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Is anyone else missing intimacy?

I feel like speaking to people on IE is the closest thing I have to closeness right now...

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1626016 - 22 Oct, 2023 - 05:31PM

Yes I miss intimacy too. My partner had a health scare and now takes medication that affects things. It’s been 4 years and he won’t even try and find a compromise or talk to doctors to see if helps available. I don’t want to leave at all, but I need intimacy and physical affection.

Paula99 - 21 Oct, 2023 - 05:57AM

Contrary to what people think ….for the majority of the time the issue whether it be intimacy or other marriage problems… there are always 2 sides and 2 people causing the drift…

I agree sometimes it’s a 60/ 40 split but marriage/kids/work/home/family all get in the way and however we like to blame the OP… it rarely is 😁

How many couples do you know that have a fantastic marriage/partnership and have an amazing sex life ?

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1630527 - 20 Oct, 2023 - 05:38PM

It’s the reason I’m on here to be honest !! After years of marriage the spark has died but am I the only one

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Debindra1970 - 16 Oct, 2023 - 09:55AM

My husband hasn’t touched me in over ten years and I miss being kissed and made to feel wanted so much hence why I am here.

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hootlad001 - 15 Oct, 2023 - 03:32PM

closs ness missing in a relationship is hard to live with but we stay with our partners its nice to have freedom to meet some one

1628746 - 13 Oct, 2023 - 11:18AM

Yes, I love giving oral but unfortunately my wife has stopped me from doing it to her. I believe it's one of the most important things during foreplay. At least the woman has an orgasm if the man can't satisfy her through intercourse.
I do miss it..

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1625309 - 12 Oct, 2023 - 08:32PM

I am an elderly widower whose marriage didn’t include any intimacy for many years. Now being old and widowed I still miss and crave it which is why I’m on here. So far lots of chat but no meetings which is frustrating. Maybe it’s my age. Do many others, men or women, find the chats go on and on but intimacy remains elusive?

Richb1954 - 12 Oct, 2023 - 07:58PM

I look after my wife , we haven't had sex forv2years , so yes I miss the moments of touch and kissing , finding the erogenous zones

peachy78 - 12 Oct, 2023 - 06:57PM

some may disagree with me…but not all…though i’m here because of no spark in bed…i’m not here for mere one night stands. intimacy is important for it to be fulfilling…i’m not looking for random ones and lots of men…once i’ve found the one that you get along with and comfortable with then regular meets follow

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peachy78 - 12 Oct, 2023 - 06:54PM

yes….and it is not nice when you’re only 45 y/o.

Jazzy69640 - 11 Oct, 2023 - 04:04PM

Yes I am, terribly.

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Efofaya10 - 11 Oct, 2023 - 03:27PM

Yes I am missing intimacy

Donsman7 - 10 Oct, 2023 - 11:46PM

The advantage of IE over reality is we can allow our imagination to return to intimacy of an exciting time while disoverying a new lover. Reality is being taken for granted is pretty much regular married life.

kscv2-303 - 10 Oct, 2023 - 09:27AM

If it's the emotional rather than sexual intimacy you're lacking, then that's really unfortunate to me and at the same time, not uncommon. It takes a lot to maintain that and grow together as people to maintain that intimacy and it will change forms, for me.

boav91 - 09 Oct, 2023 - 11:01AM

So I found this definition

Intimacy in a relationship is a feeling of being close, and emotionally connected and supported. It means being able to share a whole range of thoughts, feelings and experiences that we have as human beings

That covers a lot and it is hard to find in one person. I guess that is why I am here as I have some of it in my Marriage but not all. I think we all on here seek something of that. If we find it then brilliant

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Legs&Eyes - 09 Oct, 2023 - 10:20AM

Lots of guys here are Lusty!

Every weekend, late at night, from their sofas.... yep... definitely no intention of ever meeting! Haha.....

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Beckysharp - 09 Oct, 2023 - 09:32AM

Some people are Lusty!!!

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Lusty40 - 09 Oct, 2023 - 09:02AM

Let’s face it…. We are not here for pen pals right.

1627791 - 08 Oct, 2023 - 10:38PM

Yeah, for me it’s the build up, being really close to someone, touch and feel, and then knowing you can experience that and it will be reciprocated.

peachy78 - 08 Oct, 2023 - 10:28PM

i miss the spark in bed

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Playtimehasarrived - 08 Oct, 2023 - 11:05AM

It depends how you define intimacy. I’m not looking for intimacy on an emotional level with anyone I meet, or have met, on here. To me, a sexual affair is a physical release of shared fantasy. Obviously, it helps if you get on, but emotional intimacy comes from home.

I don’t need an IE friend to tell me they love me, just that they want to……. well, I’m sure you can all imagine 😉

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Richb1954 - 08 Oct, 2023 - 10:13AM

ditto , im looking after my wife , so haven't had any close contact for a few years now , so here I am

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Galene - 08 Oct, 2023 - 09:30AM

I've forgotten what that feels like. When sex becomes a chore it's time to look elsewhere.

Andrea Andrew - 06 Oct, 2023 - 09:06PM

I agree Willkr,…seems like in more and more marriages the passion just dies…

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StuartB77 - 06 Oct, 2023 - 08:51PM

Hedone…. More than possible, my wife is my best mate and we’ve gone through a lot together… therein lies the problem, call it complacency or comfort, we’ve become mates and companions, doesn’t mean I’m unhappy but doesn’t mean I’m happy with my lot either!

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StuartB77 - 06 Oct, 2023 - 08:27PM

That’s why we are all here isn’t it? Well that’s why I’m here anyway!

