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About Me:

This is not my first incarnation on this site, I was here briefly on a previous occasion, and as a result have had an absolutely amazing time with a lovely gentleman. Unfortunately, circumstances change, and so I find myself back again, though I do hope only for a short while.....

I am a confident, independent, reasonably intelligent, educated and slightly sassy 41 year old female, Who having played this game and already won , knows the rules, and more importantly - precisely what I seek. The question is...... do you?


I am happy, fun loving and vivacious , tactile and affectionate. I enjoy a little romance, and a lot of fun!

I’m generally content in my marriage, and am here through want as opposed to need.
I have a charmed life, a fulfilling career, an exciting social life, and pretty much everything that I desire. I do however miss the excitement that an affair brings, the stimulating company, the anticipation, the perpetual smile that I seem to carry and of course, the erotic delights.

Perhaps I am greedy, but life is not just for living, but enjoying!


Physically I am 5 foot 6 (before i slip my heels on),very feminine, with long, dark hair, and without meaning to sound conceited , quite attractive. I am voluptuous, thus will appeal to men who appreciate the fuller figure. I dress well and always ensure that I am impeccably clean, well presented and smell delicious.
I hope that I manage to strike the right balance between ladylike and sexy. I am as at home in a pair of nice jeans as I am in an evening dress, and will always be appropriately attired for the occasion.

I am reliably informed that i have an indefinable sex appeal, but you may need to determine that for yourself....

Though I have not amassed a great number of bedpost notches, I do consider myself to have an open and inquisitive mind when it comes to the carnal pleasures, though I do need to get to know someone before the intimacy develops.
I seek someone with a similar outlook , someone with a penchant for discovery and seduction!

That said, I do desire an actual affair, as opposed to a purely physical FWB arrangement. The physical attraction and sexual chemistry are extremely important, but without the mental connection that develops from the social element and romance, it is all rather cold and meaningless, isn't it.

You will need to woo me out of the bedroom as much as inside it!

Ideal Partner:

I’m seeking someone who is here for the same reason that I am, not someone who is looking to escape an unhappy relationship.

I want someone who is able to laugh and enjoy, someone who has intelligence, an open minded outlook, a twinkle in his eye and a little bit of old fashioned charm, chivalry and good manners.

My preference is for older men.
Gentlemen (at least outside of the bedroom),who are intelligent, successful and exude confidence (as long as it is not misplaced).

Mr ideal will take pride in his appearance, be well groomed, hygienic, attractive (though this is obviously subjective), taller than me, able to hold a stimulating conversation, have impressive stamina and be a skilled and accomplished lover.

He will be genuine, honest ( yes, I get the irony), reliable and realistic as to the constraints of an extra curricular relationship.

Discretion is obviously of the upmost importance, as is a desire for exclusivity, I am very discerning and expect the same in my lover,
You should be looking for just one lady, an exclusive and exceptional arrangement as opposed to a smorgasbord of anything goes. Whilst I have the confidence and self worth not to feel inferior in comparison to other women, I prefer a man who is as discerning as I am in that respect. I have no interest in being just one in a harem.

I have varied interests and a very busy and active social life, . Added to the fact that I have a demanding, job , and let's be honest.... a husband and family, my free time is at a premium.
However, notwithstanding the above, I most certainly do have the time and ability to embark upon an affair.

If you don't equally own your own life, then being realistic, there is little chance of this working out.
You will need to have the flexibility to meet reasonably regularly for quality time together, I am not a delight that should be rushed!

If the logistics are a challenge for you, then please don't waste either of our time. There is a limit to my attention span, and so if you don't have the ability to actually meet , as opposed to just dream about it, then I will lose interest rather quickly.
As the Romans eloquently put it "Acta non verba"


I do like to keep in touch occasionally between our dates, be that with a text, a call or email. Equally, we will both respect each others home lives, privacy and primary relationships.

Ideally I am seeking a long term arrangement, but I am realistic enough to know that these things can have a finite shelf life.

If I was to be prescriptive , somone who has done this before would be my preference . But as long as you have fully considered what you are doing, reconciled yourself with your conscience and determined that you have both the time, means and inclination to do this, then that is ok.

My availability will predominantly be evenings and weekends with only occasional midweek daytimes, and so if you are just looking for a lunch time delight, you will be out of luck.

Other Interests:

Museums / Galleries, Music - Pop / R&B, Music - World, Literature / History, Shopping, Dancing, Theatre / Ballet, Travel / Sightseeing, Movies / Cinema, Food and Wine

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