, 2022 - 11:17AM
SP1200L...
Merkin....🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
What is that all about?....I'll stick with bald..
1117169 - 20 Apr, 2022 - 09:24AM
@spod71
You could try a Merkin (Google it). That would certainly surprise the ladies, but only if you managed to get them as far as the bedroom and it might scare them off at that point.
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1497533 - 20 Apr, 2022 - 09:11AM
spod71 - 20 Apr, 2022 - 08:21AM
My previous and current IEs are both bald.
ExoticOrchid - 20 Apr, 2022 - 08:32AM
spod71 - 08:21AM
Probably because they didn't read your profile properly!
I've had some who are surprised I'm not Caucasian even though my profile says "Oriental" ... 🤷🏻♀️
spod71 - 20 Apr, 2022 - 08:21AM
I find that being bald doesn't help, even though it is in my profile people are still surprised.
Should I get a wig?
spod71 - 20 Apr, 2022 - 08:20AM
I find that being bald doesn't help, even though it is in my profile people are still surprised.
Should I get a wig?
1117169 - 19 Apr, 2022 - 03:22PM
@Londonladye6
I see the confusion now ☺
1497533 - 19 Apr, 2022 - 09:19AM
Sportster1200L - 18 Apr, 2022 - 11:23PM
Oops 😚😚😚
Hedone - 19 Apr, 2022 - 09:18AM
Enigma
Agreed.
FYI you can look at female profiles you just can’t message them
Enigma.. - 19 Apr, 2022 - 07:08AM
Well one thing I’ve certainly noticed is….
Male members with “I don’t have a type” or “Looks unimportant” in their profiles are usually the first to ask for a photo password…. 😏. So looks are very “obviously” a priority to them.
Ps… I cannot see female members profiles so I don’t know if it’s the same for male member’s.
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Paula99 - 19 Apr, 2022 - 05:11AM
Texts can be misconstrued...I am sure we are all guilty at times..😇😇
1117169 - 18 Apr, 2022 - 11:23PM
Clothes!
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ExoticOrchid - 18 Apr, 2022 - 11:13PM
I took it as CL77 meant the women.
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1497533 - 18 Apr, 2022 - 11:03PM
Sportster1200L - 18 Apr, 2022 - 07:16PM
Completely misread that. Classy are you saying men have to pay for clothes or pay for women 🙄
Paula99 - 18 Apr, 2022 - 07:51PM
A51....I think he definitely has a crush on her...why wouldn't he....she is fab.
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1117169 - 18 Apr, 2022 - 07:16PM
@ClassyLady77
There isn't a man on this earth that does not understand that clothes cost money. It does not automatically mean that they should pay for them, though they often do as a special treat, as I sometimes do.
ClassyLady77 - 18 Apr, 2022 - 05:41PM
Lots of people have unrealistic expectations.. Some men want supermodel who wears sexy clothes 24/7.. 🤦🏼♀️ They don’t realise You need to pay for those.. 😂
I do have high standards. Won’t settle, although do like being taken out on dates to see IF we click.. 🤷🏼♀️
Hedone - 18 Apr, 2022 - 05:32PM
Exotic please put Chezley out of his misery and let him take you out 😁
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Chezley - 18 Apr, 2022 - 05:29PM
Exotic and others
Those populist mindsets are based on moral infantilism. The purveyors don't allow debate or argument. They declare anyone who differs to them as the enemy.
In order to convert to such views in its totality you gradually give up your true human virtues and values.
It's a lot more sinister than the current fluffy appearance. It goes deep and profoundly corrupts people.
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ExoticOrchid - 16 Apr, 2022 - 03:42PM
BH764 - 01:57PM
Totally and absolutely agree with every word ... 👏
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TheBoredHousewife - 16 Apr, 2022 - 01:57PM
100% Female, biological and identify as.
Loves biological males.
Woke/Cancel culture/virtue signalling/PC/Cultural appropriation BS - just say and call it out as it is. Be tactful and mindful of others, but not lower and negate your entire being.
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ExoticOrchid - 16 Apr, 2022 - 11:54AM
PS: the second part of my comment is really for the "Do we ..." post! 🤦♀️
ExoticOrchid - 16 Apr, 2022 - 11:19AM
So glad not to be working in all these "right on" virtue signalling, woke, politically correct places ... considering the current environment and the cancel culture (tail wagging the dog), the fact that I'm living in the "free world" is a bit of an illusion!
As for that "cultural appropriation" rubbish (yes, I know S1200L was taking the mickey) ... as a non- white ethnic minority, I can say what a load of bollocks 🙄 ... give me strength!
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1117169 - 16 Apr, 2022 - 10:42AM
I was going to say " An inalienable right" to identify as a Martian but that would have been a contradiction in terms. 😁
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truth and logic - 16 Apr, 2022 - 10:22AM
I (and all women at work)are now asked to say CIS before our gender, what BS .
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1117169 - 16 Apr, 2022 - 09:22AM
I identify myself as a Martian and its my right to do so and I will be offended if you don't accept that.
( It does not make me one, or compel anyone to accept it though) ☺
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Paula99 - 15 Apr, 2022 - 10:43PM
These days everything has to have a label or in my day it was called a license.....and now at the end of my work email there is a 'clause'..how I identify myself..aka her/she....unbelievable!!!
EE123...I have to agree with your last post😊
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MatureWorcsBBW - 15 Apr, 2022 - 07:22PM
If I label myself as a BBW, or any other label, like woman, mature, single etc, that's my choice.
I've asked nobody to agree with me.
It's how I perceive myself.
Simple
🙂
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EmnEm123 - 15 Apr, 2022 - 07:08PM
@Londonladye6
You did not compromise on anything.
On a serious note, for the folks who claim that everyone should consider everyone, every type.
I can understand that someone you might not find immediately attractive could grow on you personality wise but this isn't an ongoing social setting, it's online dating.
To suggest that any shape, size, after getting to know the person, could attract you, well, I'm sceptical.
I have never and could never find an obese man attractive, I have never and could never find a short man attractive.
So no, everyone and anyone shouldn't be considered.
This is a cheat site, aim high, if you don't find it, don't settle, a lot of us have done that already in life.
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1516594 - 15 Apr, 2022 - 04:12PM
I can understand a lady wanting a tall man because she is also tall but I wouldn't say that constitutes a type on its own. I guess for most people a 'type' is a mix of physical and non-physical characteristics that appeal to them based on their personal experience.
I knew one guy who was only attracted to very slim blonde women and was petrified of big boobs, and yet another guy for whom boobs were everything. It didn't matter what she looked like, if the boobs were big he was on it. ('It' being the chase, not the girl; I'd never be so demeaning.)
There is hope for us all!
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1497533 - 15 Apr, 2022 - 02:31PM
I met someone on here just before lockdown who ticked my box on being tall. We talked a lot before we met and the sparks flew when we met. The more we met and talked, the more attractive i found him.