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Beckysharp - 06 Oct, 2023 - 08:27PM

I assume most affairs are between a married man and a married woman WillKr 🤷‍♀️

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Hedone - 06 Oct, 2023 - 07:35PM

Whispering willow
I have to disagree, if you truly love your spouse to bits etc you wouldn’t be shitting on them. I’m sorry I don’t buy it, if you truly have those things with your spouse apart from the sex why would you risk having an affair, them possibly finding out and you making their whole world fall apart.

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WillKr - 06 Oct, 2023 - 06:31PM

What proportion of middle aged married women think about having an affair?

My guess is quite high given the blokes I know don’t have much or any sex.

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whisperingwillow - 06 Oct, 2023 - 02:44PM

We can love our spouses to bits and care significantly for them, but, that does not mean the intimacy or sexual excitement stays the way it was years ago. As women, we wish to feel desired, feel wanted and amidst all giving we do for our family, we wish to feel wanted too. That’s practically not possible when a marriage becomes too comfortable.

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Bumbercatch77 - 04 Oct, 2023 - 10:58AM

For me intimacy is intrinsically linked to honesty: I can’t have one without the other. I don’t know if it’s a typical viewpoint or if I’m weird but I can’t be intimate with someone with whom I’m having a superficial relationship.

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Paula99 - 03 Oct, 2023 - 07:30PM

Human nature is a strange thing at times ..when we have sex/intimacy on tap we don’t want it ….but when it’s gone we crave it ..


There are lots of reasons why women ‘ go off ‘ sex .. there are medical reasons but most of the time it’s due to working full time ..kid’s activities/house work ..gym…elderly parents,…..sex gets put on the back burner .
Marriage and lives become a business partnership and we become complacent with each other…
As Becky says we haven’t gone off sex it’s just lower down on the priority list ..

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Beckysharp - 03 Oct, 2023 - 06:44PM

Plus there will be people who go off their spouses physically overtime especially if appearances change significantly. Again it doesn’t mean they’ve gone off sex. Just that they no longer fancy their partner.

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Beckysharp - 03 Oct, 2023 - 06:41PM

Classylady77 I think if a marriage becomes platonic, especially after kids etc it can almost feel like having sex with a sibling rather than a lover. I wish it didn’t… but that doesn’t mean I’ve gone off sex.

I suspect that’s true in varying degrees in most marriages. Look at how horny divorced people suddenly get again!

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1559929 - 03 Oct, 2023 - 06:33PM

Mental and emotional intimacy us so important to get that physical aspect be that bit more exciting. I dont find most members here understand that.

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ClassyLady77 - 03 Oct, 2023 - 06:16PM

That’s sad. 😔 I presume you’re a man. Why do women call me old fashioned but I like satisfying my hubby even though he doesn’t satisfy me..

Why don’t women want sex?

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Florence1945 - 03 Oct, 2023 - 04:28PM

Good for you 😀

I like to hear positive stuff.

Beckysharp - 03 Oct, 2023 - 04:39PM

That’s wonderful Florence! Long May it last!

1598629 - 03 Oct, 2023 - 04:28PM

So sad to hear so many of us lack intimacy at all levels in our lives with those we have at home . When I first came to this site, some time ago I thought it was just me in the entire world that was lacking the basics how wrong I was. I have found a lovely gentleman I have been seeing a while and we have great intimacy from a simple hug to holding hands, to more intimate moments. As a lady in her late fifties I feel sexier than ever, have a high sex drive and want to feel that special connection who wouldn't!

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Ricky67999 - 03 Oct, 2023 - 12:52PM

Mister.E.Mann - I’m just trying to say stay positive. I suspect everyone here has to kiss a loads of frogs to find their prince/princess. Although you’ve got to meet them first ! It’ll work out for you I’m sure (as I hope it does for me..).

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Boudicca - 03 Oct, 2023 - 12:19PM

Intimacy is subjective. It may be sexual, emotional, tactility, intellectual, one might be missing one or all of those things, one might be able to fill the intellectual void here, possibly the emotional one but not the other two.

Ideally we’d have all of those needs met by our partners or the person we choose to have an affair with.
What I’ve noticed is that many shy away from emotional connection, which is a shame as all other elements are elevated when there is emotional connection.

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Mister.E.Mann - 03 Oct, 2023 - 11:42AM

Ricky - but it's never that simple, especially if she's the bread winner and there are children involved.

Beckysharp - thank you for your support. This is not the place for me to go into personal details, so I won't. 😉

Beckysharp - 03 Oct, 2023 - 10:37AM

Mister E Mann I’m sure she loves you but in more of a platonic way? That happens in long marriages doesn’t it? I hope you find what you’re looking for ☺️

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Ricky67999 - 03 Oct, 2023 - 10:18AM

Mister.E.Mann - 100% agree. Sorry to hear your predicament but as the old saying goes one person’s loss is another person’s gain !! Got to think positive !!

Mister.E.Mann - 03 Oct, 2023 - 09:59AM

Chatting with people on IE isn't even close to intimacy but it seems to be best I can get atm. I'm so lonely in my marriage - she doesn't seem to want to have anything to do with me these days. We haven't been intimate for over two years and it was pretty infrequent before that. I can't even get a decent hug anymore, let alone a snog. Chatting with people here is really helping to make me feel whole again. Now I just need to feel wanted or appreciated...

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Paula99 - 03 Oct, 2023 - 09:05AM


You will soon discover there are lots of younger guys looking for a more experienced lady..
Just be clear in your profile what you want and don’t ‘close’ your options …eg if your age parameters are 31to 45 then you may find your ideal guy is 46 …most on here are missing the intimacy but beware there are some with unscrupulous intentions…
Just be respectful and meet the guys for coffee and cake of course🥰…if your gut feeling tells you something doesn’t ring true then go with it ..

Good luck with your search ..x

Welshdiamond - 13 Sep, 2021 - 02:28PM

Yes very much so I have been divorced 4 yrs and a year before I have had no sex or kiss and cuddling and find myself joining this site to find a serious FWB I’m 66but look younger I’m told and am not attracted to men off my age . What can I do . How do I write it and ask for what I want

Trwela - 04 Dec, 2020 - 01:45PM

yes, the intimacy and socialising.

