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justtheguynextdoor - 09 Mar, 2025 - 11:10PM

Only the stupid ones 😂 but then to be fair I think most people nowadays have unrealistic expectations of how naked bodies should look. It all seems to have gotten a bit warped by porn and social media etc.

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ExoticOrchid - 09 Mar, 2025 - 07:19PM

SN - 03:55PM

If you say so! 🤷🏻‍♀️

Cheryl Kim - 09 Mar, 2025 - 04:03PM

I think we have a duty to take care of ourselves, to the level of what makes us feel good, and not according to a potential IE’s expectations. If we expect a 50 year old to look like a 30 year old, it’s then probably best that we put that age down as a preference.

Sometimes we get lucky and get matched with someone who has been blessed with naturally youthful looks and a fitness age defying their years. Happy days for a long lasting affair if everything else is matched.

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SirrahNek - 09 Mar, 2025 - 03:55PM

Very true ExoticOrchid - but they still look *their* age, even if they look younger than *their years*!

ExoticOrchid - 09 Mar, 2025 - 03:50PM

SN - 03:33PM

Indeed but there are those who do look much younger than their years *without* any Botox or surgery! 😊

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SirrahNek - 09 Mar, 2025 - 03:33PM

How should a woman look? I think that a person should look their age. It would be hypocritical of me to expect a woman to look like someone decades younger than she actually is.

I carry the scars of a life lived well. I don't have botox or fillers. I wash but I don't moisturise (although I've been advised that I should; I've also been advised by people who know better than me to stretch after exercise, and I fail to do that too!) I have a grey hairs, and I'm beginning to wrinkle - why should I expect anyone my age to be any different?

So is there any reason for a woman to wear makeup, to have cosmetic surgery, to do anything? Well yes - society is horrible and judgemental, and if these routines help to give someone (male or female) confidence and feel good about themselves then that's reason enough. It just isn't for me.

Personally, I like the stretch marks, the wrinkles, the softening, the character and beauty that builds with age. They're another target for kisses.

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1744535 - 09 Mar, 2025 - 09:25AM

Staying healthy and in good shape is a personal journey. Overall, i doubt anyone will dispute that it is better for oneself to try and stay as healthy a possible. That's quite obvious to say but a baseline should be established.

I personally find women of all shapes and sizes attractive in their own way. For me, hygeine and simple little things like nice hair, clothes manicure/pedicures are important, being large isn't the issue, being large, smelly and unkept is.

Based on experience the opposite is more likely and women that have a significantly more discriminant view of men. You just need to read the average profile on this sight... it also doesn't help when the male pool is much larger despite the pay wall.

I oddly have faced the opposite, described bery complimemtery by most some have accused me of being a playboy or someone that has a harem of women solely based on my photos or my silly profile. I see the positive though, i hope the right woman will see past it and be rewarded.

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tmn2024 - 09 Mar, 2025 - 09:18AM

I think first and foremost, a person should keep their body in the way they want and in the way they are most comfortable. After that, you will exude confidence and comfort in your own skin. That confidence and comfort is powerful, and will attract people to you who appreciate how you are. If someone is worth your time and energy, they will come to you.

Personally speaking, I keep myself in the way that suits me. Some effort is required, but I do it because it makes me more confident in myself as I walk about my daily life. I wouldn't say it makes me a babe magnet - far from it - but it does help me feel more relaxed if and when I am chatting to someone. I know I am the best version of myself and there's no more I can do. If that doesn't suit you, then please move on and make space for someone who does appreciate me.

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Black Gent - 30 Dec, 2024 - 02:52PM

I hope not! As a man these unrealistic men are likely to poison the pool of available women. People age! People may try with their looks but their appearance may not be easily changeable.

Everyone should have their preferences but it is best to make a polite and gentle rejection. father than being an A-hole about the other person.

Hot news Women also have their preferences.

1727868 - 30 Nov, 2024 - 11:41PM

I think it’s sll down to what’s in your head , yes there are expectations if a man has that in his head , that but let’s face it woman have expectations on how emotionally connected a man can be it’s down to the individual

Personally I think woman’s body can be just as fit at 45 as at 30 and everyone’s body changes which you accept