Lockdown made things difficult as we were both working from home, i was shielding and it was impossible to meet.
We stayed friends on and off. We've now rekindled our romance and things are better than ever.
So know what you wont compromise on, but give things a go
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1352614 - 15 Apr, 2022 - 07:23AM
All I am going to say is:
"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder"
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1117169 - 15 Apr, 2022 - 07:13AM
@ MatureWorcsBBW
Full marks for honesty, though I have to say that women who describe themselves as a BBW are often using that as a euphemism. Its not always the case that a BBW is a larger lady of course, but it usually follows.
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1507214 - 15 Apr, 2022 - 12:07AM
Type? Jesus, there are so many!
How is anyone expected to have 'A' type??
There are as many types as there are clichés to describe them so no, I do not have a type - realistically neither do any of us but we may think we do, at least to start off with
MatureWorcsBBW - 14 Apr, 2022 - 11:25PM
Plus I like the men who are attracted to fat women.
☺️
I won't butter it up by using the word curvy because I know I'm fat and I'm happy with that.
If you're not, don't message me.
It's that simple.
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MatureWorcsBBW - 14 Apr, 2022 - 11:19PM
Definitely.
On the taller side.
I like nerdy, quiet, unassuming men.
Doesn't have to be handsome or sexually experienced.
In fact I'm attracted to the opposite.
NewDirection2016 - 14 Apr, 2022 - 11:11PM
Definitely. Soulful heartfelt energetic connection. Woman able to connect this way. That’s my type.
SensualSally1987 - 14 Apr, 2022 - 09:58PM
I don’t have a type but I do look for attraction if that makes sense?
I am one for conversation and humour but also someone who I think “ohh…you’re a snack I can’t wait to sink my teeth into!”
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1458907 - 14 Apr, 2022 - 09:14PM
Interesting as this question always is contentious topic due to diverse personality and characteristics that mirrors our perception of “Type” = “Ideal”
Sometimes it’s better to have a type but leave an open mind because sometimes new preference can be quite as captivating as “old” preferences. I dare say in some cases enlightening. For those who like their comfort zone with “type” good for you too. What ever works best for you.
As to the individual ( won’t give him oxygen by mentioning his name ) African women from a certain region are curvy in nature based in genetics do you consider that being overweight? If you have a myopic view of life and people please keep it to yourself.
WarmSun - 14 Apr, 2022 - 08:30PM
For me… I’d probably say I have a type. But then when I think of people I’ve been attracted to, or had great fun with.. they’ve looked fairly different from each other
I do find certain ‘types’ just do nothing for me and that hasn’t changed over my adult life . It’s just how it is
On here it hasn’t lead to any disappointment though as I don’t have any expectations of someone I’m just messaging. It’s only a meet where I’m really hoping to see if the attraction is there, any chemistry, a click . That’s why I like to do that fairly soon after exchanging photos and some messages
Even after a meet, if there isn’t the attraction? Well that’s life.
People are totally entitled to have types, or not have types. People are entitled to choose right?
Lastly, damn the shitty comments from the few on here. Not going to feed the trolls. Twats
Everyone else… Hi, Good evening and carry on having your own bloody opinions. Good on you
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1497533 - 14 Apr, 2022 - 07:56PM
Blue boy. It's you're
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1117169 - 14 Apr, 2022 - 07:28PM
PS
That should be "Fora" of course ( In the UK) but I didn't want to look like a grammar nerd.
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1117169 - 14 Apr, 2022 - 07:21PM
Trolls deliberately post offensive things to provoke a reaction. They get some kind of thrill from it. That's why its best to ignore them and not rise to the bait, as I say. Responding merely encourages them more and leads to toxity and nastiness on the forums they infest.
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1515202 - 14 Apr, 2022 - 06:34PM
Blueboy’s comments show how little he knows and/or values women.
He must have a queue of females waiting to meet him on IE!
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Johnnnnnny - 14 Apr, 2022 - 06:15PM
Blueboy1981
There’s gentle ribbing, which is fine; cheeky comments which some find a bit off, but you can get away with; snarky comments which are probably not meant to offend, but are often taken the wrong way; and then there is just saying things which are mean and make people feel bad- which really isn’t necessary and makes you look like a bit of a twat.
I think you’ve crossed a line there.
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Hedone - 14 Apr, 2022 - 05:38PM
Blueboy1981
Whenever I see the word Blueboy1981 I think narrow minded a&#e
Honestly!
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1357585 - 14 Apr, 2022 - 05:27PM
After decades of marriage I am no longer sure if I have a particular preference for any traits which means my favourites list has become unmanageable in a very short space of time.
1357585 - 14 Apr, 2022 - 05:26PM
Curvy= overweight??? Curvy is just that a body with beautiful curves. I admit there is a spectrum of how curvy someone is but then it is also down to someone's own view of themselves and how they think they compare to others. I have met a lady who described herself as "curvy" when in fact I would have described her as athletic/Amazonian. She was stunning.
1508936 - 14 Apr, 2022 - 04:40PM
When I see a profile that says “curvy,” it basically means your overweight
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Paula99 - 14 Apr, 2022 - 04:31PM
S&R..go for it....paper means nothing and you have proved it...
Some can't get passed the 'type' subject..its all about compromise and having an open mind..😊
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1516594 - 14 Apr, 2022 - 01:42PM
@S&R Lovely when it happens, isn't it?! But I also believe there is some merit in the phrase 'easy come, easy go'. There can be so many non-physical traits about a person that become very endearing after you've known them for a while that are not always immediately obvious so having a preconceived 'type' can be quite limiting. I used to be attracted almost exclusively to brunettes. My last IE changed all that!
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SexAndRomance - 14 Apr, 2022 - 11:09AM
Few days ago I met with the loveliest man that I met here on IE. Prior to our meeting we were messaging each other for couple of weeks. We exchanged few teasing but not too revealing photographs and chatted on the phone few times. On a paper he is not my type and I am not his usual type. We discussed this and still decided to meet and see how things will develop...Thank goodness that the hotel we had lunch at had a room available for us to snap!!! The chemistry between us was instant, we could barely finish our lunch! We are now planning our next lunch date 😉
All I can say is, open your mind, be curious, explore and don't be afraid to expand your boundaries.
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mipaulac - 14 Apr, 2022 - 02:26AM
There seems to be a lot of people banging on about size descriptions it's quite simple really........ waist size can someone touch their elbows or hands when they put arms around your waist :-) Aparently BMI doesn't give a healthy indication of weight so no chance with dress size however waist size does giving or taking a bit for height. So if your hands can't touch when put around some ones waist they are definitely too big, unhealthly so and need to start abdominal excercises and eating less. ASAP which prevents back injury and has the bonus of strengthening pelvic floor muscles which makes a female so much better at sex and a male able to give far deeper rhythmic satisfaction.........Fact !!!
