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1117169 - 05 Apr, 2022 - 09:14AM

@Doricles

The fact that the lady willingly went to the room and even had a shower together then backed off at the last moment was cruel and inexcusable.

She was a grown lady. If she had second thoughts it should have ended at the drinks stage.

No excuse for this at all.

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Doricles - 05 Apr, 2022 - 07:41AM

@teper_1961

A hugely frustrating experience for you ... I get that. But it takes two to tango and if, for whatever reason, the OP isn’t up for it, then both parties have to accept that their ballroom experience is over ... as the pair of you did on this occasion. But hats off to the lady in question for walking away when her conscience got the better of her. When it comes to infidelity, there’s always a first time for everyone. There is always a line in the sand; a point of no return because once you’ve done the deed and been unfaithful to your husband, wife or partner, there’s no going back, and you have to live with knowledge that you’ve broken your vows and the trust placed in you by someone else. It appears that you parted amicably on the day and it’s good the pair of you spoke afterwards to bring closure to your short lived relationship. There’s an old adage that says”You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink”! And so it is on here. Members don’t always know what

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1117169 - 05 Apr, 2022 - 06:12AM

@teper_1961

That must have been awful for you. Worse than simply getting stood up.

I completely endorse what you say.

Too many on here who don't have the free time, freedom or committment or have simply not thought it through. Timewasters, window shoppers, teasers, online flirters and ego boosters abound.

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1444888 - 04 Apr, 2022 - 11:23PM

Yep had this happen to me some time ago.
She turned up late (50 minutes ! I was just about the leave)
We had a drink and a chat as there was clearly some reservations.
Eventually decided to go up to the room. Kissed cuddled, even had a shower together, things were just starting to heat up when she said' I don't want to be here anymore'.
Absolutely no warning, no discussion, Nothing.
She just got up, got dressed and without a word simply walked out..
We chatted about it for a couple of days afterwards and suggested that she just wasn't the type of woman capable of having an affair. She neither had the time nor commitment to have one. After some thought she phoned me to say I was right and that she only wanted the attention she was getting. She subsequently deleted her profile.
If you don't have the time for an affair or only want some on line attention, please tell the person you're chatting to, from the outset and not waste peoples time. You can understand why members get annoyed!

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1488125 - 02 Apr, 2022 - 10:47PM

Indeed. It was a veey uncomfortable relationship. I am quite a conventional person. My wife was my only sex partner up until then. I was shocked by a lot of what happened.

1497533 - 02 Apr, 2022 - 10:33PM

CIL

Sorry misread that. You're the one who hadnt had an affair

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1497533 - 02 Apr, 2022 - 10:31PM

CIL.
So many red flags here. The cucumber would have been the first.
You met and had sex and again after "insane texts", again after comments about your wife.
I have to ask if you'd ever had an affair if none of this said stay well away

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Doricles - 02 Apr, 2022 - 10:29PM

@ClassyLadySurrey

It sounds like the guy was a real Richard Cranium. Clearly, his loss. How did it work out for your friend: the one he was messaging on Kik? Perhaps he was hoping for another FFM experience ... a real one! 😂😂😂

1488125 - 02 Apr, 2022 - 09:27PM

Talking about having an affair with someone who has never had an affair.

My first affair was with an… interesting woman. I should have known better. Before we even got comfortable she sends me a video of her using a cucumber as a dildo.

It really was a? What? Turn on? It was erotic I will say.

We met and we had sex. I started get some insane texts. We met again and had another encounter. She then proceeded to make comments about my wife. She had also not been able to cope with the guilt after our first sexual encounter.

The sex was amazing though. We had an on off relationship for 6 months before she started demanding I leave my wife. I was not prepared to do so. Then there were threats to tell my wife. That is when I snapped. I had everything backed up on my phone which was iPhone back ups. I threatened to send them to her family. We ended it fortunately before it got the bunny boiler stage!

I learnt a lot about having an affair.

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Paula99 - 02 Apr, 2022 - 09:00PM

I only see guys that have had an affair before...

Classy lady Surrey...

You were honourable to give him a 'second chance,'...his loss ✅

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