barnstapleman - 12 Sep, 2012 - 03:38PM

KISSING, is the most passionate thing i find more so perhaps when it is done right than the sex act its self, when it grows into a snog well i find that some woman swoon an old saying meaning to faint, to be overwhelmed by ecstatic and joy, according to the dictionary, im lucky to have been able to swoon a few woman and that has given me great pleasure

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Anonymous User - 05 Sep, 2012 - 08:01AM

I was saying...this site shouldnt only be about sex. I cant speak for the men but some of us women are looking purely for romance.

I had a marriage of convenience through the family and in over 25years as i never was and still am not attracted to my husband although he is a very nice person. When it comes to kissing, we have only had a quick kiss possibly about 20 times in all these years. Kissing is not easy to do with someone you are not attracted to.

It is really dissapointing when some men come on this site to play thier games and pretend they are looking for a relationship or something longer term or meaningful, when really they are only after a one night stand.

This is why when we are genuine, we are so cautious and hesistant to meet up or go furhter. Because of a previous bad experience on here. So please understand that!

I think some of the men on here should just pay for it. As that is all they deserve. You know who you are!

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Anonymous User - 04 Sep, 2012 - 02:52PM

I have met two wonderful men on this site... The first, OOOOOh the passion,the depth of kissing and looking at him straight it the eyes as you do it... brings him to life on all levels. Even just to lay in the dark and to kiss blind,try placing some popping candy in your mouth just before you kiss.
The second.... had not kissed with tongues for four years, HE DOES NOW. Have fun everyone.

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silver__foxman - 30 Aug, 2012 - 12:53PM

Kissing is more passionate that actual sex I think. Its like the starter of any meal, the side dish of the mains and desert also.

The sensations from a full on lip-locked kiss are just - like - WOW.

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Anonymous User - 30 Aug, 2012 - 10:31AM

Sadly, I empathise with deepest-secret as I felt the same when I read this letter. Im 38 years old and cant recall when I was last kissed; over 5 years ago. I feel terribly envious when I see others locked in a passionate embrace. It affects you in many ways for eg, if Im watching a film that contains romantic or sexy scenes, I often walk out of the room as it only reinforces what's missing from my marriage. We never go away for romantic weekends and I avoid holidays. It makes you feel inadequate and half a person. Hence, I find myself here in the hope I will find a very special gentleman who, so far, is proving to be very elusive.

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deepest-secret - 30 Aug, 2012 - 08:03AM

Reading this thread has brought a lump to my throat -- because I am married to someone who doesn't kiss. Just refuses. The best I can hope for is a peck, a bit like a teenage boy would give his great aunt. Other than that its zip.

I've always thought that sex without kissing is a bit like watching a DVD with the sound switched off. But reading this has made me realise that kissing isn't just a prelude to what might follow, its the main attraction.

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kentgent50 - 29 Aug, 2012 - 08:38PM

kissing is fantastic, it can be electric, it can sexual, and passionate. i love it.

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Aelius - 28 Aug, 2012 - 09:13PM

A kiss, is a kiss, is a kiss …. er no!
Kissing is one of those unique human traits that can say and impart so many things and yet can also say so little. A flirtatious peck can say, thank you, no thank you, bye, hello or that's all you're getting. A full on passionate lip-massageing embrace can mean exactly the same things!

Who'd have thought it: a hundred and one ways of saying yes that could actually mean no:) Aren't we a funny but amazingly interesting species.

As for the quality I can honestly say that I've never met a bad women kisser. Different yes, some steamy, some tepid but everyone one of them enjoyable in their own way. Now I don't profess to be a master myself, modesty forbids me to elevate myself beyond 'he's okay' but I do love the kiss in all it's forms and motives, it's fun to kiss and be kissed - nuff said!

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Anonymous User - 28 Aug, 2012 - 04:42PM

Kissing - love it! Although I refuse to do the teenager-ish thing of full snogging in the street, its pretty disgusting IMHO. Much better, in public, to go for a cheek kiss or a quick kiss on the lips. In private however, let the lips roam free and the kissing be long and sensual!

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CoKo21 - 28 Aug, 2012 - 02:49PM

Kissing, as pretty much everyone writing on this topic seems to agree,is wonderful and a great precusor to other things. With one lover - before we became lovers - I simply had to stop in the middle of the street for our first kiss. It was but a gentle meeting of closed lips. But I found him and his conversation so devastatingly attractive that I could not wait a moment longer to feel his soft lips against mine.