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1117169 - 12 Apr, 2022 - 06:08AM
@Witch1
They never used to substitute a lower strength or quality beer, so I guess nobody minded and some could not tell, though the beer aficionados probably could, so in the end the beer didn't spoil and it didn't matter. It was a pragmatic win / win solution.
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1515576 - 11 Apr, 2022 - 10:08PM
Lol absolutely emotionally unavailable let downs 😂
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1483184 - 11 Apr, 2022 - 08:45PM
I’m no beer drinker , but I doubt many could tell what beer they were drinking 😁
CheatyCheatyBangBang - 11 Apr, 2022 - 08:44PM
Who is here to find something else and who is here to find what they wish their OH had but doesn't?
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1117169 - 11 Apr, 2022 - 08:27PM
@Witch1
I know someone who set up a brewery .They used to do the same thing with their beer if they had run out of a particular brew.
1483184 - 11 Apr, 2022 - 06:39PM
I know someone who used to make garments for next , if they were short certain sizes they used to relabel them with whatever size they were short of to fill the order
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1117169 - 11 Apr, 2022 - 06:20PM
@ExoticOrchid
It reminds me of the tale of the size 30 lady who claimed that she suffers from dysmorphia because every time she looks in the mirror she sees a fat woman.
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ExoticOrchid - 11 Apr, 2022 - 05:30PM
A51/FC
Different stores do differ in ¥sizing ... a size 10 (or whatever) can vary quite substantially from store to store ... ditto for jeans even by the same brand. What I really dislike though is the stores using those mirrors which makes you look slimmer so you buy their clothes. Should be banned in my opinion. 😠
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FluffyClouds - 11 Apr, 2022 - 04:40PM
Aziza-
Well, I should have maybe said, 'every shop I shop in' in fairness. No idea about Next, don't buy clothing there. Though their Home section has some nice items.
ExoticOrchid - 11 Apr, 2022 - 02:08PM
CIL1973 - 11 Apr, 2022 - 01:01PM
Once again, you are incapable of READING comments properly.
I'm saying women might lie about dress size like men like about height and age ... so what's "disingenous" about it ... as for "contradictory" ... you go and RE-READ my original comment about that situation ... it was about WHEN they say no ... I never said they did not have the right to say no.
Your desperation, petulance and entitlement is extremely tiresome ... always on a whinge about not being able to find anyone and blaming the women for it ... perhaps you should take a good, hard look at your own attitude why don't you.
I was supportive to you when you messaged me but that was before you started on your woke rants here. If women here are so disgusting, why are you still here?
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Hedone - 11 Apr, 2022 - 01:48PM
CIL1973
Yes of course people do lie on here. But there are plenty who don’t lie,
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There is no point lying about height, weight, dress size because you will get found out when you actually get to meet. Oh hang on, maybe ladies on here don’t actually meet, but just like the online fantasy instead where you can say whatever you like. 🤔😁
Just because we are on a marital dating site does not mean that we are constantly lying.
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Hedone - 11 Apr, 2022 - 01:44PM
Fluffy clouds
You are very very lucky. Every shop are you sure?
Have you seen a size 8 top in Next? Next are renowned for their big sizing. A size 12 or 14 lady could get themselves into a 8 Next top 🙄
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FluffyClouds - 11 Apr, 2022 - 01:16PM
Paula99 -
I'm a 10/12, size 10/12 fits me is every shop I go in. Maybe you're changing size.
1488125 - 11 Apr, 2022 - 01:01PM
@ExoticOrchid
like men lie about, what? Everything? Women do too. You are being completely disingenuous. And so contradictory. In one thread you go on about women who say no, and tear into them, here you are saying that something else... By nature, this website is full of people who lie. So it is the height of hypocrisy to go on about on about lying.
ExoticOrchid - 11 Apr, 2022 - 12:42PM
truth and logic - 11 Apr, 2022 - 12:31PM
" just tell we where?"
America ... their sizing is two down from the UK.
Paula99 - 11 Apr, 2022 - 11:31AM
"Dress sizes...should IE ask the the question?"
Personally I'd say No ... I don't ask them what waist size their trousers are.
However, I have seen many profiles where the men have stipulated dress size.
I'm with the "meet in person" school of thought as some might even lie anyway ... like men like about their height and age.
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1488125 - 11 Apr, 2022 - 12:41PM
@EmnEm123
Enforced meets - definitely not! Being open to getting to know someone with an open mind, yes. But that it seems is a minority here. People like myself have learnt how not to judge books by their covers.
missingfun - 11 Apr, 2022 - 12:39PM
I'd love him to look like the average outside centre (I married one) but far more interested in the mind and manners....
truth and logic - 11 Apr, 2022 - 12:31PM
I learn something everyday on this site , today it was 14 and 16 are two sizes up, i must buy clothes at he wrong places , i have never seen size 15 or 13 for that matter, thanks for the tip though i might go down a size , just tell we where?
Paula99 - 11 Apr, 2022 - 11:31AM
Dress sizes...should IE ask the the question?
If you go to Primani your anything from a size 10 to a size 24...😂😂😂
Maybe they should ask the guys what size they are?..😇
Its not going to make an ounce of difference as sizes are different in all shops..
FluffyClouds - 11 Apr, 2022 - 01:00AM
US sizes are actually 2 sizes down from UK. So a US 6 is a UK 10 and a US 8 is a UK 12.
EmnEm123 - 10 Apr, 2022 - 10:53PM
Well, according to a lot of comments here having a type is frowned upon.
I really don't understand why?
I'm struggling how to word this, but it seems that a lot of members would like 'enforced' meets, even if that person found you completely unattractive.
I agree that profile pics don't tell the whole story but height, body type does. We are entitled to a preference.
Also, fake pics, twenty years ago, will be found out soon enough.
No-one is obliged to find you, me, him, her attractive!
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ExoticOrchid - 10 Apr, 2022 - 10:36PM
So MM was a very voluptuous (and perfect) UK size 10 then (watch the clip of her singing Happy Birthday Mr President) ... can't imagine a 36" bust fitting into size 8 clothes.
1117169 - 10 Apr, 2022 - 09:08PM
@FluffyClouds
I suspected as much.
You do realise that you have just blown the cover of dozens of " Curvaceous" ladies on here?
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FluffyClouds - 10 Apr, 2022 - 08:13PM
Actually it's a myth that Marilyn Monroe was a larger size and a size 14. This has been proven by measurements taken from the clothes she wore that are now in museums and private collections. She was 5ft 6 weighed 120lbs (she weighed 140lb in Some Like it Hot as she was pregnant but miscarried). She was 36 bust, 24 waist and 34 hips. She was a US Size 6-8.
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ExoticOrchid - 10 Apr, 2022 - 03:01PM
Yes ... the decent type!
Yes ... there are those who turn out NOT to be decent.
Yes ... life on IE is interesting and very successful.
