Anonymous User - 10 Sep, 2012 - 11:16PM

i feel this site is one of the better sites thats available . i joined because my partner didnt want to make love to me anymore , he said he loved me but didnt show mw any affection or tactile gestures .its not just about the lack of sex. its the fact that i was dying inside due to feeling ugly . unloved unwanted .. i have met a few amazing wonderful lovers .and if im honest i would have left my partner to be in a relationship with them .it never happened because you put the brakes on ... i have found it extremely hard to accept that it is a nsa liason when deep feelings enter into the affair . it would be easier if you met the lover at hotel . just did the deed then say bye and thats it .. so clinical ...but when you go for a meal or a walk etc go away for the weekend etc it goes just that bit deeper and can play havoc with the emotions .its so easy to fall in love ..

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playgirl999 - 10 Sep, 2012 - 07:18PM

I have met a few men off here one i was seeing for a year and a half when i first joined ie in 2009 took a break out when we met.I think we would be still seeing each other but he had things to sort out.He couldnt stay away from me.Hes still on here i miss him often.xxx

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Anonymous User - 10 Sep, 2012 - 05:02AM

The first time I met a man from IE I felt terrible guilt and even cried when I got home. I got over that and now cannot see a different way of live to what I have on IE. I have met some fantastic men and had some great experiences. There is low times when things dont work out but the highs outweigh that. Thank you IE.

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WaxLyrical - 09 Sep, 2012 - 11:52PM

I took the plunge and it has given me a new lease of life and a new outlook. After three dates with genuine guys , just not "the one" I have met a fantastic man , wonderful lover and someone who I class as a friend. He has made me feel like a woman again,sexy, intellegent and most of all loved. We are nine months into a passionate affair and it feels fantastic. I'm so glad we found each other . Never give up hope.
Good Luck x.

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Anonymous User - 09 Sep, 2012 - 03:27PM

I have had an on off relationship with a truly wonderful man. It has been going for 5 years. We stopped seeing each other but 3 years later we got back in touch...we need each other in out lives.....Ia it Love? ....we can't be together but having each other in our lives makes everything worthwhile......maybe one day we shall be together but for now we are not prepared to break up homes ot cause distress to anyone.....
For anyone contemplating taking this step...it is worth it....you never know you you may meet to change your life forever....

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the sassy sirena - 09 Sep, 2012 - 01:15AM

It is wonderful when you first set out on this new turn in the road but be careful as there are those who will say what they think you want to hear and really they just enjoy the cat and mouse game. Dont open your heart up too easily is my advice to anyone new as its meant to be an affair/ an extra to your life not a new life partner.

We all have our reasons we have justified to ourselves but just be extra careful not to put warning signals up to family and friends.

Anyway I like to present a balanced opinion on a topic and can honestly say that I am happier than I was before, was very confused and met a guy who in a short space of time introduced me to all sorts of naughtyness. He dissappeared another came along, it fizzled out and so life goes on..

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Anonymous User - 09 Sep, 2012 - 12:59AM

When I first joinned IE,I was feeling very lonely in my own marriage.I've been married for 22 years and I as far as marriage goes it was almost over for me but I felt terrible guilty about betraying my husband and crossing that thin line.But I was feeling so desperate that I took a chance and it was and still is one of the best decision I have made.I've met this wonderful man and he really has brought out the best of me.Thanks IE for this wonderful opportunity and I can honestly say that I have not regrets.xx

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Anonymous User - 08 Sep, 2012 - 05:00PM

I very much agree with many of the comments on here. It's not an easy decision to make and I'm sure that I'm not the only one to have had doubts, occasional cold feet and feelings of guilt. But, having found an absolutely lovely guy on here and experiencing the happiness that's given me, which has in turn helped me to live within the confines of my day to day life...it's made my life happier and I like to think I bring a bit of happiness into my ie partner's life too and that can't be a bad thing. I really enjoy reading the letters as it's so heart warming to read other people's views and thoughts and happy endings...gives us all hope I think and lets us know we're not alone in how we feel. Best wishes to everyone on here and good luck to those looking for their someone special!

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tucktos - 08 Sep, 2012 - 03:34PM

I'm here still looking for the great person to be with me ;) so keep trying with patience..

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ladyjac - 08 Sep, 2012 - 02:16PM

Hi I too had to come to a decision in my life, and like the member I made the same decision. I was extremely fortunate to meet a wonderful man on here and I had 2 great years with him until he emigrated but I have no regrets, he made me a better person, in a strange way he made my home life better as I had him it was like leading 2 seperate lives. So now I have returned to see if I can be lucky a second time

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Anonymous User - 08 Sep, 2012 - 10:32AM

Please dont give up on your journey to find your soul mate.
I have found the best guy in the world,we met on ie some yrs ago...
he is my best friend and lover....he has helped me find the real me....what would i do without him.
Good Luck!!!

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TPHD - 08 Sep, 2012 - 09:29AM

It is the things we don't do that will be a cause of regret as much as the things we do, might have done better or not done at all. We all make mistakes, are occasionally dishonest or otherwise act in ways that give rise to guilt or regret - relationships are complex so this is inevitable. Perhaps having successful relationships is based on the ability to reconcile your own legitimate self interest with the interests of others. How do you do that? Well for me it starts with learning to see the world from more than one viewpoint, from more than your own limited set of beliefs, hopes fears and assorted motivations. Where does it end? Well for me...

"Regrets I've had a few but then again too few to mention" I prefer the Sex Pistols version.

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Anonymous User - 08 Sep, 2012 - 12:58AM

I dont think anyone gets away at the start unscathed from guilt but it does truly get better i myself met a wonderful man through ie.
life is short and i think we should all grasp what WE want every now and again without hurting others or being entirly selfish
I wish everyone on ie a wonderful experience dont give up he is out there somewhere looking for the same thing x x

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beverley262 - 07 Sep, 2012 - 10:07PM

Couldn`t have put it better myself

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Anonymous User - 07 Sep, 2012 - 09:21PM

I have been on ie for almost 6 mths now and like the letter writer above did not tread lighyly into this , but after giving it a lot of thought decided to go ahead and I can honestly say without hesitation it was one of my better decision , having met some really nice genuine respectful men and fallen into a beautiful relationship with one which is ongoing , and I believe it has enhanced my marriage in many ways , what could be nicer than receiving a sexy text or flirty e mail during the day to give your heart a little flutter , dont get me wrong at first I did feel guilt but decided I can live with it as it's better than living with regret so thanks ie for the opportunity to feel wanted,loved and sexy again

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mistressprowess - 07 Sep, 2012 - 09:18PM

I really enjoy reading the letters that filter through to Sara , especially when they are so thoughtfully written. Thank you for sharing your reflection on life's situation of why we are all here and wish you success in finding the perfect person to enhance your life with for the forthcoming future. L x

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