I tried to go out before the last lockdown and had to register for each bar prior to gong out and then not being able to mix once I arrived. On the positive. Holidays, bars, socialisation and of course intimacy will be back in Spring.


Croaticus69 - 03 Dec, 2020 - 12:44PM

I miss drinking winr and kicking with legs under the tablr while we trying to guess how exited is to have our time and privacy after nice dinner🙂

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1100888 - 03 Dec, 2020 - 11:33AM

Have been stuck inside with a shielder since march. It's not just the naughty intimacy I miss, but that sitting down with a close friend or colleague, having a chat over a glass of wine and putting the world to rights.
A hug from someone you haven't seen for ages.

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hazle-eyes - 03 Dec, 2020 - 10:59AM

Yes I have been with my wife since I was 15 and we have. It been intimate for 13 years.

Donsman58 - 29 Jun, 2020 - 11:48PM

Too true. regular friendly chat with family and friends is fine, but i miss the intimate chat and sense of expectation.

1332870 - 28 Jun, 2020 - 11:07PM

Orchid 68 that's really sad. Is there anyone you can talk to about how you're feeling

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Orchid68 - 28 Jun, 2020 - 08:08PM

I'm surrounded by family, friends and work but feel so alone and lost. ...... 😕

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Olbar9 - 27 Jun, 2020 - 06:15PM

Yes I miss it but it doesn’t always have to be physical. Mental is just as good

Jillybean12345 - 26 Jun, 2020 - 06:17PM

Sadly no intimacy here. Miss it so much

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Johnwestall - 26 Jun, 2020 - 09:09AM

God if ur a sexy lady at 60 why should it stop, fill ur bootd, i know i would😉

Johnwestall - 26 Jun, 2020 - 09:08AM

Yes but unfortunately we cant meet anyone and dont know when we will

1391314 - 25 Jun, 2020 - 10:17PM

Would love to meet a lady who likes to be thrown around the bedroom a tad.

1391314 - 25 Jun, 2020 - 10:14PM

I turn 60 next month, I want to get loads more sex intimacy in. why should we stop just because our birth certificate says a certain age. I

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1327360 - 24 Jun, 2020 - 01:36PM

BOB has been doing a good job, I miss those rough kisses and being thrown to the wall and the rest of the things BOB can't do.

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ExoticOrchid - 20 Jun, 2020 - 11:30PM

ktr183 - 20 Jun, 2020 - 10:21PM
"What can a soon-to-be 60 year old expect from life??"

Take it from a 63 year old … you can expect everything you wish AND get it!!!

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ExoticOrchid - 20 Jun, 2020 - 11:19PM

Qetesh - 20 Jun, 2020 - 10:53PM
"you didn’t include me in your gang bang"

I think he wanted you all to himself, that's why! ;-)

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1386735 - 20 Jun, 2020 - 10:53PM

Natural Instinct
I offended, you didn’t include me in your gang bang

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1393465 - 20 Jun, 2020 - 10:31PM

It is very true that you can be in a relationship and still feel so lonely, as I am. Being a tactile guy I too miss holding hands, kisses n cuddles and more also all of the playful innuendos so yes I am so missing some intimacy with a lady.

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1393249 - 20 Jun, 2020 - 10:21PM

I miss intimacy, not only the sex but the holding hands, the kissing, the playful bum pinch, the naughty text or picture but at my age should I accept intimacy is in decline? What can a soon-to-be 60 year old expect from life??

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1376887 - 20 Jun, 2020 - 08:52PM

It’s amazing how you can feel lonely even when surrounded by a household. I can’t wait to feel skin on skin again.

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1367807 - 20 Jun, 2020 - 08:25PM

ExoticOrchid, OrientalAngel80, Qetesh,

We've got a new victim, I mean... volunteer. 🤣

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Natural Instinct - 20 Jun, 2020 - 08:14PM

ExoticOrchid - 20 Jun, 2020 - 06:06PM
OrientalAngel80 - 20 Jun, 2020 - 03:20PM
VeronicaSalome - 20 Jun, 2020 - 03:26PM
"OrientalAngel80- sod it lets make it a five-sum! Any other takers? 🤣"

Bring it on! 😉

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1383332 - 20 Jun, 2020 - 07:34PM

To loose that priceless intimacy is devastating, to discover it again is divine, The journey,, that’s something else!,

1360499 - 20 Jun, 2020 - 07:17PM

Reading the comments on these chars Is reassurance that something so wrong is so right

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1024802 - 20 Jun, 2020 - 06:28PM

If that were the case I'd be in trouble, however there may well be others for whom IE is a lifeline right now. Ultimately though, this should not be a chat site. The chat is a precursor not an end

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ExoticOrchid - 20 Jun, 2020 - 06:06PM

OrientalAngel80 - 20 Jun, 2020 - 03:20PM
VeronicaSalome - 20 Jun, 2020 - 03:26PM

He might already be having a heart attack now just from reading our comments! ;-)

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Sushinelue - 20 Jun, 2020 - 05:30PM

deffinatly yes,

Chezley - 20 Jun, 2020 - 04:10PM

I suppose a certain amount is expected, anymore and things start to feel icky and it leaves a stain on your trouser leg.

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Pete likes wine - 20 Jun, 2020 - 04:05PM

Sure - so true! Missing intimacy. I miss cuddles and hugs so much part of foreplay. The feel of a warm hand thats all the closeness the warmth and the tingle!