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ExoticOrchid - 10 Apr, 2022 - 02:01PM
truth and logic- 10:13AM
MM's size was purely an example really.
Also, US sizes are two UK sizes down therefore their size 14 would UK 16 ... brilliant buying clothes in the US! 😁
1488125 - 10 Apr, 2022 - 12:22PM
@truth and logic
Staying open minded. That does not happen here. A woman does not respond to my mail except with a demand for my password. I give it willingly with a tiny hope that she will like it.
But I know what is coming. You are not my type.
If she was going to be open minded she would have chatted first.
You are quite right in what you said to me.
truth and logic - 10 Apr, 2022 - 10:13AM
How about saying size 10 or whatever you wear for ladies and 36 waist or whatever for guys, im size 14(cheers lock-down) but did not say curvy as that now seems be be size 18 plus in most terms, so average was my pick , which says nothing , as size 16 is said to be UK average. MS Monroe was i think US 16 AS SHE IS NOT IN FILMS BIG ENOUGH TO BE UK ONE .12 UK i think. But what a nightmare IE she would of made lets keep it real and lets stay openminded.
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ExoticOrchid - 09 Apr, 2022 - 09:29PM
Londonladye6 - 06:15PM
I'd still say "curvaceous" is the closest ... there aren't many "real" women with a body like Monroe anyway.
Not as if the men are body perfect either.
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1497533 - 09 Apr, 2022 - 06:15PM
IE needs something between curvy and ample. In the real world I don't describe myself as fat or ample or curvacious.
Yes I'm size 16 but ample makes me sound like a shapeless being. I have curves but not of the Marilyn Monroe type.
My preference is for tall men with some meat on them. I'm drawn more to a nice face and smile more than body type
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1488125 - 09 Apr, 2022 - 04:14PM
@paula99
I think you are right.
I am just saying that types don’t always get what you want in the end. Being honestly curious can yield surprises.
Paula99 - 09 Apr, 2022 - 04:01PM
We all have a "type' I married mine..🤣
As we get older we have had life experiences and these determine the people we are...your original type becomes less important...the 'niggles ' that you thought were significant are now absent..I always went for tall..dark..brown eyes dark skin guy...but your tastes change overtime..
My tongue would be on the floor when Tom Cruise was in Top Gun..but now I think what the bludy hell did I see in him.
You do need a origin to show you how far you have come and what is essential to a partnership..
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1488125 - 09 Apr, 2022 - 03:45PM
@margaret81
Indeed. That is a loaded question. Honesty is hard to come by. For both sexes. Fantasy is also a contributor.
1488125 - 09 Apr, 2022 - 03:21PM
Quite simply, ruling out someone on looks is shallow. A mate of mine said once he only shagged “normal” girls. I asked what did he mean? He said quite simply anyone who shag. He did have an attractive woman as a girl friend once, but described her as cold as a fish in bed. He eventually married a very large woman. They have 5 kids and I never seen two people as attracted to each other as them.
Looks are superficial, and a tubby fellow could make a woman climax better than a muscular bloke could.
Sex, passion and sensuality should never be based purely on looks. Mutual attraction is important, but it does require an open mind.
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1308849 - 09 Apr, 2022 - 02:36PM
Hi i agree with UK FEmme people need to be honest about the way they look and their build a better idear would be dress size for women and height and weight for the guys i class myself as slim but fit not week !! and the girls who ask for a photo ,this can be misleading as well ,you really dont know if you may click just because of a photo ! happy hunting all of you mission impossible ??
DDraper - 09 Apr, 2022 - 02:25PM
There's a fine balance in countering this concern - ask for pics too soon and potentially sound desperate(?); too late and you could have either been misled or, more likely, fantasised of looks you wish they had. Which can be unfair; disappointment is some where between expectation and reality.
ExoticOrchid - 09 Apr, 2022 - 01:06PM
BH764 - 12:56PM
I'd say "ample" is another polite word for "big" ... as for dress/shirt size option ... a female 16 is probably not a MM curvy ... similarly, a man's shirt size might not include a big beer belly for example ... only way to find out is by meeting in person.
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TheBoredHousewife - 09 Apr, 2022 - 12:56PM
I think Marilyn Monroe too, and I am nowhere like her, so I used to use ‘cuddly’, until almost every guy I chatted with said they just equated that with ‘curvy’.
What is ‘ample’ then? 🤔
Maybe we should have a dress/shirt size option to get a better idea.
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ExoticOrchid - 09 Apr, 2022 - 12:42PM
People are so afraid of the "woke" police that they dare not use the word "fat" or "obese" therefore "curvy" is universally used.
A51 - 11:46AM
Totally agree, especially re the gorgeous Marilyn ... apparently she was a UK size 16 but "curvy" in the true sense if the word.
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1117169 - 09 Apr, 2022 - 12:28PM
@Aziza51
Your definition of curvaceous is the same as mine. Often its used as a euphemism for obese.
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Hedone - 09 Apr, 2022 - 11:46AM
MC LFFWB
Indeed everyone has their interpretation of curvaceous, in fact I’ve had a few disagreements about this. To me curvy means slim build but with an ample chest and hips/bum. Some women describe themselves as curvy but are actually obese, everyone will have their differing view, but Marilyn Monroe equals curvy to me.
I describe myself as curvy and if I actually get lucky and find a decent bloke on here I’m hoping that they will agree with me 😁
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1511833 - 09 Apr, 2022 - 11:31AM
UKFemme
Spot on both genders.
I know some big ladies in my gym, so when a lady put's interest "gym goer" it doesn't always mean the image that springs to mind. My point is, some sell a "type" better than others. A type can be portrayed as well.
What does curvaceous actually mean? I have found this can be many types it seems.
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1117169 - 09 Apr, 2022 - 11:06AM
@UKFemme
Which is why men like that can't be found on here.
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1515202 - 09 Apr, 2022 - 10:36AM
Tall, dark, handsome, great smile, 6 pack, perfectly chiselled, thrusts like a well oiled engine.
Great listener, the ultimate seducer in bed.
He doesn’t need IE 🤣
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1117169 - 09 Apr, 2022 - 10:18AM
I think that many things can be attractive in a person but when it comes down to visceral physical attraction its inevitable that some people won't have what does it for you.
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Hedone - 09 Apr, 2022 - 10:13AM
Mission Classified
Indeed not all beautiful people are boring, but it’s hard to find those that aren’t. That’s why i prefer normal real people, who have a sense of humour and without any BS. So maybe I do have a type 🤔
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1488125 - 09 Apr, 2022 - 10:09AM
A type? What a superficial way of looking at people!
I love women of all shapes and sizes, age, backgrounds etc.
A woman can be beautiful in many ways, but what are turn ons? So many different things. Beautiful eyes, or legs or hands - I find painted nails a huge turn on.
To be honest, I adore red heads! Just because I do. A red head can be so stunning. But so can a blonde or brunette.
