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Paula99 - 08 Mar, 2024 - 07:35PM

Bumbercatch77..

I hope your relationship is in for the logiviity and good luck …do you mind me asking you a personal question?

Are there any children in the mix ?

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R Deckard - 08 Mar, 2024 - 06:15PM

@Bumbercatch77
Haha welcome to the site!! Since my.membership lapsed I count 193 incoming messages in my inbox! The funny thing is, they all have vastly more original profile than the average genuine lady, who usually uses the "wizard"or has a two line profile.

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Bumbercatch77 - 08 Mar, 2024 - 01:03PM

I don’t think there is a secret, some people might get lucky some people won’t.

I found someone here who has become very very special to me, ironically we both left our partners and now we are a couple, but it wasn’t an easy process.

For one thing, I found the drop off in interactions after I paid the subscription to be quite shocking.

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diskret - 07 Mar, 2024 - 08:09PM

I'm in a similar situation. My initial thoughts were, maybe this is the wrong site.
Having gone away to look at some of the other offerings and their content. In doing so I was able to reach the conclusion I'm looking for something more than a one night stand.

I'm back determined to give it another go because I believe there's someone out there for me.

Cinderemma - 07 Mar, 2024 - 07:41PM

Read their profile and comment on it in your initial message as it shows you have taken an interest in what they have already stated.

That will always peak my interest at first enough to look at their profile and then take it from there.

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1575033 - 07 Mar, 2024 - 05:46PM

Just me yourself ( if you know who that is ), you need to be over 50 to even begin to know..
and if that does not work hard luck.!

1653827 - 07 Mar, 2024 - 04:59PM

Just do your own thing and revise and rework it now and then.

1650483 - 07 Mar, 2024 - 03:36PM

It’s simply patience. Enjoy the experience, engage with as many as you possibly can, and fingers crossed, you’ll definitely find someone who fancies your company. A lady I chat with recently told me she’s making a list of guys that interest her, after which she’ll take her time to make a choice. It could be same for most of them.

Remember there are more men on this platform than women, sometimes nearly twice as many. This means competition for attention is very high.

marklondonengland - 07 Mar, 2024 - 12:27PM

Put yourself in the shoes of a woman who is seeking an affair here. Does she want a guy who will endlessly be talking about his wife and problems? Does she want a guy who is endlessly insecure about what he is doing with his life? Does she want a guy who looks like he could lose 10kg without anyone noticing?

It's not rocket science is it? Most women are here because they are missing the passion and excitement of feeling desired. That means you need to be eloquent enough to interest them and you also need to be interesting - beyond the initial chat. If you can offer someone the occasional escape into a different world then you will get some responses. If all you are offering is a need for unpaid therapy then keep counting the tumbleweed as it passes by...

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TJJ89_fun - 07 Mar, 2024 - 10:00AM

I suppose one thing to consider is that people aren’t just here for a shag, most are here for a proper affair that they enjoy as an escape from normality. People tend to be a bit more picky about that sort of thing and you can’t blame them! Keep going my friend and hopefully you find what you’re looking for!

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