But kissing has also undone a relationship before it got off the ground. I had lunch with a very nice man - conversation flowed, there were discreet little touches, all boded well. However, when we left and he asked to kiss me - and I agreed - in the middle of a crowded public street he devoured me on the spot. I was prepared for a gentle brushing of lips, only to have a tongue thrust half-ay down my throat. It was an instant turn-off and put paid to my wanting to go any further. In retrospect, however, I appreciate it was probably a measure of the guy's sex-starvedness. Any encouragement from me was deemed to give him the ultimate license.
For me, kissing in public should be relatively chaste. But kissing behind closed doors, that's another matter entirely!!

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Anonymous User - 27 Aug, 2012 - 11:05PM

To the anonymous person who replied on 27th augusts at 11.20am to my post. Thank you, it was sweet of you to care enough to reply as you did. Actually, whilst i was reading your comment, a wet tear rolled down my cheek...

Some men can be so insensitive. The guy who told me i kissed like a reptile - He sounded very bitter. I suspected his wife had left him. And after I got to know him better, I could understand why.

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Anonymous User - 27 Aug, 2012 - 08:18PM

Im constantly surprised at the number of dates Ive had where he's had bad breath. There was no hope of us ever kissing. One had an onion bagel just before we met. I smelt the pungent onion as he leaned forward to greet me; it made me recoil.

Im forever the romantic and place a lot of emphasis on a kiss. I prefer not to kiss any frogs and would rather wait for the naughty Prince Charming. Are you out there?! ;-)

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Anonymous User - 27 Aug, 2012 - 07:11PM

A kiss, a simple kiss, is that not the starting point to being intimate? And most of us have been married or living with life partners for a long time, we are used to how they kiss, what they like and what they don't, so kissing someone new is going to be a playing field neither have kissed on....... So the first kiss might not be perfect, it may be full of nervs, the other is wondering where to put hands, ect..... We shouldn't base everything on a first kiss right???? If the second kiss is not up to scratch, then move on, but a kiss is so important I think!!!

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Anonymous User - 27 Aug, 2012 - 05:40PM

Although I am now 36.... I always remember one of the first pieces of advice my mum gave me! It doesn't matter how much chemistry you may have with a person, if they can't take the time to melt you with a kiss there sure won't be any magic between the sheets!! I have since found this to be very true. Delicious tingling kisses are a must... Yummy :-)

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Dawniedotts - 27 Aug, 2012 - 12:49PM

I love kissing! The more kissing the better as far as I'm concerned...but as some on here have said, bad breath is a no no..I went on a recent date which a friend of mine had 'set up' and the guy was really nice all evening...came to the kiss and oh my goodness, he had really bad halitosis, so bad in fact that it took all my will power not to gag. He obviously really enjoyed kissing too, poor guy, and his ministrations left me smelling like his bad breath...I had to go home and scrub my face. I did feel sorry for him though as I know that halitosis is a medical condition, but come on, you can get stuff from your dentist to get rid of it surely?

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Anonymous User - 27 Aug, 2012 - 11:33AM

I once met a guy for here and we felt after hours of the wining/dining I went in for the kiss. Urgh. He rammed his tongue straight down my throat and the amount of saliva, I was put off immediately. I tried to teach him how I wanted to be kissed without words, with my lips, mouth, but it wasn't happening, I just think he hadn't been kissed in so long, he just didn't know what to do! I think a man should follow a ladies' lead. I do love tongue kissing but just not immediately when things haven't even quite warmed up with the first kiss. Let's just say I didn't see him again. Another date ended up after the said `gentleman' walking me back to my car after a pleasant lunch, basically pounced on me in the corridor, sliding his hand up my skirt and kissing me. I pulled away and got straight out of there... Shame as I rather liked him. Told him what he'd done wrong and he profusely apologised but the moment had gone.

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Anonymous User - 27 Aug, 2012 - 11:20AM

All I say to the member who hasn`nt had much experience of kissing and had two men taking the mick,don`t worry at least youve got rid of the toads and you will meet a man who understands and is more of a gent not to critisise as who is classed as a good kisser these days,what makes a good kisser.It all sorts itself in the end.

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Gentlemanjim777 - 26 Aug, 2012 - 02:11PM

As the song goes, it started with a kiss! It always starts with a kiss! Kissing to me is so under-rated, allow me to clarify, I’m not talking about a peck, the hello peck, that is nothing! although girls we all know at the right time in the right place ………… Kissing is the start of foreplay, the gentle peck on the lips, the neck, ear lobes, nose, forehead as you lover lays back with her eyes closed, back to her lips and more intense snog, back to pecking with a slight tongue, more snogging tongues, I love sucking my lovers tongue (maybe I’m a perv??), kissing the body all over, to watch the tingle, oh I could kiss forever, I love it, it represents so much! Never under estimate kissing!! Go snog and enjoy!!