A woman who is nice, kind, gentle, friendly can be the most alluring woman on earth, as opposed to a stunning woman. And then there are brains, personality, communication skills. These are massive turn ons.
So many women have told me I am not their type. That is their prerogative. But then a lot of theee women are missing out on what I can bring to a relationship.
1511833 - 09 Apr, 2022 - 10:06AM
A gentlemen's point of view.
There is nothing wrong with handsome or pretty. Not all handsome's or pretties are boring, x.
Maybe the questions need to be more to the point to cut the BS. Like in the real world you have the ones that talk a lot and then the ones that speak with their actions.
Hedone - 09 Apr, 2022 - 09:47AM
I’ve learnt the hard way, don’t have a type.
The type I normally go for are very handsome but end up being a bore in the bedroom.
It’s gets very tiresome!
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1516116 - 09 Apr, 2022 - 09:39AM
My only type is when the chemistry works with a sensual woman.
1511833 - 09 Apr, 2022 - 09:27AM
A gentlemen's point of view.
There will always be a preconceived type, people judging at first appearance, it comes from experiences. You learn over time what you don't like, big, skinning, blonde, brunette, dark, light, whatever it maybe.
Also with experience you find that someone's first impression can change as their personality shines through and can make them more attractive.
It depends on the situation and what relationship you are after on here. If you are actually looking for a long term relationship or someone to relieve you on occasion, as possible the type requirement may be quite different.
Are you looking for a beautiful mum / dad that has a lovely personality and is a good person, or a sexy naughty that wants to take you away from the norm and still has all the good traits.
Maybe your usual type is not what you already have at home. Maybe you need to use this opportunity to open your mind and not be so short sighted. To click maybe more in the mind and soul to reboot your arousal senses.
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1505288 - 10 Feb, 2022 - 03:16PM
I have my “type” but then there is also chemistry.
I could be with the prettiest most physically attractive woman possible (in my dreams) but if there is no chemistry then I may as well go home and play World of Warcraft.
When I was at school the question we were always asking each other was “would you prefer a fit woman with no personality or a larger lady with great personality?”
I have found that personality trumps looks and keeps you coming back for more so I will not be slavishly looking for one certain physical look. After all, the most powerful sex organ is the one between your ears.
Wildside601 - 12 Dec, 2021 - 05:07PM
Yes I have a type. I don't like facial hair or bald men. Also I am only attracted to tall men. Yes we need to like each other but I must fancy you, I am looking for a lover
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EmnEm123 - 11 Dec, 2021 - 10:28PM
I do have a type.
I'm entitled to it, as are you!
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Andyoxf - 08 Dec, 2021 - 05:21PM
I have a type but I don't mind if someone doesn't conform. I think my type has changed over time, and often reflects who I most recently dated.
I do prefer a larger lady, with nice feminine curves. I think this is because I once dated a skinny woman and on the second date began to realise she wasn't actually female. I guess these days you'd call her a trans woman but those were less enlightened days and i felt like an idiot and didn't invite her out again.
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ExoticOrchid - 08 Dec, 2021 - 04:48PM
whowouldhavesaid - 08 Dec, 2021 - 12:11PM
I assume your tongue was firmly in your cheek when you wrote your comment!
1492359 - 08 Dec, 2021 - 04:01PM
Within boundaries... someone i can fall in love with, spoil and shower with affection... would be my ultimate type.
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deanxstafford - 08 Dec, 2021 - 01:22PM
I dont have a type.
Just like genuine and sincere people.. who value the same in others.
Always a good place to start..
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Old Sapper - 08 Dec, 2021 - 01:11PM
I remember meeting one person who claimed to be late 50s turned out to be more like mid-70s.
csssws30 - 08 Dec, 2021 - 12:56PM
I was more disappointed when the person I met didn't resemble their pictures in any shape or form, but thought that we had got on so well that I wouldn't mind. However she was at least 15 stone heavier than the person in the picture. Call me shallow. And Id brushed my teeth.
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1489085 - 08 Dec, 2021 - 12:11PM
Going back to the original question ("Do you have a type", as opposed to "Do you have an STD"): I don't have a type.
Smart slim brunette, smart slim red hair, smart slim short or medium height, smart slim brown or blue eyes - I am very open minded.
1490240 - 06 Dec, 2021 - 12:30AM
This is ridiculous scaremongering from emnem. 70% of people in the UK have type 1 herpes. Most people have it as cold sores on their faces but genital type 1 herpes is increasing due to the prevalence of unprotected oral sex. It's very common and rarely of any import.
It is theoretically possible to pass herpes through breastfeeding, to correct bunny.ears, but it is very unlikely. The virus does not pass through breast milk, so there would need to be an active lesipn on the nipple or breast. Given that herpes transmits most commonly in the oral and genital areas, that's so unlikely it's statistically insignificant.
Herpes can cause complications during birth but only for women who contract it genitally in the later stages of pregnancy and for babies of those women. For women who contract is genital during the early stages of pregnancy, or before pregnancy, neonatal antibodies reduce the risk to less than 1%. Contracting it orally during pregnancy poses no risk.
You really need to read up on this.
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Bellerosa - 26 Nov, 2021 - 06:21PM
I understand pictures at the outset but I prefer to meet in person relatively quickly… I would not have fancied my first lover from his pictures and would have missed out on a glorious adventure.. also it’s a big part of discretion to not keep any pictures online
1117169 - 26 Nov, 2021 - 04:28PM
I understand that 70% of people over 25 have herpes.
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EmnEm123 - 23 Nov, 2021 - 10:26PM
@bunny.ears
Wrong again!
It can be passed from mother to baby during breastfeeding.
And as for the women who died, the virus was transmitted during C-sections. As they were primary infections the women didn't have it during pregnancy.
Also, I never claimed that I had read his profile, I said the exact opposite.
Check your facts, on all counts!
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1460161 - 22 Nov, 2021 - 11:17PM
@ExoticOrchid, @EmnEm123
The sentence was in his profile at the time EmnEm claimed it wasn't, so that's evidence she couldn't be bothered to read it. Which is a shame.
You are right that you can pass the virus on through oral or penetrative sex, but not to someone who already had already contracted it before and has antibodies.
You are right that it can cause blisters. In most people, it doesn't. It can't can't passed through breastfeeding due to neonatal antibodies passed from a mother to baby. That is simply wrong. Presumably you both also noted from the very sad article in BBC news that both babies survived whilst both mothers died. Babies actually have incredibly strong immune systems inherited from their mothers for a period of a few months from birth. This is to stop them immediately succumbing in a world full of antigens to which their own bodies haven't yet developed resistance.
Deaths from herpes are incredibly, incredibly rare. In that sense, it's less dangerous than flu.
EmnEm123 - 22 Nov, 2021 - 10:34PM
@Exotic
Yes, I saw that earlier, absolutely awful.
Perhaps @bunny.ears requires further training and knowledge before claiming others are ignorant.