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1367807 - 20 Jun, 2020 - 03:26PM

OrientalAngel80- sod it lets make it a five-sum! Any other takers? 🤣

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1387952 - 20 Jun, 2020 - 03:20PM

ExoticOrchid - 20 Jun, 2020 - 12:23PM
"Qetesh - A threesum … shall we??? ;-)"

Let's make it four-some 🙋‍♀️
we'll give him a heart attack! 😁

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1367102 - 20 Jun, 2020 - 02:27PM

Not just intimacy but a human interaction

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1382700 - 20 Jun, 2020 - 02:22PM

I’d cope with three

Dancing In The Rain - 20 Jun, 2020 - 01:19PM

Absolutely. I thought lack of physical intimacy brought me to IE, but realise it was both emotional and physical intimacy I was missing.

Here's to a end to WFH, and lockdown..and a smorgasbord of intimacy 😉

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Electricity - 20 Jun, 2020 - 01:04PM

Intimacy is the whole reason for being here for me.

On all levels.

Thid is not just about the sex.

Let's face it... If you really just want sex, there's ways to get that.

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ExoticOrchid - 20 Jun, 2020 - 12:37PM

Qetesh - 20 Jun, 2020 - 12:30PM

That's true … gutted!!! :-(

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1386735 - 20 Jun, 2020 - 12:30PM


I’m not sure Romance4u could cope with us?!!!

ExoticOrchid - 20 Jun, 2020 - 12:23PM

Qetesh - 20 Jun, 2020 - 12:16PM

A threesum … shall we??? ;-)

1386735 - 20 Jun, 2020 - 12:16PM


Is just the type of guy I’ve been looking for all my life 😏

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ExoticOrchid - 20 Jun, 2020 - 12:04PM

romance4u - 20 Jun, 2020 - 10:51AM
"meeting at mine today"

Home alone?
Party like it's 2019?
How many ladies can you handle?

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1328828 - 20 Jun, 2020 - 11:39AM

romance4u - 20 Jun, 2020 - 10:51AM

Nothing like building up a bit of a rapport beforehand eh? Such a smooth talker, how could anyone resist!

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Sxyinlondon - 20 Jun, 2020 - 11:09AM

Really looking for a nice lady here now for fun and intimacy , I am single and can feel very alone at times

romance4u - 20 Jun, 2020 - 10:51AM

any one from Wilmslow fance meeting at mine today

1100888 - 20 Jun, 2020 - 10:36AM

It's become more of a duty than fun. Pick a moment when the teenager has finally gone to sleep, because that is when you can and not when you want.

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1222947 - 18 Jun, 2020 - 11:19PM

Strangely enough I feel our overall relationship at home has been strengthened, perhaps because it's all hands to the pump, similar to a newborn baby phase?

But yes at the end of the day I am craving butterflies, and more...

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1393582 - 18 Jun, 2020 - 11:00PM

yes. lots of time together but lacking any intimacy

Alfa.com - 18 Jun, 2020 - 07:29PM

100% that’s why I’m on here ! Lockdown = loneliness

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Sparksearcher - 18 Jun, 2020 - 12:34AM

Intimacy - once abundant - now replaced by chores, worries, utility things and being needed. Not that I complain about those things as they are wrapped up in a good home, but want to be wanted. I want to want someone too. Want a partner ‘that way’, want to listen to them and hang on their words, bite the edge of my lip and be driven crazy by it.

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1323536 - 17 Jun, 2020 - 11:51PM

Yes, very much, hence why looking for someone special..

evalitor - 17 Jun, 2020 - 12:52PM

No intimacy left here, comes in, chats to everybody on her phone and via text then says goodnight. Just feels like sharing a house at times. Miss caressing, touching, kissing and sex. I suppose after 25 years it was to be expected.

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Delphina - 17 Jun, 2020 - 12:40PM

Yeah, missing the emotional connection than even sex, thats for me its a bonus, I miss the affectionate, the kissing, the cuddling, tge fact that there us someone out there thinking of me, 😪😪😪

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Raven101 - 15 Jun, 2020 - 10:35PM

I miss the feel of skin on skin , the touch of lips to mine , to be held , caressed ,to be wanted - that's what I miss

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NWFemale48 - 15 Jun, 2020 - 09:28PM

Missing intimacy and connection been a loooong time now . Just would like to find someone that can show affection

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1392896 - 15 Jun, 2020 - 08:56PM

Like the deserts miss the rain.

TeCe - 14 Jun, 2020 - 10:31PM

Intimacy and I met many years ago but I haven't seen her in a long time :-)

1383385 - 14 Jun, 2020 - 10:22PM

Missing intimacy for long time lol

1392419 - 14 Jun, 2020 - 10:08PM

I joined to feel some intimacy my partner is so distant lately hence why I joined I have had more conversation here than in a week with my partner

Yorkshiresback Ladies - 14 Jun, 2020 - 10:05PM


I think we all miss intimacy. No think that is why we are all in here.

It's intimacy not just sex.

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fingers crossed - 14 Jun, 2020 - 08:22PM

Yes 100%. That’s why I joined up. I didn’t join up just for the missing sex( although its great to have that too) but intimacy is so under rated . Just means it’s trickier trying to find someone on here after a similar experience that’s all . Just have to be patient

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PussyGalore99 - 14 Jun, 2020 - 05:11PM

So in need of some intimacy

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1392377 - 14 Jun, 2020 - 12:55PM

Lockdown has made me realise I am missing many things. There has been no intimacy in my marriage for a very long time now.

I am generally quite a social person and while I enjoy my alone time I need social interaction in order to survive and having lost that for three + months now it has made me realise a few things that perhaps I had buried in the depths of my mind.

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Lightmyfire936 - 14 Jun, 2020 - 09:33AM

Theres nothing happening at home on the intimacy front

One of my wife's best friends came round the other day. She's been divorced a year or so - and living on her own. Turns out she has been breaking lockdown for naughty nights.

I'm soooooo jealous

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elisiea - 14 Jun, 2020 - 09:16AM

Would be nice to speak but when their profile is vague and all they can say is “Hi”, I despair!