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Anonymous User - 25 Aug, 2012 - 02:26PM

I met a gorgeous man on here. Unfortunatly i hadnt had many lovers and not much kissing experience. He did seem to enjoy kissing me and that would be the first thing he wished to do when we would meet. But he told me that I didnt know how to kiss and that i kiss like a reptile. He tried to teach me how to kiss. Another guy i met on here for just a first date drink that i kissed meowed when i kissed him. He thought I kissed like a cat. I think i need more practice...

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carouselgirl - 24 Aug, 2012 - 09:28PM

I’m in agreement with Marker because its the first thing I need to do before I can even contemplate taking things further. Maybe that may be a personal preference but I believe that kissing is both stimulating and an an intimate way to enjoy the pleasure of being with another :-)

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relight my fire - 24 Aug, 2012 - 12:56AM

some people really can not kiss dont like them sloppy ones that make you look like you have just wash your face in the dogs bowl.

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Marble25 - 24 Aug, 2012 - 12:22AM

Kissing ... Wow So under used ... I love to kiss and be kissed ... locking lips with someone you fancy ... well just breath taking! I suggest that every date consist's of a least one hour of kissing! I find different types of kissing works for me ... The love kiss .. long and lingering ...! the passion kiss ... hot and steamy and so on ... Im sure we can add to this list..! I love lip locking but haven't had enough of late ... any frogs need a princess to kiss ...?

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Anonymous User - 23 Aug, 2012 - 07:22PM

I agree with Anon user 21st August (23 year partner). I think that kissing is natures way of determining whether the hormones / chemistry is right with a new partner before proceeding to the full on sex stage. As its an exploratory stage in the courtship ritual its not surprising that truly passionate kissing will be absent in most long term relationships simply because the couple have advanced beyond the exploratory stage and kissing serves no further useful purpose in reproduction. Really thats what this site is all about. Re- discovering the heady romance and passion that comes with meeting a new potential mate (Even if no actual mating takes place)

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Anonymous User - 21 Aug, 2012 - 10:21PM

Must agree kissing is fantastic if done soft and sensually, give you a good idea of the pace of what is to come, when you do go to bed together. If a guy cant kiss and just sticks his tongue down your throat I want to gip, its awful, needless to say I dont see him again.

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Anonymous User - 21 Aug, 2012 - 08:06PM

Ah yes, the kiss - on a first date earlier this year, the guy in question asked, in a very gentlemanly way, if he could kiss me. He was a pleasant guy and so I said yes, what a mistake, without any hesitation he proceeded to shove his hot, fat, wet tongue, reeking of the onions he had just eaten in his salad, in my mouth it took me all my willpower not to gag. It has made me wary of future dates.

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Anonymous User - 21 Aug, 2012 - 03:13PM

I can quite honestly say that lack of kissing is the main reason I came on this site in the first place. Yes I know it sounds ridiculous but I am in a very happy marriage and do have a wonderful life but there is nothing more that turns me on than being 'Snogged to death' by a handsome man. My husband pecks at me like a bird and almost wants to stop before he starts!!...When we first met it was electric between us and we do still have a fab sex life but with no kissing!I have discussed it with him and it just seems to fall on deaf ears. I have therefore decided to do something about it. My theory on this one is that you simply cannot kiss a long term partner(23 years) and feel horny and excited in the same way as you can a lover..Am I wrong?

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marker44 - 21 Aug, 2012 - 11:47AM

I think that kissing is a great sign of chemistry. If you kiss and it all feels natural or even better it blows your socks off then you know that there is some sort of connection.

And in my opinion, it usually hints at even greater pleasures to come.

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cotter - 21 Aug, 2012 - 09:01AM

Well kissing is a must and is very much part of my profile. I love kissing and hugging this is the prelude to making love as a matter of fact it is to me making love.Kissing for the first time between to people often is the initial start of an affair and and can determine how passionate the two people will become . For me I love kissing will never get enough passion passion lovely they shoulh make a film Carry on kissing

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testthewaters70 - 21 Aug, 2012 - 08:38AM

Best kiss I ever had was through someone I met on this site. I'm not a uniform freak, but he was an airline captain and he was in uniform - about to fly off somewhere early in the morning. The smell of jet fuel hanging in the air. And he was a fabulous kisser anyway. Amazing.

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richgirl3 - 20 Aug, 2012 - 10:58PM

How interesting that after the letter the other day about people remaining anonymous,names have started to appear! Oh yes back to the subject of kissing, the initial chemistry and the much wanted butterflies come from those first kisses but lizards beware, tonsil tickling doesnt do it! xx

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Anonymous User - 20 Aug, 2012 - 10:25PM

kisses are ok - as long as the guy has good dental hygeine and no bad breath! Met a few who had bad breath and it was a complete turn off! However you have to really feel at ease with the guy you are kissing........there has to be real chemistry for it to be really good - on a 2nd date I had a month ago the guy asked if I enjoyed kissing - to which I said yes - he then proceeded to say that he only kissed pussies....to which I told him to sling his hook!