Although, 'healthcare worker' covers a multitude!
ExoticOrchid - 22 Nov, 2021 - 10:15PM
A story on BBC news right now ... two women who died after c/section ... it is thought both women died of herpes after being operated on by the same surgeon who is thought to be infected with herpes!
EmnEm123 - 22 Nov, 2021 - 09:59PM
@Exotic
Thanks 👍
I would also like to say that it's not a 'relatively harmless' STI.
It can cause painful lesions/blisters, severely run down the immune system, prevent new mothers breastfeeding as the virus can be very serious for a baby.
Plus it's untreatable, although it can lie dormant at which point it's not so easy to transmit.
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ExoticOrchid - 22 Nov, 2021 - 09:45PM
Can I just say that it is a very recent addition to his profile. It was not there originally.
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EmnEm123 - 22 Nov, 2021 - 09:41PM
@bunny.ears
I am also aware that there are two types of virus.
You can pass on the virus if you have sores on the mouth and engage in oral sex, as you can pass on the virus from penetrative sex if you have genital herpes and the virus is active.
You're correct, I haven't read his profile. My information came from this thread.
If I had read his profile, I still wouldn't have mentioned the particulars on a thread.
1460161 - 22 Nov, 2021 - 09:06PM
@EmnEm123
The same virus causes both cold sores and genital herpes. (Actually, there are two viruses but they both cause cold sores and genital sores.) If you have cold sores from one type type can't get genital sores from the same type because you've already developed antibodies.
No conclusions jumped to. If you had read @mixed_feelings' profile (which clearly you haven't), you'd have seen he mentions it in the very first line of his bio.
EmnEm123 - 22 Nov, 2021 - 05:15PM
@bunny.ears
I'm sceptical of your credentials and statistics.
I am aware that herpes can cause sores around the mouth.
You seem to have failed to mention genital herpes.
I would also like to point out that @mixed_feelings never stated which STI he has.
Jumping to the conclusion that it's herpes is rather presumptuous, some healthcare worker!
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1460161 - 22 Nov, 2021 - 03:47PM
Hi @mixed_feelings
I would ignore EmnEm123. I'm not sure she's really informed herself about STIs, particularly not herpes, and is probably making assumptions. She probably doesn't realise that herpes causes cold sores on people's lips and that, actually, over 75% - by some counts, even 90% - of people have it, that is is untreatable but that it is perfectly harmless in 99.9% of cases. I know - I work in healthcare.
It will require some explaining to people - a lot of people are quite ignorant about it - but people who take the time to understand and are worth your attention will understand.
EmnEm123 - 22 Nov, 2021 - 03:17PM
@mixed_feelings
I'm fully aware of what 'relatively' means, thanks.
You stated that your STI means you have less options for specifying a type.
I obviously don't see the women's profiles and I've certainly never seen 'my type is anything or anybody, STI's welcome', on the guys profiles!
If it is ongoing and untreatable, it can't be harmless, relatively or otherwise.
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1490290 - 22 Nov, 2021 - 07:28AM
Em,
The key is in the word 'relatively', signifying that a variable (in this case harm) can be measured on a scale.
The number of people who do have STIs is surprisingly high... many people being carriers without knowing!
EnigmaticPatient - 21 Nov, 2021 - 11:45PM
Don't have type. Open to all. Love to experience new things. If you don't try it at least once how do you know you dont like it !
EmnEm123 - 20 Nov, 2021 - 10:26PM
@Littledawg
You may perceive that women are blocking you for no reason, they would obviously say otherwise.
Whilst I would say it would be polite to say "as it turns out, you're not for me", that can sometimes be met with entitlement, bitterness and abuse.
That's life, it's most certainly online dating life, just move on and forget it.
There seems to be an increasing number of people on here who not only need to be more realistic but need to toughen up a bit.
Stop with the 'God given right' that anyone you message should want to fuck you!
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1483417 - 20 Nov, 2021 - 09:20PM
My type is women who read my message. Look at my profile and then actually send me a message. Not my type are people who I seem to be getting on well with who then block me for no reason.
EmnEm123 - 19 Nov, 2021 - 09:57PM
First of all, apologies for my typos and misspellings in previous post. Dull evenings, failing eyesight!
@mixed-feelings
Is this a joke. What do you mean?
I'm genuinely interested. What STI is relatively harmless?
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1459973 - 19 Nov, 2021 - 09:56PM
@mixed_feelings The irony is virtually everyone is probably in the same boat as you. Herpes is the most common STI and its not tested for in a standard screen, partly because it's so incredibly innocuous and partly because antibody blood tests are incredibly unreliable. The only reason people still worry about it is because of historic public interest campaigns. Plus most women in here are older and so have that imagine in mind. STIs lime chlamydia and gonorrhea are much worse but get shrugged off because of antibiotics. I know that doesn't help, but don't let your status get you down.
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Blueyedboy61 - 19 Nov, 2021 - 09:42PM
Been looking on here for ladies who are 60/70 years of age, I'm 61, why is it sometimes you read there profile and it reads "I'm a 53 year old woman" and looking for men of same age ish ,very strange, so am I interested in ladies not my age range ,waste of time !!!!
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1490290 - 19 Nov, 2021 - 08:36PM
Given that I have a common and relatively harmless STI I have less options in specifying a type!
It was interesting in the first 24hrs until I had to disclose my status, now it's just about finding someone in the same boat as I!
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EmnEm123 - 18 Nov, 2021 - 02:03PM
Hits The Spot
I have preferences, it doesn't make make me arrogant or shallow, that's life. I wouldn't be everyone's cup of tea.
You say that you have a definite type but you have met others who don't meet your criteria and you have had fantastic relationships.
That makes you not only arrogant, hypoccrital but DESPERATE.
Pathetic!
Hits The Spot - 18 Nov, 2021 - 12:20PM
If a profile has a "shopping list" of physical features (and many that I read do have), of course it gives an indication of what the person's type is, which can save everyone time, but to me it suggests a rather arrogant and shallow personality. I have a definite type but have met women on here who look very different to that type and have had some fantastic relationships out of it.
I'm quite honest about my height in my profile as I know many women are looking for Stephen Merchant height! But then I have been contacted by women who, when I look at their profile I think "I wouldn't ever have messaged you as you specify Tall Dark Handsome etc" but when I point this out to them they say they don't remember writing that and height isn't a big issue. Like many things on this site it's all a bit of a minefield!! lol
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Countess J - 12 Nov, 2021 - 01:41PM
I find this happens when individuals are not honest about what they truly need, want and desire. Many of the profiles are blank. So there's nothing to compare 3 days of conversation/texting to. Also, not reading a profile in it's entirety. For example, crucial hints regarding my lifestyle are peppered throughout my profile. Yet still I receive offers from little boys wanting to spank me. I am and will always be Dominant. The only spanking will be conducted by Myself. 😄
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rarity23 - 08 Nov, 2021 - 04:04PM
I don't have a type anymore either, I'm much more open minded now I'm older.