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1392377 - 13 Jun, 2020 - 09:56PM

Missing it big-time but then that's why I'm here 6 years of no intimacy and lockdown has driven me.to despair. Hence the leap of faith.

Paulsa - 13 Jun, 2020 - 09:37PM

Initimacy, connection and physicality.....yup miss all them...

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471734 - 12 Jun, 2020 - 10:08PM

Yes missing it a lot how are you coping?

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1392029 - 12 Jun, 2020 - 08:53PM

Massively - although, starting to get a little freedom back slowly but surely

HighwaymanJack1970 - 12 Jun, 2020 - 04:54PM

Missing the kind of thrill that comes with illicit fun with a like minded adult. Does anybody else feel like that ?

Pity the poor soul who experiences the first post-lockdown meet haha x

Jmeehan20 - 11 Jun, 2020 - 07:36PM

Yeh, difficult to manage 8 zoom calls a day, keeping kids happy, working mom, running out of Netflix and no spark in the bedroom

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1380850 - 11 Jun, 2020 - 06:56PM

Definitely missing everything right now with this lockdown ... being a single mum and having no adult conversation too... I may not have hubby around the house I’ve not time for a relationship or want to go down that route again but miss the butterfly feeling and feeling of been wanted and desired and needed as well as a deep conversation too ....

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1391622 - 11 Jun, 2020 - 04:46PM


Yeah massively missing intimacy. It’s the simple things as well as the naughty. Just the ache to be desired again

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1391092 - 11 Jun, 2020 - 04:01PM

Intimacy what's that ?
My partner is like a block of ice I can't remember last time I had hot sweaty passionate sex

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1390988 - 11 Jun, 2020 - 01:20PM

Aren't we all

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Dribbler88 - 11 Jun, 2020 - 01:15PM

It must be really tough not receiving affection and compliments.. I love make my partner feel attractive and wanted.. my problem is getting bored with the same approach and routine during love making.. I prefer spontaneous with lust and affection. I love to please my lady and give plenty of 4play... even 4play without sex is great.

Yorkman2020 - 11 Jun, 2020 - 10:48AM

Missing that feeling of desire so much

tara405 - 11 Jun, 2020 - 10:44AM

Are there any real guys out there who really want to meet and have a kinda relationship long term ?
To many time wasters here me thinks.

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1353301 - 11 Jun, 2020 - 10:15AM

Teresa di Vicenzo - 10 Jun, 2020 - 07:00PM
I can relate to how you feel about your hubby
My husband has never been affectionate or romantic, you just learn to live without it until I had an affair then you realise what you have been missing out on , so now I cant even have sex with him because I wont enjoy it ,
So I'm now a sexy milf looking for a bit excitement again haha

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1350989 - 10 Jun, 2020 - 10:46PM

It’s not just the intermacy I’m missing , simple things like a kiss and a cuddle, just looking into someone’s eyes whom you have got to know over several messages or a phone call from someone who gets your heart racing😊

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Appydays - 10 Jun, 2020 - 10:45PM

I'm in Cornwall,awaiting to visit the country side for a long adventure xx

Appydays - 10 Jun, 2020 - 10:44PM

Oh yes

1038209 - 10 Jun, 2020 - 08:37PM

confused the friendly ghost if it was a ten year relationship that means it start at the 12 years ild🙄.

AA1RON - 10 Jun, 2020 - 07:19PM

Hi all

What I would say is that I feel that I'm badly deprived from the physical side of intimacy and frustrated because I'm missing it.

There 4 types of intimacy: emotional, mental. spiritual and physical. They can overlap and vary in sexual relationships. family relationships, groups inc virtual and anything else that falls in the relationship category.

Finally it's people and how they interpret and apply intimacy and what they actually feel.

So for me IE is an intimate forum and at times it does feel great to get intimate but does leave a sense of frustration.

It's like showing non stop zoom or you tube videos on how chocolate is made to a chocoholic or adverts of pubs to someone who hasn't been to one in 12 weeks. Which naturally makes you want whatever it is more and does alter the sub conscious.. Therefore feeling that sense of missing intimacy and wanting and thinking about it more and more.

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Jaffajaffajaffa - 10 Jun, 2020 - 07:01PM

I love a naughty chat, but now it’s time to meet. Craving the touch of someone new, chatting in person and developing an ‘in person’ relationship

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Teresa di Vicenzo - 10 Jun, 2020 - 07:00PM

Intimacy isn’t just sex.
I live with a husband who doesn’t touch me. Not ever. He doesn’t even make me a cup of coffee! Lockdown is becoming hard because he’s saying he’ll be working from home until the autumn. I may be a widow by then (I’m joking ..).
I love him because we’ve been together soooo long, and because he’s the father of my 3 children, but I don’t fancy him, don’t desire him, have no wish to have sex with him or even kiss him! And I think it’s mutual.
So I’m missing the intimacy of being with someone who desires me physically and wants to have a proper conversation about everything, even what’s on telly (he normally sleeps through it all). It’s nice to get a text from someone who’s thought about me. All of that is intimacy, and I miss it all.

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gemini2310 - 10 Jun, 2020 - 06:07PM

It's the closeness to someone I like getting to know the person the best we can behind a keyboard I never do naughty chats that's not me but each to there own we are all different and want and need different things from IE

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1311268 - 10 Jun, 2020 - 05:40PM

Absolutely I’m missing intimacy with a man. I miss the physical and emotional connection. However, lockdown has also been an opportunity to really build up a rapport and talk about likes, dislikes, hopes and dreams as well as the intimate stuff.

As soon as it’s safe, i don’t think I’ll be able to restrain myself 😜

Minxx 911 - 10 Jun, 2020 - 04:48PM

Yes ... but it’s nothing new!
Seems worse on lockdown BC that’s all you want is a break from the crazy world outside.