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tolabur - 20 Aug, 2012 - 05:29PM

Totally agree that kissing is wonderful and is a part of foreplay and a very important part too.
I cant help but wonder if the kissing of pussy lips is equally erotic for women or is it just that men enjoy doing it?

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EbonyDesires - 20 Aug, 2012 - 05:14PM

dominae...There are many like that guy. It's a shame. But you will find someone who can follow through AFTER the amazing kiss :)

I love to kiss. My life partner is not so keen. So kissing on dates has been nice. But has varied to how good the kiss is lol

I do not think its all in the kiss. A good kisser is a bonus. There are many other factors. But clashing teeth is the worst moment hehehe. I hate it!

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clare17 - 20 Aug, 2012 - 05:09PM

kissing. love it.
lip biting (gently!) tongue nibbling and swirling.....
eyes closed to start, then open (to see what he's doing!! lol) then closed again.
the smell of nice aftershave....
a little satisfactory smile.....

excuse me while i........ ;) lol

but i will not kiss anyone with grotty teeth and gums. ever!!!

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hippichik - 20 Aug, 2012 - 03:42PM

Sometimes a kiss is a kinda forerunner for how a man can be in bed, straight in for the tongue down the throat,always makes me think "hmm not into foreplay", however life ia s learning curve all the way along, so you could always teach a new guy how you want to be kissed.But as with all the letters, I firmly agree that kissing is fantastic and very occaisionally, with the right guy, right moment, almost orgasmic!!!Start with a good kiss in the morning, with a promise of more to come in the evening, can set you up for a day of delightful anticipation and a night to remember for ever?!!!

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ladyjac - 20 Aug, 2012 - 03:32PM

I agree with all that has been said, kissing is so erotic, sensual and not just on the lips, the neck even the hand brings me out in goose bumps, it certainly starts the juices flowing and the thought of the future sensations that hopefully will follow

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robwestsussex - 20 Aug, 2012 - 02:41PM

Reading this letter makes me think about kissing and funnily enough the person that i have most enjoyed passionate kissing with is the lady i live with now,real shame that it has gone from our relationship..a quick peck is just not the same:)

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bambi74 - 20 Aug, 2012 - 01:52PM

kissing is the first form of forplay to me, u either love or hate me, as i have my tongue pierced......... x

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Anonymous User - 20 Aug, 2012 - 01:16PM

You can tell so so much from a kiss. I love kissing but if my lover can't kiss properly then I can go no further. But what if the other has bad breath? That has to be the worst type of kiss.

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Anonymous User - 20 Aug, 2012 - 11:43AM

Oh Sara,come on girls.I've been having a whale of ime.I had some amazing dates and have been snogged to my hearts content and I have to agree with a cougar that our gentleman on IE are the kissing type and boy can some of them kiss.Heaven....I particulary like to close my eyes when he comes close to me for the kiss,it just seem to intensify the feeling.mmmmmmm

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Ash36London - 20 Aug, 2012 - 11:14AM

I completely agree. I miss kissing all over! Its amazing, its sensual its the best!

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sadiean - 20 Aug, 2012 - 10:49AM

Totally mills and boon description/ s of kisses and how it feels....... Mmmm I like. Xxx

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- 20 Aug, 2012 - 09:14AM

Oh my, yes, kissing is soooooo one of the things to get the juices flowing. It's an incredibly intimate act, we actually get to taste the other, feel the softness of their lips, the strength and slipperiness of their tongue, the eagerness of the response to our mutual invasion of the others mouth and yes, open the eyes and see the dilation of the eyes, sense the quickening of heart beats, feel the shortening of the breath. And that's before you venture away from the mouth, descend to the neck and if you get to travel further....... Bloody hell, it turns me on just thinking about it. To all you ladies out there, kissing is very under rated, kissing in all its forms is a prelude to what might follow. Yum, yum!
Loveforrent

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dominae - 20 Aug, 2012 - 08:06AM

I met a potential lover recently, sadly it came to nought brought on by his cold feet is suspect. I digress - the point is that he grabbed me in a public place and whisked me to one side for a brief but brilliant kiss. It made my day and week even, the messages followed promised a hot steamy passionate affair... I then received a message out of the blue cancelling all future contact with some excuse that his wife had found him out only to see him online again a day later.

The kiss was brilliant, the man was a complete toad. As they say you have to kiss a number of frogs ...

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