It's not all about looks at the end of the day, and I would never reject someone by their pictures on here.... everyone looks better in real life.
It's always worth a meet, and see how it goes in real life, so for me too IE is definitely interesting and often successful.
Emerald Dream - 07 Nov, 2021 - 10:13PM
If you were successful before the Internet then you will be successful with or without a site.A site is only useful as a filter, providing the truth is told , and it very rarely is.
1456808 - 07 Nov, 2021 - 09:32PM
I think it’s really important to exchange passwords within the first few messages
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ExoticOrchid - 07 Nov, 2021 - 07:31PM
DS72 - 07:08PM
Hence my personal preference
... the importance of exchanging passwords early!
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1362461 - 07 Nov, 2021 - 07:08PM
I wouldn't say I have a type, but it can be disappointing when you simply don't find the person you've been messaging attractive.
Also, I make it a rule that I won't chat with someone who doesn't have photos. Because even if you appear to have a connection and you decide to wattsapp or connect on Kik, then finding out they don't do it for you once they have sent you a pic is very awkward to deal with, and you end up feeling as if you've led them on.
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Eliza Boo - 06 Nov, 2021 - 10:36PM
I wish I looked like Dakota Fanning, but I don't. If someone knows deep in their loins that Dakota Fanning's body is what rings their bell, I have to wish them well and take it on the chin. Almost everyone on here is missing an important slice of happiness, and if Dakota Fanning's beautiful lithe form is what will make them feel happy- who am I to lecture?!
But I have learnt this: Didn't we all marry 'our type'? I did, perfect for me, he is. How did that turn out for us then? Didn't get everything, did we?!
For those who never got what they want and see this as their second chance to get it, well good luck to them.
Just be open, you might be surprised.
You might even be completely and utterly intoxicated.
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Youandme2 - 06 Nov, 2021 - 09:28AM
It's not about type, it's about 'click' and connection.Its difficult to describe but you just know if you like/ get on/ find someone attractive and you know if you absolutely don't and never will.
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Paula99 - 05 Nov, 2021 - 06:00PM
My last guy wasn't really my type..but we spent 4 years together ...the chemistry and connection was perfect ...
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1485847 - 05 Nov, 2021 - 03:30PM
For me it's more about how the meeting feels, if I feel comfortable then there's a possibility of a relationship either casual or up to long term.
We never see ourselves as we others see us, so disappointed is when there isn't a spark and not when I thought was my type.
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jamesedition - 05 Nov, 2021 - 02:08PM
Once we learn to accept that no one is universally attractive (and I mean no one, there are people alive who don’t think Chris Hemsworth or Scarlett Johansson are hot) it is a lot easier to weather the storm of the inevitable rejection we are all going to face on here.
For me the question is paradoxical. Because on the one hand, attraction (even raw physical attraction) is about more than a height or a colour or a dress size or a cup size and it incorporates things like confidence, sass, overall proportions and many other things.
But on the other hand we all have things we are drawn to.
For me, petite curvy brunettes will get my attention above most other things, but that’s not to say I won’t be attracted to a tall skinny blonde. I had a date the other day with a plus size Nigerian woman. She was an absolute riot and we had loads of fun.
I have been, and I’ve no doubt I’ll continue to be, attracted to a wide spectrum of people and I’d encourage anyone else to have the same mindset.
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1459664 - 05 Nov, 2021 - 11:22AM
It's a tricky one. On one side of the coin, I completely appreciate the ladies' need to protect their identity and therefore who in my experience will not reveal a photo password until other aspects of the potential male have been revealed by messaging. So things are going well and photos are exchanged and suddenly she doesn't like me or vice versa. This leads to disappointment or worst case being blocked. I know I'm not Adonnis or whichever creature of godlike countenance might be preferred, but I'm not bad looking I suppose. In a nutshell, don't judge a book by its cover, because like the song from the new Mary Poppins movie "The cover is not the book, so open it up and take a look" 🎶
No one is perfect, especially me, but I think everyone is worth a second look!!!
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1487815 - 05 Nov, 2021 - 10:33AM
I think there is a difference between someones "type" and just not having that physical or personal spark right? I don't really have a "type" because I don't think people are really that easy to put into neat boxes where you can say that person definitely wouldn't be for me. You might say "I not interested in people who like X or don't have this level of education" but find that you share a sense of humour which makes those other things seem less important. People are far too varied and complex to dismiss because some generic factors don't align.
All that said, after chatting you might just not feel a spark of connection. Or despite not having a physical "type" you just don't have that immediate attraction.
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Maria Jones - 04 Nov, 2021 - 01:31PM
My type is someone who believes in themselves. There is nothing more attractive that self-confidence.
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Sanosatr - 04 Nov, 2021 - 01:22PM
I wished everyone had your mind set. Unfortunately some do not see, if its personality as well as looks you go for, then you will surprised if you step out of your comfort zone.
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Sanosatr - 04 Nov, 2021 - 01:19PM
I always say never judge a book by its cover.
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Sanosatr - 04 Nov, 2021 - 01:14PM
I do find it funny when I read that they want this and that, or be more specific about what type they will accept. I have learnt that they are not worth my time and effort. I have gone out of my way to be genuine and honest on my profile. Yes Iam here to have illicit encounters, the hint is actually in the name of the website.
I have not been successful at all on the site,
maybe I should just BS my way. I actually read the profile that I find interesting and then respond. So when a woman writes they are open minded and love socialising, it's not true. Please also stop asking for pw in order for you to judhe whether we are worth chatting to. Stick your photos on first before you ask anyone else.
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1459408 - 03 Nov, 2021 - 11:45PM
Bloody hell!!! As I am a bit of an acquired taste myself!…. How can I say I have a type? My likes and dislikes would cover the whole spectrum of the women that appear on IE
As for that preposterous question your ideal partner. I mean please really (You cannot be serious) Yet some members do seriously answer that question (yes i get the age thing) However it’s the other stuff that’s written . In most part it’s Unrealistic and predictable!!.Yes we’ve all got our standards things that are acceptable and things that are not . However why not words like surprising unpredictable didn’t expect that you’re a bit different from my normal (type) but in a good way !! I mean there’s plenty of normal cretins buffoons poltroons chances and liars on this site male or female to Deal with ? Oh yes it’s best to get the PW issue over and done with swiftly hopefully both parties will deliver those stunning real life happy snaps to one another (excuse me while I enlarge mine it was out of focus
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1469055 - 03 Nov, 2021 - 04:57PM
It's interesting for sure - but not necessarily successful! It's like trying to chat someone up in a very dark night club with very loud music !
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SilverShoes - 02 Nov, 2021 - 07:56PM
I have been disappointed but I tend to get that part out of the way so not to waste too much time or lead someone up the garden path to then say they are not my type.
