jules2001

About Me:

When I was 16, I ran away to sea.
I think I was probably about 8, and on a family holiday when, from the beach, I watched as a ferry left the quay and slowly vanished from view, and this idea struck me that there was something inaccessible happening, just out of reach and out of sight, something definitely more exciting than building sand castles. I think from virtually that minute on, I resolved to go and seek out the place over the horizon.

All this time later, and I am still wondering what delights are being denied to me. The trouble with horizons is that when you move, they move.

Since then, almost accidently, I have found myself living in lots of very different cities, I've worked overseas, (mastering 2 languages in the process) and had 3 distinct careers changes. I've been to university twice , fallen in and out of love rather more than twice, and I have had my heart broken I don't even know how often. I met the woman of my dreams, (the woman of several men's dreams, it turned out, including my then best friend, I later discovered....) had children, and again, almost by accident, found myself leading a life comfortable middle class respectability.

God, am I bored?

So, how do I describe myself without sounding too full of myself?

I am not saying this in an attempt to make myself sound interesting or mysterious, but my life does seem to contain several incompatibilities or contradictions. (One such obvious contradiction, I suppose, is that fact that I genuinely love my partner, a lot, but here I am.)

I do not regard myself as particularly overtly masculine, and really can't do that excessive contrived masculinity that you tend to see when men get together. I used to play rugby, but was never really in to all the post match blokeyness. I do have some things on my CV which probably scream testosterone, but I am not really that way. I am more sort of masculine to order. At the same time I am really not in to effete men.

I have ZERO bad habits, in the conventional sense. My partner says that when we first met, she thought I was a bit odd because I didn't drink. Now, (she says,) her friends really envy her. She has this partner who is always responsible, is still making (very) witty conversation when the other men are talking bollocks, never shows her up, never gets in to stupid drunken arguments, and always happily drives her home at the end of the evening, where he can make the drinks in the kitchen without leaving it looking like a war zone. A paragon of virtue - a responsible partner and devoted father. They also know I am in to fitness and play sports, and assume that this is the reason why I am such a goody two-shoes. Very few of them them are aware that I have had, and then conquered, an addiction problem, (2 if you count tobacco.) I'd crashed and burned by the time I was 30 in fact, and then, almost overnight, I just gave it all up. When I look back now, it is like I am looking at the life of a totally different person.

I say they are not aware. I do tell people if they ask why I don't drink, but they generally don't believe me. They seem to think I am saying it to give myself an air of mystery or glamour. (It is neither mysterious nor glamorous.) I do think addictive behaviour is something that some of us are just born with. I am probably addicted to exercise, or at least the endorphins that come with it. I am totally unable to eat just one chocolate. Or 2, or 3, or 4. (It is a good job that I am addicted to exercise, or I might be changing my profile body description to "cuddly," or whatever the equivalent male euphemism is)

There are one or 2 other skeletons rattling around in my cupboard, but nothing which you should worry about. I'll quite happily share them. They're more things to laugh about, and maybe shock my way too normal, well bred children, one day.

I would describe my style as very understated. I of course like nice things (who doesn't?) but I dislike conspicuous consumption, and particularly dislike overt branding. The most valuable thing I own is actually a piece of art. (Unfortunately I can't put it on my home insurance because I am not actually supposed to own it, although I suspect that the legitimate owners haven't, and never will, miss it.)

If you are still reading, and wondering what I look like, you can with pleasure ask for my photo at the appropriate time, but I can tell you that I am 6ft tall and weigh 12 st 12lb, which is distributed in a way that fits in to a 42" jacket and 34" long leg trousers. I do not know what it says about my appearance but I have this unusual "gift" of getting chatted up by gay men! My wife accuses me of encouraging it, whatever that means. She even exhibits signs of mild jealousy when we're out together and it happens, although I just find it hilarious . Christ knows how she'd react if she found out that I was actively seeking an affair with a woman....

Ideal Partner:

What I would like, is to meet somebody with whom I can share some experiences. I'd like to meet somebody who is "interesting," somebody with whom I can have a conversation. Really. I've deliberately written a long profile because if you are just looking for a hook-up, or you're a bit dull, then you will hopefully have switched off by now.

It is probably self evident that if I was looking for somebody merely to discuss Proust or Kafka with, then I would join a book club.

However...…..

If you have a profile name which you have chosen to convey the level to which you are "up for it," horny, wet, horny AND wet, naughty, sticky(?), kinky, etc etc, or any of the myriad of names I have seen which seem to have taken inspiration from the bill of a transvestite cabaret, then, while I am sure that you will get lots of attention, (and that is absolutely fine, really) you're not really my idea of a secret lover.

Similarly, the fact that you wear stockings, or love wearing sexy lingerie sounds great, but you are not really differentiating yourself from Eddie Izzard! Surely that, can't be the most interesting thing about you?

It all looks pretty similar once it's on the floor anyway.

Other Interests:

Museums / Galleries, Music - Classical / Opera, Music - Rock, Music - World, Cricket, Football / Soccer / Rugby, Martial Arts

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