If it wasn’t for some of the sexy naughty chats via IE. Who knows how’d I’d of coped

laugar99 - 10 Jun, 2020 - 04:25PM

afternoon everyone i to miss intimancy its being quite a long time now so looking for a partner in crime in west midlands

Busstop157 - 10 Jun, 2020 - 03:50PM

is there anyone here from the east midlands

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1352608 - 10 Jun, 2020 - 03:23PM

No worries it is your opinion and that's what is important
Thankyou for your reply no apologies no problem with NSA relationships lots of people like them

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TheFriendlyGhost - 10 Jun, 2020 - 03:07PM

Well lockdown finally pushed my 10 year relationship over the edge! Most likely a good thing as it had become mates over anything! So find myself here trying to find some intimacy.

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1389224 - 10 Jun, 2020 - 02:42PM

Isnt that why everyone comes on IE as the intimacy has been lost from their current relationship ,or do some of you just fancy a different flavour now and then.

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1390565 - 10 Jun, 2020 - 02:24PM

Just joined this site today. Probably not the best time. Just back from work after 10 weeks at home with hubby & 2 kids. Thought lockdown would have brought me & my man closer when it came to intimacy but I just feel as though I’m craving it more as not even a compliment on how I look.
Looking forward to meeting some people on herr

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1382603 - 10 Jun, 2020 - 01:58PM

Yes. But also conversation and 'learning someone new' if that makes sense?

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RumplesBear - 10 Jun, 2020 - 01:51PM

What's intimacy again?

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1389672 - 10 Jun, 2020 - 01:11PM


I didn't say sex, I said intimacy. Intimacy doesn't mean sex, it means many things to many different people. To me, you don't necessarily need sex to be intimate, you just need to look out for and care for one another.

So when people say I have no intimacy in my relationship, I assume they mean, love, attention, kindness... that kind of thing. But you are right too, I agree with what you are saying.

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1369031 - 10 Jun, 2020 - 01:01PM

100% missing the intimacy, the way it makes you feel when someone compliments how you look, holds your hand or kisses you so your foot pops ahhh memories ...

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1385833 - 10 Jun, 2020 - 12:55PM

definitely missing the intimacy and the lovely feelings as we brush past each other, hold hands or just that look in the eye that says so much!!
got fed up of asking for it at home despite lots of effort in other ways hence why i am here and can't wait for lockdown to disappear so there might be the right lady for me to meet on here!!

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Classycougar - 10 Jun, 2020 - 11:41AM

IE gone off the boil!
I think pressures of home working, home schooling and being confined to home with partner and kids all take their toll!
In the beginning it was a novelty sending naughty messages/pics..... but now it’s gone on too Long
Add to that worries about his job.....and i think you have an answer.
Just send him little, encouraging messages now and then and look forward to when you can get-together again!

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1386174 - 10 Jun, 2020 - 11:40AM

Great to see that chauvinism lives on...

I guess I would be categorised as a stroppy, high maintenance bird...

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1352608 - 10 Jun, 2020 - 11:02AM

Well young lady you have a great profile and you are too young to be on your own
I'm sure you will be scooped up on here very soon
Just have to read between the lines timewasters etc xx

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1387272 - 10 Jun, 2020 - 10:55AM

Don’t think I’ve ever had intimacy in my nearly 20 year marriage ....it’s sad when you think about what’s missing and meeting lovely people on here makes you realise how long you’ve coped without

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1352608 - 10 Jun, 2020 - 10:54AM

Thanks for your honesty but there are lots of reasons why people are on here.
They dont just want a quick fuck but they want a special relationship with a partner inclusive to them which doesn't affect their marriage and home life
You state that it is a criminal offense for a partner to be denied sex but there are physical reasons why a partner cannot provide this.
Plus there are financial and emotional reasons why we all stay married especially if young children are involved
Noone wants to get hurt either

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1320953 - 10 Jun, 2020 - 10:46AM

Having no had no intimacy for years It has been pressed home how bad it is with this lock down ...It’s lonely . That’s why I joined IE in the first place.
I just hope I can find him eventually....

1389672 - 10 Jun, 2020 - 10:40AM

maturenortherner Are you kidding!

Apparently some guys send dick picks and wank videos! (Short ones at that)...

I had a bird tell me she was very dominant in bed and wanted a man who could make her into a submissive...

Naaa this place is a mix... people who want something intimate, people who want to find a partner in crime and people who just want to be really disgusting... Got to love em all really...

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maturenortherner - 10 Jun, 2020 - 09:48AM

What kind of question is that? Isn't that why the majority of us are on here in the first place? Sooner this is all over the better. Feel like a monk. Prefer to be feeling a sexy lady👍😊😉

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1389672 - 10 Jun, 2020 - 09:13AM

IMO living in a relationship where there is no intimacy might be ok for some, but it’s obviously not ok for most of the wonderful and passionate people who are here.

If your partner has turned off the intimacy tap that leads you to look for it elsewhere, then I would definitely get to work on either insisting you get some or you end the relationship. It’s a tough thing to do, but it withholding intimacy should be made a criminal offence.

My problem is, I was able to bring my wife out of the cold, but I’m a randy fucker and if I don’t find an equal sexual partner then I’ll die with regrets... it’s not my partners fault, that’s also something I have to accept the consequences of.

To whoever wrote the question, I feel for you... your partner is a criminal for not giving you love.

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1388461 - 10 Jun, 2020 - 09:05AM

I miss intimacy lots especially now being stuck in the house with a partner that has not been intimate in any way for over 15 years, no kissing, cuddling, touching/feeling nothing at all just wish I could get out and find my IE for an affectionate affair.

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1388461 - 04 Jun, 2020 - 09:22PM

I miss intimacy lots especially now stuck in the house with a partner that has refused to be intimate in any way for over 10 years.
Wish I could get out and meet some one but in the meantime I'm hoping to chat and find my IE on here ready for when we are released.