1485490 - 02 Nov, 2021 - 01:43PM
I agree with HarryBounce and would also add that giving your own password at the start of any conversation, makes the 'thanks but no thanks' from the recipient much easier to take, than after having exchanged a series of messages over a day or two and built up a rapport, no matter how small.
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1207759 - 02 Nov, 2021 - 01:16PM
Major lesson learnt , get a PW early in the conversation saves a whole heap of dissapointment :)
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1441406 - 02 Nov, 2021 - 11:55AM
Attraction is a complex brew , both physical and mental attraction as well as that impossible to define essence that you know is there when you encounter it !
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BigBearHugX - 01 Nov, 2021 - 11:19PM
I love smaller women with curves, hips and wobbly bits. 😁
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EmnEm123 - 01 Nov, 2021 - 10:25PM
Someone can seem like a good option on their profile but when you swap passwords there's no attraction, that's perfectly acceptable. I don't understand why anyone would think otherwise.
Perhaps properly reading a profile would stop people getting hacked off.
If I had a pound for all of the messages I have received stating " I match all of your requirements but I'm only 5'11", lol, I would have enough money to buy hundreds of bags of Haribo and I would no longer be slim but "cuddly"!😐
Also @Exotic, you make me laugh, I very much enjoy reading your posts!
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Josephlomo - 01 Nov, 2021 - 10:20PM
I believe the most important thing is respect for other people's view point even if it does not align with ours.
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1478658 - 01 Nov, 2021 - 07:35PM
Personality above anything is the most attractive trait....but let's be real...you also have to find someone physically attractive.
I agree though...don't like it when a man is rude and sends no reply. Or says not my type. A simple thanks but no thanks and move on is enough.
My recent IE was like no one I'd ever been with before. But great company, a lovely guy and amazing sex!
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ExoticOrchid - 01 Nov, 2021 - 06:45PM
EmnEm123 - 06:32PM
I too have had the "you're not my type" a few times and usually by someone whose profile says "I don't have a type" ... the irony! 🙄
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EmnEm123 - 01 Nov, 2021 - 06:32PM
Everyone is entitled to have a 'type'.
I'm 5'10", slim and look after myself. Why would I want a 5'7" man with a beer gut?
It also states on my profile, absolutely no smokers, is that also wrong?
There's nothing narrow minded about knowing what you want.
There's been a couple of times after exchanging passwords that a guy has said to me you're not my type.
I took it on the chin and moved on (why get upset about people online who you don't know?).
I wish some of the men could have the same attitude. What you are NOT entitled to is someone wanting to meet you.
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ExoticOrchid - 01 Nov, 2021 - 05:53PM
I have to say men too are also very prescriptive ... I have read profiles where they actually start with "you must be ... " and specify hair colour, hair length, dress size, etc, etc ... one had even mentioned accent!!! 🙄
As I have always said, both sexes can be as bad as each other. No excuse for rudeness though, be it by male or female.
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1483395 - 01 Nov, 2021 - 05:48PM
When I was much younger I had a type, which led to disappointment after disappointment, later on I learned that what is on the outside does not really matter, it is what is on the inside that matters...that ended up with a very happy marriage until she passed away...
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Iamasmiler - 01 Nov, 2021 - 05:43PM
Not sure I have a type. It's all down to rapport really. Looks become less important if you actually like someone's character.
The only problem is that people are so guarded that you find it hard to guage the personality.
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Peaches1 - 01 Nov, 2021 - 05:37PM
I wouldn't say I have a type as such physically but mentally yes. You either find someone attractive or you don't. I think it's best not to get your hopes up as when you do actually meet up there is not always that chemistry. This online stuff is so hard and time consuming, so much easier the old fashioned way where you can walk into a bar think Oooo they are abit of alright and have a chat and quickly know whether or not you wouldn't kick them out of bed. Sometimes the person you thought they were are like 10 yrs older and the pics they have sent are from years ago, that's happened to me twice now. Took me about 10 meets to find someone I wanted to take things further with and we just knew straightaway. Sadly it didn't last as long as I wanted it to.
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Paula99 - 01 Nov, 2021 - 04:54PM
When I was younger I did have a *type*..and I still have the same type but I don't go for it in the same way....looks wise I still look for the same traits but its more about what he brings to the table and if he can string a bloody sentence together..❤
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Imneverg - 01 Nov, 2021 - 04:27PM
I don't have a type, I go for personality over looks and age, if I get on with someone then I'm happy. I have had a lot of turn downs recently because I'm a bald dad bod!!! But I tend to think outside of the box and give everyone a chance because you meet more interesting people that way
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1469055 - 01 Nov, 2021 - 03:17PM
It's like the old cliche " I don't know about art , but I know what I like " .... - I haven't got a type anymore- take every one on their individual merits !
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1486730 - 01 Nov, 2021 - 02:43PM
I used to when I was younger, but not anymore. I now like to say I have preferences, as experience has taught me that thinking outside of "type" has been much more fun and rewarding. I had an affair with a blonde 5'8" size 18 that was just as thrilling and sexy as the one with the dark 5'2" size 10. Chemistry is key.
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hazle-eyes - 01 Nov, 2021 - 02:01PM
The person I had my first affair with was “ not my type” but I got to know her and soon realised that if you limit yourself to your “type” you are closing down your options and potentially missing out. To be quite honest we picked “our type” and we are all on here. Sometimes a change in our decisions can put us on a different path, perhaps one to happiness?
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1485490 - 01 Nov, 2021 - 11:07AM
Life and my experience on IE have taught me that I don't have any type! I find all sorts of different people attractive, for all sorts of different reasons,.
it makes for depressing reading to see those profiles loudly proclaiming a prescriptive 'type' and present a long list of what they want, and an even longer one of what they don't!
Perhaps they are just so blessed emotionally, intellectually and physically that they can afford to take their 'pick'?. Or perhaps, they're just too narrow minded to open themselves up to all the opportunities out there.
Of course we never know who's behind the messages and texts until we see them - but just because the sparks don't fly, in a physical way, doesn't mean that they 'aren't your type'. That's just a matter of physical attraction.
PS When it comes to exchanging passwords, why do female members, invariably ask to see ours first, and withhold their own, if we're not their 'type'?
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1117169 - 01 Nov, 2021 - 10:42AM
It all depends on how broad your definition of "Type" is whether you are likely to be disappointed or not and also what photos you have seen and what communication you have had before you meet. This is why its best to talk before you meet and meet sooner rather than later.
I have a very open mind and dont judge a book by its cover.
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1475619 - 01 Nov, 2021 - 10:35AM
I understand that I’m not some women’s type but there’s a lot more blocking going on these days, not only is this upsetting but quite rude, just a polite no thanks will suffice ladies
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ExoticOrchid - 01 Nov, 2021 - 10:26AM
My experiences on IE have taught me that I absolutely do NOT have a type and yes, life on IE is interesting and successful. 👍
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