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Dear Sara,

Firstly, let me congratulate you on the concept and execution of IE. Where quality and usability is concerned, the site sets a uniquely high standard.

As I'm sure many users are aware, there is now an abundance of dating sites out there that have become spammed with an exorbitant amount of people as a result of affiliate programmes.

Sites that belong to such programmes work on the supposition of quantity rather than quality. Sign up to any one of them and you'll be presented with the same selection of people under a slightly different guise with each web domain clicked on.

In relative terms the volume of potential partners at IE is respectively much smaller, however, we can be confident that there are genuine (and sometimes weirdly fascinating) real people behind the profiles that are put forward to us with each filter.

In the short few weeks that I have been at IE I've been fortunate enough to have met a handful of women. I won't bore you with the details on this occasion; however, I can say for certain that I was not anticipating a potential fatal attraction and a closet dominatrix to be on my case!

In extreme contrast I have also met some lovely people from various scales along the social spectrum. I have found that there is certainly comfort and chemistry with familiarity, although the saying 'opposites attract' has yet to ring true for me.

I'm grateful thus far and have enjoyed this short stint at IE, however, I do feel that I am at a huge disadvantAGE here! Had I taken the time to browse profiles before committing to membership it would have become apparent that I may just be too young at the present time for IE.

They say age is just a number, or that age is an issue of mind over matter "if you don't mind, it doesn't matter". Be that as it may, age and that elusive number appear to be quite a big deal for many a woman at IE.

I am 28 years old, I'm assuredly wise beyond my years but definitely not old beyond my time! Finding a woman seeking a man under the age of 30 or 35 has proven to be quite the challenge. I've contemplated adding an additional two years, and confidently I could pull it off verbally and mentally, but physically, that youthful look in my eyes could not facilitate even the tiniest of white lies.

Sadly, without the abundance of 'Mrs Robinsons' I may have hoped to find there is limited incentive to continue my membership here at the present time, so I will bow out gracefully on expiration date, but I'm in no doubt that one day I'll be back!

Thank You

JackHancock

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Comments (15)

Anonymous User - 10 Sep, 2012 - 09:05AM At sixteen years of age I was extremely staid, I would not have recognised the ME I am now. I imagine I will have undergone another transition by the time I am fifty six, who knows. In the meantime I make hay Like
Anonymous User - 09 Sep, 2012 - 10:19PM Dear thirty six year old, Just wait till you're fifty six years old! xx Like
Anonymous User - 09 Sep, 2012 - 01:22PM I am thirty six. For me an older chap is the ideal, in fact I can get very turned on by a man of mature years, by that I mean mid forties and up. I am however very picky about those who are closer to my own age and I am afraid it is a complete no-no for those younger than me. I think you are probably aware of the kind of attitudes young guys have in respect of older women. At best, I would be what they would see as a MILF (though mother I am not!). Even less flattering to my self-esteem of course would be the idea I am a cougar, gumming to get at their tender young flesh. You know, I find it hard to live with the idea of interacting with someone who feels he is doing me a favour and I criiiiiinge at the very thought that a chap would expect me to be grateful for his (generally rather immature) services. A lot of emphasis is put on "stamina", well, let me say, I am a healthy gal and not much in the way of stamina is required for me to enjoy myself once I am turned on! Like
EbonyDesires - 09 Sep, 2012 - 07:57AM It is ashame. But I agree with the poster who said about the unreliable nature of younger guys on here. I can only speak from my experience, but guys in even their 30's have turned out to be very fickle, as they have many women talking to them, but tell too many of them they they 'want' them. I am 30, but my best dates have been with guys around the 40's. That's not to say that how the bigger picture is. This is just my personal experience. I am sure the gentleman who wrote this letter has had more than his fair share of cougars chasing his young tail :) hehe x Like
Anonymous User - 07 Sep, 2012 - 03:00PM Afraid to say I have found the younger guys on here to be totally inreliable - making arrangements to meet the simply disappearing into the blue yonder. I duly upped my age group search and although I am still contacted by some young ones, I just potitely decline!! Like
Anonymous User - 07 Sep, 2012 - 08:01AM A comment from a new woman member of IE. As soon as my profile was posted, I received so many really pleasant/intelligent/funny/sexy messages. I replied to them all. And many interesting conversations have begun. Now, I'm not used to this!!! I'm used to not getting any sort of answer from my husband when I speak. It's really nice, guys, and thank you all! Men that respond... amazing. I'm going to have my first Encounter next week with complete confidence. Like
Aelius - 06 Sep, 2012 - 11:08PM Can't help it - I'm going to have to put my twopenny worth in again. When I was in my mid to late twenties I had little problem in finding 'older' more experienced ladies to indulge my fantasies with while still having regular girlfriends. Sites like this obviously didn't exist, christ the world wide t'internet didn't exist. So I have to ask a very naive question what are you doing on here? Why aren't you out about in the big wide-world cougar hunting? I know why I'm here, I'm past my sell by date and trying to hold a conversation with a lady while the latest nonsensical rap-crap is blaring out across the dance floor/night club/pub whatever just ain't my thing. I'm missing something here and it's confusing me ... now if only I was 28 again:) Like
Pinkii - 06 Sep, 2012 - 08:45PM Ha ha ha prepared to be inundated with 'older' ladies....was that the plan? :) Like
captain883 - 05 Sep, 2012 - 07:24PM What an open approach. As a worldy wise chap in his mid-fifties I have been pleased at the pleasant people you have here. Whilst discretion is the key it is heart warming to be able to feed back the ease by which one "clicks" at an initial meet up when a lot (on both sides) is at stake. Our 28 year old Jane should log in once to the more open sites, all American based, to see and sort out the (no doubt faked) stud of the month sorts that flaunt themselves there. You'll be back. North Kent fellow Like
Aelius - 05 Sep, 2012 - 07:11PM Robwestsussex - my earlier (Anonymous User) point exactly. I'm still laughing now. Like
Anonymous User - 05 Sep, 2012 - 05:15PM Any publicity is good publicity I suppose, especially when your membership fee is running out! Like
eridmus - 05 Sep, 2012 - 05:03PM I wouldnt get down beat about it, there are lots of differing age groups, and im sure that there are a few woman that are seeking someone in your age group, chin up and keep looking, hopefully someone will pop up. Like
robwestsussex - 05 Sep, 2012 - 04:50PM Don't get this letter,the author has been on here a few short weeks but has already met a handful of women and then complains about how hard he is finding it to meet ladies as he is too young...just a few days after the cougar letter,making me smile anyway;) Like
Anonymous User - 05 Sep, 2012 - 04:02PM Notice the cougar mentions young men in their thirties, twenties is a generally a decade closer! Like
Anonymous User - 05 Sep, 2012 - 03:26PM What? I'm confused. Aren't you exactly what the cougar ordered? Like