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Proeye - 03 Jun, 2020 - 11:07AM

I’ve missed intimacy for a good while now and being locked down as an emotional crutch with a partner has heightened this.
I remember kissing, holding hands, hugs etc.
There are no work/past time distractions from this at the moment and it’s difficult

jbowler - 01 Jun, 2020 - 04:12PM

Absolutely, never get it at home anymore - not being able to meet anyone outside has been frustrating.

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Yorkshirerugby - 01 Jun, 2020 - 03:46PM

@yorkshirelass1 & @browneyedgirl01.

Be happy to lend a hand or two or anything else you want!

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Overcharge - 01 Jun, 2020 - 02:41PM

Certainly missing a cuddle.
Its been so long now!

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1340477 - 01 Jun, 2020 - 02:37PM

Are people finding it difficult to that alone time?
Or potentially time to log in and see if you’re lucky enough to have received chats

I find it frustrating waiting on ladies to get back to me
Maybe they too have restrictions at home

Yorkshirelass1 - 01 Jun, 2020 - 02:04PM


I know exactly what you mean. My hand is getting some stick. Think I could have RSI! 😁

Perhaps we need to contact our hotmales and see if they can give us a hand! 😜😘

I'm sure they'd be happy to help us out. They're simple creatures so should still be able to mail them. 😀

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Orunner - 01 Jun, 2020 - 01:16PM

I agree with some others with no intimacy at home not being able to meet others is extremely frustrating.

splendored - 31 May, 2020 - 05:50PM

Some people want to do it in the morning, some in the afternoon and others prefer to wait until after dark. I just want to do it any time anywhere.

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Engineer - 31 May, 2020 - 10:59AM

O God yes feel like I could explode lol🤣🤣🤣😂

Aaz6812 - 31 May, 2020 - 10:07AM

Definitely for sure! I’m actually brand new on this and it’s led me on here to explore so feel free to message and get in touch! If anything this lockdown has taught us don’t live reserved live to the max!!

1325937 - 30 May, 2020 - 02:48PM

Just rejoined after leaving when lockdown began. Chaffing at the bit for communication, contact physical intimacy

davidluvsonlyu - 30 May, 2020 - 02:13PM

Intimacy is to be shared and enjoyed by the 2 people taking part . I lost my wife 5 years ago and it was devastating and the enjoyment of that valued closeness was gone .
Many on here talk about the lack of that special feeling when you know your partner needs and wants you but yes we have to come to a place like this to find it and from someone who is missing that feeling of expectation from their partner. I'm here hoping that I will find that person and enjoy what we can share together .

Rishi04 - 30 May, 2020 - 11:53AM

I am dying ! I have zero intimacy at home and this whole lockdown is driving me nuts 😊

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1386447 - 29 May, 2020 - 07:11PM

Yes...balls like space hoppers 🤣🤣

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tea_coffee_me_ - 29 May, 2020 - 04:47AM

"Dr.Phil Good - When we cuddle we release a feel good hormone called Oxytocin. It's our sociable chemical and it feels good. When we don't get it anymore, it's like going cold turkey."
In 'normal' circumstances. Horribly for some people who have suffered trauma, which brings about a chemical imbalance in the brain etc, ironically, it may never happen for them again :-(

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Dr.Phil Good - 28 May, 2020 - 05:47PM

When we cuddle we release a feel good hormone called Oxytocin. It's our sociable chemical and it feels good. When we don't get it anymore, it's like going cold turkey.

I am going cold turkey and am living with a fridge. Will someone come and cuddle me and warm me up a little????

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ExoticOrchid - 28 May, 2020 - 01:45PM

"Is anyone else missing intimacy?"

Is the Pope Catholic???

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1371942 - 28 May, 2020 - 11:57AM

yup - as others have mentioned intimacy comes in many forms and I miss the intimate connection with someone that I adore.

The anticipation of meeting seems to be a thing of the past at the moment. Fading a little but maybe soon we will be able to meet, flirt and find an intimate moment!

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Unique68 - 28 May, 2020 - 07:49AM

Although I’ve text and spoke to my IE everyday I’m missing his touch .... even though we only see each other twice a month because of distance I can’t wait for our tie together again! :-) x

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MatureWorcsBBW - 28 May, 2020 - 01:03AM

I'm missing the emotional and physical contact with someone who shares those special moments in time with me, of course I am.

I'm looking forward to the opportunity to meet with a celebratory bang and I don't just mean fireworks.

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Solace58 - 27 May, 2020 - 10:32PM

Don't we all, thats why we are here, or at least I am

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1387091 - 27 May, 2020 - 08:29PM

yes We are very much social creatures . We need that contact and with our IE we miss the beauty and connection of the intimacy we have experienced .. roll on end of lockdown.. please ...

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Teresa di Vicenzo - 27 May, 2020 - 08:20PM

Like a lot, I’m missing intimacy. I’m missing the closeness of someone knowing bits and bobs about my life (and me his), remembering those bits, and asking about it later. That shows you care, and it means so much..
Physical intimacy can be anything from hot sex to just walking along a beach holding hands and sharing a portion of chips, or warm doughnuts. To be honest, I’d opt for any of that right now. It actually doesn’t even have to be walking along a beach, a street would suffice. .. sigh ..

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gemini2310 - 27 May, 2020 - 06:41PM

Will be worth the wait when we next meet our IE nothing we can do about it at the moment time can make the heart grow fonder and the lust

1385524 - 27 May, 2020 - 06:38PM

We take a lot for granted. Contact with others socially - really miss that!

The intimate closeness which follows when two people connect early in a new relatioship can be electric.

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1386177 - 27 May, 2020 - 06:03PM

Feeling Frisky- exactly my experience 😏

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Mews0001 - 27 May, 2020 - 04:56PM

I'm not sure we are all missing intimacy. It may be that, but surely what we ARE missing first and foremost, is the thrill of seeing a new person, the excitement that builds towards the next meeting, the butterflies in the tummy and the seemingly illicit exchanges of messages and photos that take place in between meets.

Then, comes the intimacy. Perhaps a daytime meet at a nice hotel. Time to spend together whilst the world outside goes about it's daily business. Hours spent chatting, having great sex and the sad parting until the next time.

Remember those times? Now it's time to recreate them.

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1334304 - 27 May, 2020 - 03:23PM

Ravenous! My toys haven’t seen so much action!! 😉😋. I’m hoping my hunger doesn’t cloud my expectations on here!😅
On another note... it’s been nice to get to know a few guys on here, which is longer than the average for a change. It does build that rapport more and hopefully a deeper connection than just the obvious.

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Succulentsilver - 27 May, 2020 - 03:19PM

only like I'd miss oxygen!

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funseeker8745 - 27 May, 2020 - 03:17PM

I am sure the reason the majority of us are on here in the first place is because we miss intimacy. The only difference being with Covid 19 is that we miss it all the more.

Girl with a cat tattoo - 27 May, 2020 - 01:37PM

Thank you for your kind words
Tea coffee me 🙏

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Dancing In The Rain - 27 May, 2020 - 01:27PM

Missing intimacy in all its forms.. emotional, physical and spiritual..

A great snog and IE would be great.

Girl with a cat tattoo.. must he awful for you..

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tea_coffee_me_ - 27 May, 2020 - 01:15PM

"Girl with a cat tattoo - My husband isn't missing intimacy as he refuses any with me and would rather pay for it. Apparently brothels aren't on lockdown 🤢"

Noticed a headline about them working out the best positions to be as 'as safe as possible'.
Not nice for you, but if it stops others being beaten an abused ...
Domestic violence is dramatically on the increase :-(

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1370520 - 27 May, 2020 - 01:08PM

I’m missing it like mad And my IE seems to have gone off the boil and I can’t work out why!
He has a job that means he is under pressure at the moment and WFH more. He used to send me photos and ask dirty questions but now although he is keen to stress he wants to see me after lockdown, his messages are a bit ‘dry’!
Any ideas as to why or what’s happening much appreciated

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tender_rock - 27 May, 2020 - 01:04PM

A primer on intimacy for all horny ones!

1.Emotional intimacy – Affirming, caring, interested in each other’s feelings
2.Mental intimacy – Meaningful conversations, shared values and interests.
3.Spiritual intimacy- Respect for each other’s beliefs, shared purposes, nurture each other’s inner peace
4.Physical intimacy – Hugging, kissing, sexual touch, cuddling, proximity, intercourse

We need all above in different amount, at different stages, and from different people in our lives. Lockdown has given the time to build these, if one wants to so choose what you are missing most and no points for choosing number 4 unless you can teleport.

“Why is sex like a game of bridge? You don’t need a partner if you’ve got a good hand.”

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rotarymower - 27 May, 2020 - 11:59AM

@ sweetie

oh it i9s the lockdown's fault that horny feeling phew glad it is normal

SAYSomething x - 27 May, 2020 - 11:57AM

I'm not really, but I also get it at home. Physical with my husband is actually not the problem, it's emotional intimacy. Although I do also miss being affectionate with someone new, there's electricity and spark with new people you just don't get in a long term relationship

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Girl with a cat tattoo - 27 May, 2020 - 11:55AM

My husband isn't missing intimacy as he refuses any with me and would rather pay for it
Apparently brothels aren't on lockdown 🤢

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Funny Man Can - 27 May, 2020 - 11:55AM

Intimate male right here ;-)

Kismet - 27 May, 2020 - 11:53AM

You know that lust and longing is intimate, speaking to someone and anticipating a meet is just as sexy, and it makes everything that much more exciting when you see each other.
Allow yourself to immerse in intimacy of the mind, and keep things fresh and novel by sending photos/dirty messages. Hang in there!

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Sweetie2020 - 27 May, 2020 - 11:41AM

I bet all members on ie missed intimacy!
Don’t lie 😀😀🤪
And lockdown make people horny 😀😀🤪

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Buffalo King - 27 May, 2020 - 11:27AM

Intimacy? What’s that? Vaguely remember experiencing that a long time ago but I think it has now undergone an evolutionary change and I think it’s the new name for Covid-19 .... no problem with 2 meter distancing here.

1365184 - 27 May, 2020 - 11:11AM

Missing intimacy big time!
It’s just totally gone! Only 42 and in a situation where I need something else! Obv that’s why I’m on here!

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tea_coffee_me_ - 27 May, 2020 - 11:03AM

Just give me a minute... need to go and check the dictionary, I have forgotten what that is...

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Bugwithone - 27 May, 2020 - 10:52AM

I didn’t know she had gone???

stevegates2012 - 27 May, 2020 - 10:07AM

The art of INTIMANCY is between minds of each of the partners, it is without words, or even sex, it is knowing what the other wants or needs without being said, or shown what to do then you have find it with the ONE or maybe more.

Only With You - 27 May, 2020 - 10:04AM

Sweetie2020 cheeky.. you haven't met me yet !

Ava1Seven - 27 May, 2020 - 10:03AM

I'm more hopeful this will all end soon! things have loosened up a bit, personally I think the UK is over the worst of it. We're all in need of intimacy... time will tell

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Sweetie2020 - 27 May, 2020 - 10:03AM

Missing intimacy with someone sexy!
Where is he? 😀😀🤪
Can’t find someone sexy on ie!!😀😀🤪

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maturenortherner - 27 May, 2020 - 09:34AM

Absolutely missing it. Been too long and can't see when the opportunity will be there again in the immediate future😩😩

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